Being sober, how do we express our anger, impatience, and displeasure, without actually getting angry!
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If we were to live, we had to be free of anger. The grouch and the brainstorm were not for us. They may be the dubious luxury of normal men, but for alcoholics these things are poison.
We turned back to the list, for it held the key to the future. We were prepared to look at it from an entirely different angle. We began to see that the world and its people really dominated us. In that state, the wrong-doing of others, fancied or real, had power to actually kill. How could we escape? We saw that these resentments must be mastered, but how? We could not wish them away any more than alcohol.
This was our course: We realized that the people who wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick. Though we did not like their symptoms and the way these disturbed us, they, like ourselves, were sick too. We asked God to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. When a person offended we said to ourselves, "This is a sick man. How can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry. Thy will be done."
We avoid retaliation or argument. We wouldn't treat sick people that way. If we do, we destroy our chance of being helpful. We cannot be helpful to all people, but at least God will show us how to take a kindly and tolerant view of each and every one. BB 66-67
...stick your hand out and TELL HER...you are allowed to stand up for yourself... if she gets offended...thats her problem...tell her straight out...If I am not speaking up and being honest the behavior will continue...if I need to be a little rude I am.
...problem arises when you raise your voice and your tone will show that you are coming at her at a angry place.
Being sober, how do we express our anger, impatience, and displeasure, without actually getting angry!
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