This isn't my first time in the program and I am having difficulty with my sponsor. She is aloof. I often am telling her something and she doesn't respond. I finally asked her the other day how come she didn't respond and she said, "Because I don't have anything to say." (?)
I asked her what she thought about what I had just said, and finally she said she didn''t know the person so she had no opinion. (?)
This is frustrating to me. I find that I cannot tell her about much, especially if I'm having problems because I get the same kind of response. I then begin questioning whether I'm being to picky? I have had her for four months and have been direct in telling her that I need, "Atta boys" and other words of encouragement. She still doesn't get it. I have a very small group of woman to choose from. But I am wondering if I am just making excuses. She does give me rides and we can talk about work-related subjects. (She is an RN and I am a CNA). But she is not available to talk much and frequently won't answer my texts - and will not discuss certain subjects like when I'm in conflict (any conflict) with another person.
I wanted to just stick with one person, and even when I give her compliments thinking that this might bring us closer - it makes no difference. What should I do? I have already begun my fourth step and now she is telling me it can take months? I don't want to spend months on it.
Confused and frustrated. I wish I could have a sponsor who could see that I am trying and someone that I can talk to. I go to a counselor, so I son't need to call a sponsor for every little issue. I attend meetings and I chair. Why can't I get a sponsor out of the area, even if we don't attend the same meetings. Is that seriously required? I've heard that it's not necessary to like a sponsor - so again I wonder if I'm just too picky? I don't know. Can anyone ot there on this board sponsor me???