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question on sponsership.

Postby marthamaree » Tue Nov 07, 2017 11:16 pm

Does everyone have a sponser? Who and how did you ask?
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Re: question on sponsership.

Postby avaneesh912 » Wed Nov 08, 2017 4:05 am

One definitely needs someone in the beginning to help us understand how the process works. Moreover we need a person to help us highlight our short-comings/character defects. Most balk at that step.But the book is very clear about it.

There is a pamphlet that AA publishes that describes the role of the sponsor.

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How do you go about finding one? Usually in meetings around where I go, they ask people to raise their hands who are willing to sponsor people. If not, you can ask during your share if there are any person willing to guide you through the steps.

As a last resort there are is always sponsors available through e-aa.org.

I would also suggest that you download some of the workshops on the big book freely available online, just so you can get oriented with the steps.
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Re: question on sponsership.

Postby Caretaker » Wed Nov 08, 2017 4:12 am

Good question. I don't have one yet but I'm only 6 days sober. In the meetings I've been hearing the words "nice and easy" and "turn it over to God". So I'm thinking in the right time God will show us who it is or who to ask. I'm a "Make things happen " kind of girl so this "let go and let God" thing is hard stuff!! Lol! Do you have someone in mind? If so ask her that could be God prompting you. Good luck Martha:)
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Re: question on sponsership.

Postby PaigeB » Wed Nov 08, 2017 11:31 am

I was told to go to a lot of different meeting and then pick someone who had what I wanted. In my case it was a woman who had daily life struggles, but seemed to be using the program to effectively deal with those things. I was told to watch for someone who had been through the Steps and talked about the Steps in meetings.

Then I just walked up to her and asked her. We met once to discuss sponsorship and decide if working together seemed like the "next right thing". I have women call me on the phone and set up a time to meet and discuss sponsorship. Some of those I went on to sponsor and others I have not.

For me, the wrong way to do it was to NOT do it.
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Re: question on sponsership.

Postby Roberth » Wed Nov 08, 2017 12:05 pm

Hello Marthamaree, My name is Robert and I am a Los Angeles area alcoholic. I would suggest that you have a sponsor. I don’t know too many that were successful without one for at least the beginning.
They say when the student is ready the teacher will appear. I didn’t pick my sponsor, he picked me. I was talking to him about AA and the next thing I knew he told me “as your sponsor I will not tell you what to do but rather what I would do” and he walked away before I could say anything.
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Re: question on sponsership.

Postby ODAAT » Wed Nov 08, 2017 7:36 pm

AA informs from a survey that 82% of the members have a sponsor. 74% got a sponsor within 90 days.

I considered asking a few people based on their sharing in meetings. I just asked my chosen sponsor candidate. It took me 10-12 months to do it. An exemplar of a grateful alcoholic, my first sponsor was very crucial to my sobriety.
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Re: question on sponsership.

Postby marthamaree » Thu Nov 09, 2017 12:01 am

thanks everyone. That will be my next step.
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