I don't think its about making someone share the way anyone thinks they should, but WE are at an AA meeting, Lest We Forget. When I don't hear anything about God, the Steps, the Big Book, Spirituality or anything to do with recovery from Alcoholism, at the end of that AA meeting I end up asking myself why the hell I went there? I felt better before I went!! lol
There was a time before the Treatment Centers jargon, before we found ourselves sitting and listening to the same ones who went back out again, got drunk and are now back in again. When offering the Solution in the Big Book to these people, they don't want it.... because they learned to sit in a circle at the detox or treatment center and talk about what was bothering them that day.
When I first came into AA, they shared with me that it didn't matter worth a dime what was bothering me that day or any other day. Because I had ONE problem and the solution to that problem was at the AA meetings and all I had to do was sit up front and listen, identify and do not compare, get a Big Book and read it, get a Phone list, a Meeting list book and then just don't drink, suit up and show up the next night, at another AA meeting.
Feelings? I had a lot of feelings when I came into AA, I was ticked off, lonely, I was scared out of my mind, lost, and anxious as hell. What was shared with me is to sit down, and listen, if I had any questions to ask an AA member after the meeting...... because they weren't there to save me from feeling bad, they were there to save my ass.....literally.
What I heard at those early AA meetings was exactly what I needed to hear so that I could stay OUT of my own head and listen to those share who knew how to stay sober, because that AA group stuck with AA Topics and recovered Alcoholics who knew how to live life on life's terms. Every single AA meeting that I left when I was a newcomer, I left filled with HOPE.
The AA group wasn't listening to an entire meeting full of poor poor me, or quitting smoking... they were listening to genuine AA.
We had a large list of Topics to choose from, still do, that kept the focus on WHY WE WERE THERE......for example: Acceptance, Attitude of gratitude, Belief in a Higher Power, Complacency, Contempt prior to investigation, Keep it simple, Fear, Forgiveness, Freedom through sobriety, Hope, Humility, Identification, Inventory, Letting go of anger, Living one day at a time, Making amends, Meditation, Open-mindedness, Resentments, Responsibility, Rigorous honesty, Serenity, Service, Sponsorship, Staying away from the first drink, Surrender, Twelfth Stepping, What is sobriety, Willingness, and Working with others!
The above is a very short list of what we had then to choose from, and its grown very much over the years. The topics that are genuine AA are endless! And our AA meetings are very much the same as Lali described and we make sure that as an AA group, WE take responsibility and are accountable for how the AA Group meeting is conducted and its conducted according to those 12 Steps and 12 Traditions. Our AA group is now celebrating 56 years of keeping those AA doors open and reaching out to help those have lost the ability to choose to NOT drink....
One day at a time, One step at a time.
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Failed 12 Step Call? Not if we walk away sober!