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PostPosted: Tue May 24, 2016 9:57 am
by Deskdad
Hi everyone. I''m an alcoholic. I came to this realization 3 years ago (I'm 43) and have been battling it since. I have come close to losing everything - job, kids, money, relationships. Got into some legal trouble. Hoping to receive and offer some advice and support. Day one starts again today. Longest I've went was too weeks.

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PostPosted: Tue May 24, 2016 10:08 am
by PaigeB
Welcome Deskdad! When I came back to AA in my 40's I was finally ready. I knew though, that I would have to go to AA if I wanted any kind of long term sobriety. This was NOT about self esteem, not playmates & playgrounds or even willpower. I have a deadly disease and that dis-ease needs a solution. The solution is in the rooms and people of Alcoholics Anonymous.

You can find them in your area by following the links of this site:

Making the call saved my life. I got to a meeting. If I wanted what they had, I had to DO what they did.

Get busy living or get busy dying. I have found a new freedom and a new peace. I hope you do too.

Re: Newcomer

PostPosted: Tue May 24, 2016 10:15 am
by Deskdad
Thanks so much. I haven't lost it all yet and thankfully there is room to fix somethings when I get to that step. Work the steps or die. I'm an analytical person and can't wrap my head around it - after losing so much, why in the h*ll do we do it?

Re: Newcomer

PostPosted: Tue May 24, 2016 10:24 am
by avaneesh912
why in the h*ll do we do it?

Thats powerlessness and un-manageability of step one. Welcome to the board. Feel free to ask more question. The book Alcoholics Anonymous (Big book) is something you want to get acquainted with. Lot of good information. You may read the chapter More about alcoholism, there is a solution Bill story and the Doctors Opinion to have a good knowledge of what we are up against.

Re: Newcomer

PostPosted: Tue May 24, 2016 10:43 am
by PaigeB ... traditions

You can read the Big Book & the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions at the above link. You can buy them at your local AA meeting or Club. Or if that is not possible, you can order them using the site

Personally, I did them with a sponsor. I tried reading them myself alone and I still did not understand. My perceptions of the world were pretty warped and I needed her insight so that I could see. We worked the Steps, in order, using the Big Book... and we used the 12 & 12 as an additional guide.

Re: Newcomer

PostPosted: Tue May 24, 2016 1:40 pm
by Spirit Flower
Hi Deskdad. Welcome.