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Postby FYI » Fri Dec 01, 2017 10:54 am

Does getting sober and having a spiritual awaking, change your mind on what makes you happy.

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Re: Happiness?

Postby avaneesh912 » Fri Dec 01, 2017 1:17 pm

Happiness and sadness is something the mind labels each event. I do derive joy when new comers gets excited and jump into the program and take charge of the recovery.
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Re: Happiness?

Postby Brock » Sat Dec 02, 2017 6:47 am

As a practicing alcoholic, I believed happiness would be lots of money, which would buy fine things, including unlimited drinks. That people would mind their own business and not tell me what to do, and as it says in ‘How it Works’ do what I want them to do - “If his arrangements would only stay put, if only people would do as he wished, the show would be great. Everybody, including himself, would be pleased. Life would be wonderful.”

With the spiritual development that the AA program offers things have changed, gratitude for simple things in life has replaced my dreams of being #1.There is little fear and worry about the past or future and more living in the present, less caring about what people say and just wishing the best for everyone. I often close my contribution at meetings by saying I have never been happier.
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Re: Happiness?

Postby Mike O » Sun Dec 03, 2017 5:20 am

When I was drinking, I was happy when everything was working out exactly as I would want it to, and everyone was exactly as I wanted them to be. As you might imagine, I was very rarely happy. So, I drank and, initially, this made me happy, or at least I forgot for a while why I was unhappy.

Now, sober, I have no need to depend on other people behaving as I would want them to, in order for me to be happy. I still have a tendency to want things to align themselves with my preset patterns for life, but I work on this daily, through application of the 12 step principles in all my affairs. I can still be happy, even if things and folk are not totally as I would have them be.

It worked for me.
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Re: Happiness?

Postby positrac » Mon Dec 04, 2017 3:54 am

When I drank I was somewhat happy because I could mask my situation and eventually that didn't work and I wanted to die.

In sobriety I have lived through a lot of not yets the program and members told me about and most of those were long after I had years of sobriety and had gotten married. Happiness as I see it in the mind of the beholder and I have swings of good healthy happiness and some depression. I work to try and limit my vocal points of my feelings and keep my down times to myself. Those who know me can tell if I am overly quiet then I am in a place and they sometimes get me joking around to lighten up and I do and yet it is all in my time and a good nights rest for me to bounce back. I believe my worst day sober is far easier than any of my drunk and hung-over days and I didn't need to go get drunk because the world didn't suit my fancy once I really got serious about living sober.
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Re: Happiness?

Postby Blue Moon » Mon Dec 04, 2017 3:06 pm

When I sobered up, it dawned on me that there's a difference between happiness and serenity, or peace of mind.

Some people are so happy that they will never be released from the psych ward. So for a free life, there's more to it than just being happy. It's all about being OK with self, be it in times of happiness or grief.
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Re: Happiness?

Postby Roberth » Wed Dec 06, 2017 9:53 am

I found something better......acceptance an and piece of mind
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Re: Happiness?

Postby Layne » Wed Dec 06, 2017 10:01 am

I am with Blue Moon and Roberth.
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Re: Happiness?

Postby Tosh » Sun Dec 10, 2017 2:36 pm

FYI wrote:Does getting sober and having a spiritual awaking, change your mind on what makes you happy.

The forums will from time to time put up topics like this, in the hope that members will find them interesting enough to start a discussion.

The first thing an alkie in A.A. asks for isn't happiness, it's serenity.

And what do you mean by 'happiness'? Happiness for me used to be going to a party, getting a new car, getting a new woman, getting a promotion, but when I look closer I think I was confusing euphoria with happiness. And euphoria wasn't good for me; it also drove me to drink. Euphoria feels like anxiety, but with a different kind of thinking attached to the feeling.

Now my concept of happiness is having SOME serenity, because quite often I'm not serene at all. :shock:
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