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While travelling in Texas I heard the chair of a meeting mention "poaching newcomers". He was in the midst of a share and seemed to be referring to it as something that would happen and he wouldn't dwell on it etc. But i'm not sure what he means. Anyone familiar with this phrase?

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Thanks, John

It sounds like a good reminder of what happens when people in Service Positions use the time to air personal grievances or dislikes, as I've heard speakers do in meetings, or on recordings, as it seems to foster arguments and division within AA.

But I do know those who consider it some kind of status to have a certain number of 'sponsees', with one who is none too kind about criticizing other sponsors in front of the new person... Throwing little barbs in about the other, that Polite Form of Character Assassination masquerading under the Disguise of Helping

That would be my guess of 'Poaching', though I would wait to hear from someone else because in Texas, they seem to hunt everything that moves. Maybe they DO have a Newcomer Season. He might know what the limits are, and when the season open & closes :wink:

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Hi John,
Never heard the term, The first thought that crossed my mind was the term 13 steppers. Mostly taking on the opposite sex for their personal purposes. That still exists sad to say. Preying on someone who is trying to get help for their problem,and unfortunately
the person who is misusing his principles by taking advantage of the unsuspecting newcomer or person struggling.Also I have recently learned that a particular longtimer in my area has made himself out to be a "Guru" so to speak, claims that he can teach you how to become "Spritual"s by following his simple program for a fee of course. Some choose to be sicker than others. Just thought I'd reply to you. John D,
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Sounds like a self-appointed "sponsor" who needs to leave newcomers alone until he's done more work on himself.
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Never heard the term before. Our Game Wardons don't take kindly to poaching anything but eggs, and I'm pretty sure there aren't many that like their eggs poached in the first place.

Now I have seen certain cliques, shall we say that will recruit newcomers. Mostly the hipper 20 & younger 30 something crowd. or maybe those new members gravitate towards them. They are sorta like the preppy crowd back in my day except nowadays the "in" crowd all seem to have body piercings in other places than just in the earlobes. Nothing wrong with that, mind you. It just ain't a gonna happen to my redneck arse or my son if he knows what's good for him. :? :? :lol: :lol:
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JohnElkRiver wrote:While travelling in Texas I heard the chair of a meeting mention "poaching newcomers". He was in the midst of a share and seemed to be referring to it as something that would happen and he wouldn't dwell on it etc. But i'm not sure what he means. Anyone familiar with this phrase?
Maybe he said "approaching" newcomers. Can you hear me now? :D
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That one made my day!!!! :lol: :lol:

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hahahaha Lali !!

And Texan? You guys don't even poach eggs? (We like 'em fried in Iowa too)

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Thanks for the replies. In hindsight i'm going to guess it might have been in reference to what someone mentioned about someone collecting sponsees as sort of an ego driving function or declaring themselves to be their temp sponsor in appropiately.

Happy New Years everyone.

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Happy & sober New Year to you, too John

And everyone else :)

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PaigeB wrote:hahahaha Lali !!

And Texan? You guys don't even poach eggs? (We like 'em fried in Iowa too)

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Over medium for me. Three at that with crispy bacon, crispy hash browns and some biscuits to sop up the grease and what's left of the eggs. With sweet tea, of course.

I've got a friend that lives in Des Moines. He has a vacation home on a lake up north out of Duluth. We vacationed up there one year and I cooked breakfast for them one morning. Sort of a breakfast taco type thing with scrambled eggs, hash browns, breakfast sausage, sauteed onions and bell peppers all wrapped up in a flour tortilla, topped with shredded cheese and picante sauce. This guy is from Fargo, lived in Duluth, Liberal, KS and finally Des Moines with hopes of getting back up to Duluth in retirement. I guess he was brought up on pickled herring or something bland, but he nearly blew his head off when he put a teaspoon full of MILD picante sauce on his breakfast taco. This was at 9 in the morning and he was still complaining that evening at dinner about his scorched tongue.

Do you Mid Westerners not eat anything spicy?
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I don't think my family eats anything that is NOT spicy! Some folks are just sissys I guess... We eat jalapenos with everything! Sons are the type that take the dares for hot wings and whatever...
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Happy new year to everyone, to get away from eggs if thats possible, I have heard of poaching newcomers, what I believe is that some people in A A set themselves up in business as counsellors & tout for business among newcomers who they think can afford it, I think this is known as poaching. When I first came to A A it was forbidden to share anything in that area. Thats all derek knows hope it helps, now back to the fried eggs. take care derek

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Thanks Derek That makes sense... poaching means taking newcomers from AA into your business... GOOD!
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Thanks Derek

Speaking as a Minnesotan, i'll agree things here are quite mild. I like spicy food so I often have to give SPECIFIC instructions to the chinese places. I've learned to ask for my Beef & Broccoli 3 Times Spicy so I get it right. If I just say Spicy I get my food with only hint of flavor. The problem is worse at buffets etc. You might as well eat at a nursing home.

I've found success in the asian grocery stores, they have ground (to powder) red pepper which is oh so yummy on pizza.

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