Who should I choose as my sponsor?

Most of us who recovered with AA's program did so with the help of a "sponsor". But what is sponsorship? How do I get one? Who can be a sponsor? What makes a good sponsor?
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Who should I choose as my sponsor?

Post by IsaacAsimov »

I have two choices. I have my girlfriend and my mom. On one hand, my mom is also a recovering alcoholic, but she often relapses, so I don't know if she would really be a reliable choice. On the other hand, my girlfriend is my girlfriend, which means she may or may not be a permanent factor in my life.

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Neither, find a Big Book guy and ask him to be your sponsor.
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Post by leejosepho »

Sponsor, n. (Webster, 1869)
A surety; one who binds himself to answer for another, and is responsible for his default.

Like Tosh has suggested, I would look for a recovered alcoholic who can assure you of experienced help in doing what is in our book.
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time] -- we *grow* away from drinking [one day at a time]."
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One who might remain unaffected by anything you might possibly share with them.


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I have found it necessary that my sponsor has no investment in me other than my alcoholism.
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Re: Who should I choose as my sponsor?

Post by happycamper »

Who should you choose as a sponsor?

Someone in the program/fellowship, same sex, a decent amount of sobriety and has worked the steps and experienced that all important spiritual awakening.

this person should be someone that has something that you are attracted to... and that 'something' should be a stable, sober, responsible attitude.

You will most likely find this person at an AA meeting after you have attended a few yourself and listened to the other members share.
Faith without works is dead

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