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Hi everyone, am glad I found this forum this will help me about my problem.

I have brother who has a binge drinking he started drinking when he was 25 until now he is already 30 years and his drinking becomes worst he can drink a 10 bottles of beer in one night I'm so worried from can anyone give me advice for my brother to break free from his addiction

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Welcome to the site amont...God bless you for looking after your brother. I'm an alcoholic amont...And as far as is there help available for drinkers like myself?...The answer is yes. Did I accept that help when I should have?....No. Nothing wrong with the way I drank.

I guess the big question involving your brother is....Does he want help? Does he even think he has a drinking problem? I denied that for a long time...And nobody....I mean nobody...Could tell me different. If he's had enough...And he wants a solution to his problem....I can tell you that AA's 12 steps work for that. But if he's not ready....My advice...Sad as it may sound...Let him go till he is ready. I'm glad you found the site....Do some reading....You can learn about your brothers problem...If he has a problem.

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Welcome amont. Glad you found us here at e-aa. Though we are a site for the alcoholic who has a desire to quit drinking, we also have a Forum for the Family.
http://www.e-aa.org/forum/viewforum.php?f=21
Also there is an entire program that came up the same time as Alcoholics Anonymous called Alanon. They have a website at http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
I think you might find some help for yourself with them. Like Alcoholics Anonymous, they have been able to help millions of family members of alcoholics find comfort and support even if the alcoholic drinks or gets sober.

Give them a look at. Let us know if we can be of further assistance.
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Stepchild wrote:Welcome to the site amont...God bless you for looking after your brother. I'm an alcoholic amont...And as far as is there help available for drinkers like myself?...The answer is yes. Did I accept that help when I should have?....No. Nothing wrong with the way I drank.

I guess the big question involving your brother is....Does he want help? Does he even think he has a drinking problem? I denied that for a long time...And nobody....I mean nobody...Could tell me different. If he's had enough...And he wants a solution to his problem....I can tell you that AA's 12 steps work for that. But if he's not ready....My advice...Sad as it may sound...Let him go till he is ready. I'm glad you found the site....Do some reading....You can learn about your brothers problem...If he has a problem.
Thank you for some tips... He's always denying his drinking problem his my my little brother and I want to help him. Thank you for the advice I hope this will be helpful

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PaigeB wrote:Welcome amont. Glad you found us here at e-aa. Though we are a site for the alcoholic who has a desire to quit drinking, we also have a Forum for the Family.
http://www.e-aa.org/forum/viewforum.php?f=21
Also there is an entire program that came up the same time as Alcoholics Anonymous called Alanon. They have a website at http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
I think you might find some help for yourself with them. Like Alcoholics Anonymous, they have been able to help millions of family members of alcoholics find comfort and support even if the alcoholic drinks or gets sober.

Give them a look at. Let us know if we can be of further assistance.
I will try it. Thank you very much for the concerns

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PaigeB wrote:Welcome amont. Glad you found us here at e-aa. Though we are a site for the alcoholic who has a desire to quit drinking, we also have a Forum for the Family.
http://www.e-aa.org/forum/viewforum.php?f=21
Also there is an entire program that came up the same time as Alcoholics Anonymous called Alanon. They have a website at http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
I think you might find some help for yourself with them. Like Alcoholics Anonymous, they have been able to help millions of family members of alcoholics find comfort and support even if the alcoholic drinks or gets sober.

Give them a look at. Let us know if we can be of further assistance.
I will try it. Thank you very much for the concerns

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Say some prayers for you brother amont...I know it was prayers from others that got me into AA....I certainly didn't do any for myself. Maybe you can get him a copy of the Big Book...You never know...He may be curious about his problem....And not even know there is a solution for it. I'll say a few prayers myself.....You're a good brother amont....He's lucky to have you.

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Stepchild wrote:Say some prayers for you brother amont...I know it was prayers from others that got me into AA....I certainly didn't do any for myself. Maybe you can get him a copy of the Big Book...You never know...He may be curious about his problem....And not even know there is a solution for it. I'll say a few prayers myself.....You're a good brother amont....He's lucky to have you.
I will do everything for my brother, I don't want to get ruined his life because of addiction, thanks stepchild for listening and giving advice, you're right I have to pray for my brother

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Hi guys! At least I have already convinced him to go to rehabilitation! By the way, thank you for the support!

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That's fantastic amont...Keep up with the prayers....Sounds like they are working!!

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Yeah, all the help and supports that you gave to me is working now. I will guide him until he get sober. Thanks guys!

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Hi amont,

I don't recommend anyone taking on an alcoholic in the manner you seem to describe. If you find help for your alcoholism in Al-Anon, that will help him too. Yes, you can be affected by alcoholism even if you're not drinking. That's one of the reasons that we have closed AA meetings -- it's too easy for loved ones to start going to AA meetings and "take over" the whole recovery process by micromanaging the alcoholic's sobriety.

Best thing for your loved one is to back away and get your own help.j

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I understand you ann2, but I can't let my brother alone

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amont wrote:I understand you ann2, but I can't let my brother alone
Sometimes the best thing is to leave someone alone. To tell them you love them so much you can't support their self destruction. It was mentioned above that the alcoholic has to want to get sober. And as much as AA is a "we" program where people get support an individual's sobriety has to stand on it's own. If you lead and guide him and his sobriety depends on you what happens if you are no longer in the picture? If my sobriety depends too much on my sponsor what happens if he relapses? A couple of people have suggested AlAnon. That would ie an excellent suggestion.

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Have you considered that your not letting him alone is actually doing more harm than good? There's a phenomenon called "enabling" which you can learn more about in Al-Anon.

Alcoholism is a familiy illness, and affects everyone, not just those who are drinking.

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