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SaltySoberSailor
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New to E-AA

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Greetings! I'm Brian and I'm an Alcoholic. I'm 35 and have been struggling with staying sober for about 5 years. Once my 1st kid was born I admitted I had a problem, dumped out the remaining booze, went to AA meetings, but never really did any step work. I never achieved more than 3 months sober before heading back to the liquor store... if 24 hour chips were accepted at casinos, I'd be a rich man! Bad things started happening because of my drinking, and each one was a little worse than the last. I recently went on a good bender and came to find my wife and 3 kids gone. I knew where they were, and that they were safe, but knew what I had to do to get them to come home. Just going to an occasional meeting wasn't enough. I checked myself into a rehab and was immersed in book work. I work on a ship and spend 1 month at sea, 1 month at home. Being on the ship with no booze around is easy sober time, but once I hit dry land the struggle returns. My intent for joining this forum is to contribute what I can to help others, but also keep AA fresh in my mind when I can't attend meetings for the month at sea. I've completed my 3rd column of my 4th step. I was excited to find this page and hope I can help others as well as myself by being a member here.
"Your child doesn't understand addiction. They don't care whether it's a choice or a disease. They just want their mom or dad back."

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Welcome here Brian.

I know the feeling of month on month off work, having worked on off shore oil rigs for a while, forums like this should be of help.

I was a great 24hr chip man myself, for about 30 years in and out of AA, until like you finally got backed into a position that I realized I had to take AA seriously. Really glad to read about the step 4 you are into, don’t stretch this out and get that #5 done as soon as you can, that was such a turning point for me, as the book says on step #5 -
The feeling that the drink problem has disappeared will often come strongly. We feel we are on the Broad Highway, walking hand in hand with the Spirit of the universe.
This is no exaggeration, especially the part about the drink problem disappearing, and it just gets better and better, this program is more powerful than I ever believed it could be, I found a life which as younger people say ‘rocks.’

Please feel free to ask or say anything here, our forums are a bit slow right now, but we do get many more readers than posters, and newcomers reading what others are doing can help them along the journey.
"Good morning, this is your Higher Power speaking. I will not be needing your help today."

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Thanks Brock! I've been working offshore rigs for about 10 years now. Like I said, the times on the rig are easy but as soon as I hit the beach the real challenge begins... especially when in the shipyard! I'm really excited to find this forum.
"Your child doesn't understand addiction. They don't care whether it's a choice or a disease. They just want their mom or dad back."

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Consider "The Grapevine", our meeting in print for when you are on ship
http://www.aagrapevine.org/

Keep working your program even when there is no booze around. The problem is in your mind, as the Big Book says.
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Hi Brian,

Welcome :D

Do the steps - they are the programme.

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Welcome salty! This forum is 24/7 - 365. I try to visit every day! Been here for nearly a decade too - it does not lose anything with time!

Keep coming back!
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I need help! My liver enzymes are 130 and I still continue to drink! I’m scared and today I vowed not too but my husband upset me and I did! I’ve been to rehab! I’m a loser! But a sweet woman w a BBA and just lost my job! I hate myself! I can’t stop! I try and determined in am but end up going to get wine! My Dad was a Doc and sober for 36 years but was awful! No one ever thought he would stop! I’m going to die help

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Cook wrote:
Thu Oct 10, 2019 9:14 pm
I need help! My liver enzymes are 130 and I still continue to drink! I’m scared and today I vowed not too but my husband upset me and I did! I’ve been to rehab! I’m a loser! But a sweet woman w a BBA and just lost my job! I hate myself! I can’t stop! I try and determined in am but end up going to get wine! My Dad was a Doc and sober for 36 years but was awful! No one ever thought he would stop! I’m going to die help
Welcome to e-AA, Cook.

Thank you for reaching out. I am glad you are here.

The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking.


You will find much information, helpline numbers and meetings near you by following the links below:

A.A. Near You.

http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/find-aa-resources

Outside US and Canada >

https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/find-aa- ... es/world/1

Here at the eAA Group, we have a recovery email meeting and discussion forums where you will find much support and hear from other members how it worked for us.

The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous online link is
http://www.aa.org/bigbookonline

The following chapters are a good place to start:

Three Chapters From The Big Book-

1.The Doctors Opinion.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbo ... pinion.pdf

2.There Is A Solution.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_chapt2.pdf

3.More About Alcoholism.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_chapt3.pdf


You can subscribe here to our email Recovery Meeting and receive regular readings:

http://e-aameetings.org/mailman/listinf ... etings.org


To request a temporary sponsor to get you started with the AA programme, please complete our form here:

http://www.e-aa.org/form_sponsors.php

A temporary sponsor is a sober member of Alcoholics Anonymous who is willing to share their experience, strength, and hope with another alcoholic as a way of service to help insure their own sobriety.

