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Triggers and avoiding them

PostPosted: Sat Nov 04, 2017 5:06 pm
by Caretaker
I was thinking about triggers. I use to love watching the bachelor shows but the clinking of the glasses and the way they look happy and content while drinking maybe I shouldn't watch the next season.

What are triggers you use to do but now stay away from in order not to be tempted to drink?

Re: Triggers and avoiding them

PostPosted: Sat Nov 04, 2017 7:02 pm
by Chelle
Hi caretaker,
When I was newly sober just about every person, place and thing was a trigger for me. I felt like I could not do anything, including life without booze. I could not understand how people could speak at a meeting without being half lit. That was a huge "keep coming back" for me, I wanted to learn how they did it!

Today I don't call them triggers, I call them reminders. I think it all the way through. I do not romanticize the drink. In my body it is poison. It will destroy everything that I love the most. If even tempted, I get on the phone and call another alcoholic, read the big book book, post here or get myself to a meeting. Honestly, the thoughts are just fleeting now a days.

Those early days were rough. I hope that you have a phone list and you will use it. Build a sober network, get a sponsor and work those steps is what they told me. AA worked for me, and it can work for you too :D

Re: Triggers and avoiding them

PostPosted: Sat Nov 04, 2017 7:07 pm
by Brock
I use to love watching the bachelor shows but the clinking of the glasses and the way they look happy and content while drinking maybe I shouldn't watch the next season.

This reminded me of a part in the big book about moving pictures, it really demonstrates how long ago it was written -
Assuming we are spiritually fit, we can do all sorts of things alcoholics are not supposed to do. People have said we must not go where liquor is served; we must not have it in our homes; we must shun friends who drink; we must avoid moving pictures which show drinking scenes; we must not go into bars; our friends must hide their bottles if we go to their houses; we mustn't think or be reminded about alcohol at all.

At first I also found myself feeling a little jealous watching others drink, whether live or on TV. It helped that I knew it wasn’t really alcohol in those drinks, which I learned on a tour of a couple of TV film sets. But generally when we do the steps and enjoy life without it, seeing people drinking alcohol becomes no worse than seeing them drink orange juice. I can honestly say there is no activity I stay away from because it would make me want to drink, and every recovered alcoholic would probably say the same, but I don’t like being around drunk people. All the more reason to start those steps, as it says above - “Assuming we are spiritually fit, we can do all sorts of things alcoholics are not supposed to do.”

Re: Triggers and avoiding them

PostPosted: Sun Nov 05, 2017 6:39 am
by Caretaker
Thank you both for responding. I think in my early days here I will avoid everything that is tempting. But I know long term I will be able to handle being around it and not doing it

I did get 3 phone numbers at my 1st meeting. And I have already reached out to one of them. She was very helpful.

I know this is like marathon and not a Sprint. I have to pace myself. I'm only 2 days sober. And that sounds a little depressing. Because I used to deny myself at least 3 days a week in order to be a functioning alcoholic. I wanna get some weeks under my belt and months. And years. One day at a time though .