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Postby Crissymarie » Mon Jan 08, 2018 9:57 am

Hi, I'm new here. I have been a bit scared to go to an AA meeting and found this site while searching for a meeting near my home. Do you have to get up and speak each time or is it okay to just listen?
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Re: My first post

Postby avaneesh912 » Mon Jan 08, 2018 10:09 am

Welcome to e-aa.

Meetings differ from one group to another. But mostly members dont force anyone to speak. But they may ask if there are any new-comers so they can meet and greet after the meeting.

Please feel free to post your questions here and at the f2f meetings, try to find a person you can relate to and ensure that they can help you work the 12 step of AA so you can pick them as your sponsor.
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Re: My first post

Postby Brock » Mon Jan 08, 2018 10:32 am

Welcome here Crissymarie.

Being a bit scared is quite normal, we get enquiries about this often and enjoy giving our experience, because we all were a bit nervous about going ourselves.

The simple answer is that you have nothing to fear, a group of good folks drinking coffee or tea and talking about alcoholism and how they recovered, and no you don’t need to speak if you don’t want to, to be polite if they ask you might say ‘I just want to listen,’ or words like that. We come and go as we please, nothing to sign and nobody to answer to, but like anything else in life it’s people we are dealing with, and some meetings we feel more comfortable in than others, so it’s best to try a few if they are available in your area. As avaneesh said often you may find someone may speak to you after, and offer a list of numbers you may call if you need help, AA’s are generally friendly folks but respect peoples privacy.

I hope you try a meeting and maybe let us know how it went, and ask any questions or make any comments here. It is very hard to understand at first, but trying to be helpful to other alcoholics is something we enjoy and find helpful to ourselves, never be scared to ask for help either in live meetings, or on sites like this. I will put up links to some AA material that when you have time you might have a look at, never forget that the AA program offers a complete release from the temptation to drink, and has a side effect of making people happier and more at ease than they ever were.

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Re: My first post

Postby Roberth » Mon Jan 08, 2018 12:51 pm

Hello Crissymarie and Welcome to E-AA. My name is Robert and I am a Los Angeles area alcoholic. We don't make you do anything you don't feel you shouldn't do. Let rephrase that we shouldn't try and make you do anything you don't feel you shouldn't do. AA is a program of suggestions. If I were asked to speak and I just wanted to listen I would reply with a "no thank you I just would like to listen." Of course my friends would think something was wrong with me because they usually cant shut me up. LOL I do like to hear what new-comers have to say to remind me what I was like when I was new.
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