I brushed that off as her trying to justify her own phone habits, however, my wife and myself sometimes wonder if it’s selfish or just a product of age, to miss family gatherings, or politely refuse invitations to certain functions or outings, simply because we don’t enjoy them. The days of going along to please others, and smiling even when you are not having a good time, are over for me, and I sort of justify that by thinking that acting is something practicing alcoholics do, like in the chapter ‘Into Action’ -
So now that we are recovered, is it OK to politely turn down invitations, even if it’s to some family gathering or outing, (even AA), which we don’t enjoy? I think there are few ‘musts’ in life, and having to act like you are having a good time, is not one of them.More than most people, the alcoholic leads a double life. He is very much the actor. To the outer world he presents his stage character. This is the one he likes his fellows to see.