Ah, man I spent a long time discussing this kind of stuff with my alcohol counsellor and still drank for another two years. Triggers!!! Being conscious is a trigger; I drank often to oblivion to try and avoid that one.StayingInTouch wrote: What are some good informative sites or sections about how to deal with cravings?
Once you have had several days off the booze, you will have detoxified, and there will be no physical reason why you should crave alcohol. This confused me, because even 3 months from my last drink I still craved alcohol, but this was really the mental obsession that was so strong, it felt physical.
Now, this may seem strange, but the root of the problem is not the booze, the real problem is the way we feel when we're sober. The Big Book describes it well as being 'restless, irritable, and discontented'. This is the problem - our feelings when we're stone cold sober. Feelings can be immensely powerful; feelings create intentions which manifest into actions. For example when we're hungry, we create an intention to eat and we end up eating. And when we're an alcoholic trying to stay sober, feeling negative can drive us to drink; it's not easy in the early days; we know.
So, we have a spiritual program of recovery which is designed to treat the problem at it's root; it treats what it describes (weirdly I know) as the 'spiritual malady' which manifests itself in that feeling of being restless, irritable, and discontented'. Treat that feeling with the 12 Step program, get some measure of peace and contentment - and we need never drink again. Why should we? We drank to get a sense of ease and comfort, so if we can get that without the booze, and all the negative consequences that came with it, why the heck would we pick up a drink?
Many in A.A. just use G.O.D (Group of Drunks) - the A.A. Group - as their higher power. Why not start with that one? There's various topics on this forum discussing this, and we don't all tow the party line either. Atheists, such as myself, can and do the 12 Steps and receive the transformational effect in our lives. Through going through the process under the guidance of a sponsor (mine's a committed Christian BTW, but he has NEVER evangelised to me) I have cleared the wreckage of my past and live a whole new way of life. I don't mean this to sound like some 'high-brow' thing; it's not, but to fully understand you have to experience it for yourself. Please keep an open mind.StayingInTouch wrote: I'm not interested in the HP aspect, it isn't for me.
There is no pressure to conform other than what you put yourself under. Unless someone is holding a gun to your head, the only pressure you feel is what you create yourself. Oh, and A.A. has a great history of people who 'do not conform'; have a google for Jim Burwell and have a read about him. A.A. may not have survived it's early years if it wasn't for that particular non conformist. We are a spiritual organisation, not religious, A.A. welcomes all who have a desire to stop drinking.StayingInTouch wrote: I agree with group support, but to much pressure to conform. Suggestions?
I hope some of that helps. And please keep on asking questions.