Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

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Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Post by eran » Tue Jan 07, 2020 8:36 pm

Watching a movie and some characters were drinking wine and now I can't stop thinking about wine? Decided to write here to occupy my mind and wait for the cravings to pass.

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Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Post by D'oh » Tue Jan 07, 2020 9:54 pm

Ju Jubes, Jelly Beans, Toffee, Anything Sweet.

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Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Post by tomsteve » Wed Jan 08, 2020 6:44 am

eran wrote:
Tue Jan 07, 2020 8:36 pm
Watching a movie and some characters were drinking wine and now I can't stop thinking about wine? Decided to write here to occupy my mind and wait for the cravings to pass.
hope ya made it through. eran, in yer forst post ya mentioned youre not sure if youre an alcoholic.
people that arent alcoholics never have to fight cravings for an alcoholic drink-they can take it or leave it.
something you could do when this occurs again is do some reading in the BB. the first 3 chapters would be good reading for ya i think

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Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Post by MyNameIsBetsy » Wed Jan 08, 2020 7:39 am

Eran,

Thoughts like these just don't occur to the average drinker.

I remember those first weeks/months getting sober and what you describe is exactly what happened to me too. Uncomfortable? Oh yeah!

I used these thoughts as reinforcement that I have a problem (called alcoholism) and that it would take me down if left untreated.

Try turning those thoughts into something positive. Consider those cravings/thoughts as reinforcement that you are on the right path . . . that you indeed have a problem and you are taking the right steps toward recovery.

Distraction is a wonderful tool. Get off the couch. Do something different. Phone a friend. Do some sit ups. Read a book. Read the Big Book. Go for a walk. Go to a meeting. Have some ice cream. Do what you just did - post on these forums!!! One day at a time and working this program is how we all build sober time behind us.

The very fact that you stayed sober yesterday is PROOF POSITIVE that you can make it through today sober. We are your cheering section! We are on your side!

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Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Post by Layne » Wed Jan 08, 2020 8:53 am

Your post made me reflect on the difference between my wife and I. I am an alcoholic and she is not.

If she feels like having a glass of wine, she will have one, which she may or may not finish. Not a lot of thought goes into her decision. And there will not be a second glass. No big deal to her. Just another moment in life.

On the other hand, if I (prior to working the 12 steps) felt like having a beer, unless I immediately had one, that feeling would quickly become a craving. I would not think about it, I would OBSESS about it. When I caved in to the craving, there was NO doubt that I would finish the beer. There was also NO doubt, there would a second beer and a third and so on...because once I start, I can't stop. But then that is not a surprise...because I am an alcoholic. It WAS a big deal to me and it was not just another moment in life, it turned into another episode in an alcoholic life.

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Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Post by eran » Wed Jan 08, 2020 12:10 pm

Thank you everyone- I was able to wait for the moment of cravings to pass and have still not had a drink. I agree that these cravings don't occur with the average drinker. If I drank a glass of wine I would inevitably end up drinking an entire bottle (or more).

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Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Post by avaneesh912 » Wed Jan 08, 2020 2:22 pm

In AAs terminology we use the phrase Obsession for the mind stuff. Craving is referred to the compulsive drinking that kicks in after we ingest 1 or 2 drinks of alcohol.

Its all part of the realization phase, its good to realize as a alcoholic we have a grace period where we are able to overcome these obsessive thoughts but its also important to note that if we procrastinate with the inventory process which will shed some light on our traits that makes us powerless, we are gambling and that the grace period (pink cloud some people call it) wears out. And we heed to the desire.
Show him the mental twist which leads to the first drink of a spree. We suggest you do this as we have done it in the chapter on alcoholism.(Alcoholics Anonymous, Page 92)

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Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Post by PaigeB » Wed Jan 08, 2020 3:31 pm

Craving vs desire vs thoughts of... I still have random intrusive "thoughts of" sometime. Recently as last week I was PO'd and my brain said, "Damn! I could use a drink!" Whoa... danger danger. I texted my 10th Step buddy and she said, "Turn your thoughts..." Which is exactly what you did! Coming here to write rather than to marinate in the idea of drinking wine!

See? This thing DOES work! IF your work it!
Page 84: 10th Step stuff
...continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up, we ask God at once to remove them. We discuss them with someone immediately and make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help. Love and tolerance of others is our code. And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone - even alcohol. For by this time sanity will have returned.
Cling to the thought that, in God's hands, the dark past is the greatest possession you have - the key to life and happiness for others. With it you can avert death and misery for them. page 124 BB

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Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Post by ebear » Thu Jan 09, 2020 11:41 am

I don't know how others will feel about this suggestion, but I'm putting it out there.

Because the ritual (not just the drunkenness) had appeal to me, I sometimes put apple juice into a wine glass, put my feet up, and treated myself to the nonalcoholic and self-rewarding experience. Even ice water in a fancy glass gave me the feeling of relaxing, shedding the day's worries, and ritualizing an elegant conclusion to the day.

Being drunk sucks. Smelling like alcohol sucks. Fearing that someone will show up at my apartment and find me drunk, smelly, and glazed-eyed sucks.

But a sharp mind and sweet, crystal-clear water in an elegant glass? I felt damned good.

Just a thought.
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