Their main function is to help guide the new person towards the 12 Steps, and also, where appropriate, to help guide the new person to face to face meetings and a f2f sponsor in their local AA community.

We assign women for women and men for men.

An excellent introduction on sponsorship, permanent or temporary, with questions and answers, is this pamphlet
from GSO :

Questions and Answers on Sponsorship:
http://aa.org/pdf/products/p-15_Q&AonSpon.pdf



There is no shortage of support.

Do please ask if you need further assistance.

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Hello Cook. That took courage to post what you did, to actually put all that into words. I'm so glad you found us.

I've been where you are, and am now sober. It can be done! Active alcoholism created liver dysfunction in me too. Your posting got me dig out a notebook where I recorded my AST and ALT numbers. I keep them as a reminder of where alcohol took me medically. The good news - and there is good news - is that we can turn off the alcohol and get sober. You and I get to make that choice and do the hard work to stay sober. We do that just like our slogan says . . . One Day at a Time!!

The way this worked for me was to screw up every ounce of courage I could and walk into a local meeting of AA. I picked a women's meeting as a first meeting because I thought it would be less intimidating. I don't remember all the shares from that first meeting, but I remember that there were other women just like me. They had found a way to put down the drink and leave it alone. As I kept going, I learned more and more about living this sober life.

Yes, sometimes it is difficult, especially those first few months. We get cravings for alcohol. But we help each other. We get sponsors who have been were we are and have worked the steps. We go to meetings and listen to others share how they are living their lives sober today. We surround ourselves with the fellowship of this life-saving program. We find a Higher Power and ask for help. All good stuff.

I encourage you to get back into meetings and try to meet one or two women at each meeting. That increases your contact with sober AAers.

You ARE NOT a loser! You might be a sick woman in the grips of active alcoholism, but not a loser. There is a solution and it is right at hand for you!!!

Please post again and let us know how you are doing.

- Betsy
"Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path."

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Cook wrote:
Thu Oct 10, 2019 9:14 pm
I’m going to die help
My liver enzymes got me here and I been in AA over 10 years now - SOBER. My liver has healed too. I started by walking into a meeting of AA. They gave me a Big Book which helped me a great deal - I mean the fact that they gave me a gift and didn't throw me out! In fact they said: Keep coming back! You earned your seat!

It is PAID... Pitiful And Incomprehensible Demoralization.
Chapter 3, page 30 of the Big Book

MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM

Most of us have been unwilling to admit we were real alcoholics. No person likes to think he is bodily and mentally different from his fellows. Therefore, it is not surprising that our drinking careers have been characterized by countless vain attempts to prove we could drink like other people. The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death.

We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost selves that we were alcoholics. This is the first step in recovery. The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be, has to be smashed.

We alcoholics are men and women who have lost the ability to control our drinking. We know that no real alcoholic ever recovers control. All of us felt at times that we were regaining control, but such intervals - usually brief - were inevitably followed by still less control, which led in time to pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization. We are convinced to a man that alcoholics of our type are in the grip of a progressive illness. Over any considerable period we get worse, never better.

We are like men who have lost their legs; they never grow new ones.
Find a meeting near you. Or call someone near you. https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/find-aa-resources
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Cook wrote:
Thu Oct 10, 2019 9:14 pm
I need help! My liver enzymes are 130 and I still continue to drink! I’m scared and today I vowed not too but my husband upset me and I did! I’ve been to rehab! I’m a loser! But a sweet woman w a BBA and just lost my job! I hate myself! I can’t stop! I try and determined in am but end up going to get wine! My Dad was a Doc and sober for 36 years but was awful! No one ever thought he would stop! I’m going to die help
Your not a loser. Your an alcoholic. Do not try to beat this on your own. You drink when your upset or stressed. You have to change this in your mind and deal with your triggers differently. Start by going to a meeting. Don't consider alcohol as a solution to anything. It's not. Read the Big book. You must mentally change your mind.. You can goto a meeting every night and come home and your husband upsets you and it triggers you. Find another solution to your emotional trauma. Weather it's an anti depressant, alcohol medication or a hobby just do t use alcohol to deal with it. It will not work. It will only kill you.

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