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Re: Deplorables

Postby clouds » Sun Jan 29, 2017 9:07 am

I've not found myself to be a good 'teacher'.

Deep changes appear to me to come from within and when the field/ground has become fertile.
The only seed I may have planted is an understanding of powerlessness over some addiction and therfore a need for a higher power.
If my presence and my experience on 'powerlessness' hasn't fallen into fertile ground, time to move on.
Nevertheless, a seed may bear fruit in future, depending on the rain recieved, the sunlight of the spirit.
Who knows? So drop some seeds and move on.
" Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he can get well regardless of anyone. The only condition is that he trust in God and clean house." page 98 A.A.
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Re: Deplorables

Postby rpinkard » Sat Jun 17, 2017 6:18 am

Jerks r jerks in or out of meetings. They can be found everywhere. There are no aa police. Change can be made by being a good example and voting appropriately during informed group consciousness meetings.
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Re: Deplorables

Postby Doddering Moron » Fri Sep 29, 2017 6:15 pm

I'm shocked to hear that women are now being sexually assaulted in the Alano Clubs.

These clubs aren't going to be around much longer.
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Re: Deplorables

Postby cristis » Thu Nov 02, 2017 4:44 pm

michmjon wrote:The worst is when these men start talking about their exes- I've heard comments such as "the Expletive," "the slut" and the "money-grabbing whore." One gentleman in particular is very vocal about his ex, constantly talking her down for kicking him out of the house and calling her some very nasty things which I will not mention in this post.

Foul language should not be tolerated at these meetings, I agree. However, worst foul language I heard (also at an Alano club! but another town) came from two ..hmm hmm... "ladies". The f word was everywhere, and they were blaming their exes as well. I am more tolerant and it didn't really bothered me. But I don't like when men are sometimes constantly discriminated against with things that women do too.
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Re: Deplorables

Postby Soberguy27 » Tue May 22, 2018 8:54 pm

Your first sentence had the words Alan club which was enough for me. These places in my opinion are really a joke. There is so much bad behavior that is just ignored and it really sickens me. There are about four Albano clubs in my area and they are all the same. It's like they pride themselves as being a bad boy club. I once had someone say something to me because I am Latino and so I called him on it and the guy wanted to go outside and fight me and the others at this meeting wanted to watch. I walked away but this ass followed me shouting racial slurs. I kept walking until he turned me around and took a swing at me. So I defended myself which ended up with the guy getting his nose broken and the cops being called.
Now I am sure this isn't the norm at most Alano clubs but being that the bad behavior is not being addressed it is bound to happen again. Even though I was only standing up for myself then walked away and only took action when physically attacked, I was told that I was no longer welcomed at that Alano club. The man who attacked me was a long time member of that club and so the club sided with him. I no longer go to Alano club meetings. Luckily where I live there are a lot of meetings 7days a week. I am still bothered by this even though it happen about 5 years ago. It was the first time in my then 23 years of sobriety that I had ever gotten physical with anyone. Now at 28 years of sobriety I have gotten back serenity thanks to a good sponsor and my home group. I would suggest you find other meetings in your area and if there aren't any then start your own.
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