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question about open meetings

Post by boojagirl » Wed Jun 25, 2014 3:46 pm

I am not a recovering alcoholic but have still been attending open meetings in my town, I started going to support my now ex boyfriend over 4 years ago and found that it was helping me, especially with my borderline personality disorder, I only attend open meetings, have always respected others annomymity and have never caused trouble, today a new commer (a few months in) said that Because Im a non alcholic I have no right to be there....can she have me banned just cause she don't like that Im there? Can the board ban me for being a non alcoholic?

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Re: question about open meetings

Post by Brock » Wed Jun 25, 2014 5:42 pm

Welcome to this AA site boojagirl. You know many times at meetings I have heard folks say that in a way they are glad to be alcoholic, since it exposed them to a fine program for life, and it has been written by a well known journalist that if everyone went to AA there would be no need for jails. The preamble which is read at the start of meetings contains the words – “The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking,” and I guess it is fair to say you don’t have this desire, or in fact a problem with alcohol which would lead you to have this desire. I have never experienced a person being asked to stop attending a meeting, I have heard of one violent man being banned, but I don’t think they will try to stop you coming if as you say you respect them and act politely. If they did ask you to stay away you could just say I change my mind I have a problem and a desire to stop, but of course that is not a good solution. To be quite honest I am not sure what the right solution would be, and I am thinking that perhaps you could give the meetings of Al Anon a try, you would be, and feel, more welcome there. I wish you the best in your search for the answer, and whatever happens all of us here are happy to hear we have such a program that even non alcoholics benefit.

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Re: question about open meetings

Post by boojagirl » Wed Jun 25, 2014 6:51 pm

I do attend al-anon which is only once a week....it helps me in other ways.

I attended al-anon 2nite & over heard her talking about me behind my back to another member....she said my being there is an invasion of her privacy.....isnt that what closed meeting are for?

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Re: question about open meetings

Post by Blue Moon » Wed Jun 25, 2014 8:52 pm

Anyone with an interest in alcoholism can attend an Open Meeting. You cannot be a member of the group unless you are an alcoholic,.but you can attend an Open Meeting.

So if you have an interest in AA and alcoholism,,by all means attend an Open Meeting to observe, just don't attend any Group Conscience meeting, don't take any service commitment, don't be sponsoring AAs etc.

Any AA who has problem needs to learn about AAs Traditions and/or go to Closed Meetings.
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Re: question about open meetings

Post by boojagirl » Wed Jun 25, 2014 10:07 pm

I don't sponsor or attend round ups or such, I know Im not allowed to.

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Re: question about open meetings

Post by ann2 » Thu Jun 26, 2014 7:41 pm

Why not give the steps a try? You might find you stop caring so much about what other people say about you.

You can't please all of the people all of the time, and some people you can never please.

Beyond that, no AA member speaks for all of AA, but every AA member has an opinion.

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Re: question about open meetings

Post by boojagirl » Fri Jun 27, 2014 12:29 am

I don't care what she says about me....I worry she will try 2 get me kicked out.

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Re: question about open meetings

Post by Mike99 » Fri Jun 27, 2014 6:39 am

I'm new to the program, but my understanding of an OPEN meeting is that it's open to anyone who has an interest in going. I hope they see the light and stop worrying about you being there. Below is straight form literature published on www.aa.org.
The Difference Between Open
and Closed A.A. Meetings
The purpose of all A.A. group meetings, as the
Preamble states, is for A.A. members to “share their
experience, strength and hope with each other that
they may solve their common problem and help others
to recover from alcoholism.” Toward this end,
A.A. groups have both open and closed meetings.
Closed meetings are for A.A. members only, or
for those who have a drinking problem and “have a
desire to stop drinking.”
Open meetings are available to anyone interested
in Alcoholics Anonymous’ program of recovery from
alcoholism. Nonalcoholics may attend open meetings
as observers.
At both types of meetings, the A.A. chairperson
may request that participants confine their discussion
to matters pertaining to recovery from alcoholism.
Whether open or closed, A.A. group meetings
are conducted by A.A. members who determine the
format of their meetings.

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Re: question about open meetings

Post by Sally » Fri Jun 27, 2014 4:50 pm

I agree with Ann- the steps of AA are a terrific blueprint for life-
for all of us-
there is a book called the 12 Steps for Everyone- I know Amazon sells it-
and the al-anon mtg you go to might have it as well.

open meetings are just that- open- for anyone
Sally

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Re: question about open meetings

Post by ann2 » Fri Jun 27, 2014 7:24 pm

Go ahead and ask a group member . . . no reason to sit and worry.

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