does he have an issue??

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does he have an issue??

Postby alifpb » Thu Jun 22, 2017 4:28 am

hi im new to this so may waffle...
im struggling with my marriage atm and my depression is bad, not helped by the fact my hubby says he drinks excessive cause of me....

all came to light a couple months ago with police being involved when i asked for a divorce, hubby drank and self harmed.
police were amazed that 3 swigs and he can finish a bottle of vodka. alway has been able to..

we do argue a fair bit as his life style, sleep apnea and weight is effecting us.

police were concerned to the extent they put me intouch with domestic abuse team (suprised as hes not abusive to me)
he denies he has an issue, he has always been a big drinker and can tolerate it.
i understand there are different ways you can be dependent on alcohol...but when is it an issue.

so tricky to put down here how things are as i feel i m losing my mind with things.
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Re: does he have an issue??

Postby Brock » Thu Jun 22, 2017 5:13 am

Hello and welcome here, we do get letters like yours from time to time. We of AA don't like to pronounce someone alcoholic, it is a decision your husband must come to himself, and hopefully seek the help we have found. What we usually recommend is that you first seek help for yourself, many family members of alcoholics have found this via our 'sister' program Al-anon. I also know of cases where a wife seeking help has resulted in her husband doing the same, below are links to the Al-anon organization.

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Wishing you the best of luck, living with an alcoholic is not an easy thing, my wife put up with a lot of crap from me, but these last few years thanks to AA she is pleased she stuck around, to enjoy living with the new me.
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