Where does the 90 days come from?

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Congrats, Hanna,

The Joy of Living is to see others beginning the journey on this Road of Happy Destiny

Just keep it doing what you're doing one day at a time because, Hey, it got you where you are, right? We don't mess with success :)

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Thank you Tommy, the support I get here is what got me here-90 days :D
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Congratulations!!! Big big big hugs!!!! Wish I could be there to give it to you!!

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hearts and flowers,

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Wow, I've been to meetings where people got a 90 day chip, I never thought I would ever be able to get this far. Thank you Ann, this means alot to me. I realize now that I am just begining and I only have today, so that's where I'm keeping it- one day at a time.
Love & hugs and thanks for the coffee, I needed it :D
Grateful,
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i went to my first AA meeting in 1982- back then there were treatment centers
all over the place- AA was/is alive and well in my neck of the woods and
every so often we'd listen to someone just blast hazelton like it was the devil-
i never have understood the fear some people have of treatment centers
harming AA - but they do- the fear is real-- every one i ever had any encounter with- including HZ-
spent the entire time plugging AA - telling patients to go to meetings.
my first sponsor taught me - what difference does it make where the idea
of 90/90 came from??? it's a darn good idea- the Big Book is not
the only source of good ideas- i appreciate some think that statement is
unacceptable- but it sure is my experience.

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I identified with this share, copied below.

When I came around, I was helped by those who told me to make 90 meetings in 90 days. It doesn't matter to me where "90/90" came from. By going to meetings, I began to see that others in the rooms where staying sober, a day at a time. You gave me hope, and I clung to that hope early on. I felt a little less scared in a meeting than outside a meeting.

I did read the BB in my early days of recovery. In fact, I kept my BB either in my bed or my night table. Yes, I used and was helped by other literature, published by AAWS and literature published elsewhere. I must have done something right, at least for myself, because I have stayed sober. Will what I did work for you, perhaps not. I get that. Speaking of my f2f meetings and perhaps also online, I believe that there is enough diversity in both places that if I can not help you, there will be someone who can. So just as every so often someone encourages their sponsee or grand-sponsee to talk to me, I will encourage a newcomer to talk to someone else or take them to another meeting where I think that there are people who can help them.

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kettle wrote:i went to my first AA meeting in 1982- back then there were treatment centers
all over the place- AA was/is alive and well in my neck of the woods and
every so often we'd listen to someone just blast hazelton like it was the devil-
i never have understood the fear some people have of treatment centers
harming AA - but they do- the fear is real-- every one i ever had any encounter with- including HZ-
spent the entire time plugging AA - telling patients to go to meetings.
my first sponsor taught me - what difference does it make where the idea
of 90/90 came from??? it's a darn good idea- the Big Book is not
the only source of good ideas- i appreciate some think that statement is
unacceptable- but it sure is my experience.
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i dunno how i feel about 90 in 90. its definitely not a bad thing though i want to make that clear. i just so often hear people talk about it like all you have to do it go to 90 in 90 and you will stay sober. not true. meetings alone will not keep the real alcoholic sober. so yeah, i mean its good to go to 90 in 90, but definitely not a requirement. i dont think that we should drop everything to make sure we get to 90 in 90.

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Great point Ryan... "WE are like "Men who have lost their legs: they never grow new ones' (BB, pg 30)

The delusion I can drink like others has to smashed... I got this Alcoholism for life, But I also have AA, one day at a time, for Life, too. No graduating :0

Thanks for sharing... Keep it one day at a time

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90 and 90 was my first commitment to the AA program, as selfish it was, and have kept with it since
I was one of the few lucky one who my first meeting, now my home group, had 5 meetings a day.

This city has meetings all over town
I lived about 15 miles from town, but once in town,
I could easily make more than 1 meeting a day, hang'n onto my RearEnd

After 90 n 90 ?? One meeting a day is still part of my routine,
Either f2f, online, grapevine, etc... Why ? Why Not !

I just returned from our group’s DOS birthday mtg
Being we have 5 meetings a day, plenty of members shared their journey and received coins
5min for intros, 10 min for the B-day person, I got to do the timer tonight. (3 hours together)

Tears, Hope, Joy, Freedom, Spiritual, Love, Forgiveness… The room was filled
The Pot-Luck prior, and the Cake after. Family
There is Hope, Todd M
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http://www.e-aa.org/group_seventh.php

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Great stuff, Todd... Love Birthday Night, particularly when family is there :)
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I think 90 meetings in 90 days is somewhat of a "Treatment" thing. It's the idea that get spread in rooms that mass meeting attendance is the key to soberity. I did 90 in 90 a bunch of times. When I finally got sober, it was on 3 meetings a week.... I know, people are gasping. Meetings are not the treatment, the steps are. I would do my meeting for an hour, and be sort of okay during it. Then go home and be a basket case for 23 hours. This is no ones fault. But I, myself, push the steps. I tell people you can go to meetings around the clock, but if you do not get in those steps..... You will drink.

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I drank everyday so, for a while, I needed a meeting everyday. Suggestions are good for seeing what fits. Glad you are here jimbo!
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The basic text of Narcotics Anonymous, page 53...

"A meeting a day for at least the first ninety days of recovery is a good idea." Guess that sounded good to some AAs too.

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Interesting discussion -- thanks to all for their input.

I found the 90 in 90 very good advice. Early in one's sobriety I think it is important to go to meetings not just to begin learing the program and to meet people, but, to get many different perspectives. Let's face it -- some meetings are better than others, and a newcomer could easily become discouraged and not stick around if the first couple of meetings that they attend are dogs.

I would even go as far as to say "try do 90 meetings in 90 days and then another 90 in 90". There's nothing in the program that will hurt you and breaking old habits helped when you try and also form new and better habits.

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Hi,

Not done any research on this, not particularly inclined to but have heard (cant remember where but like it and it appeals to my internal logic) it takes 40 days to break a habit and 90 to learn a new one....

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