23 year old in need of some help

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23 year old in need of some help

Postby Nivekerotavlas » Mon Sep 19, 2016 9:47 am

My Name is Kevin and I'm a bi-polar(on meds) alcoholic from a family where addiction doesn't run in it but gallops. It started when I was 15 years old when I was going through the "experimental stage" of trying alcohol and drugs. It started with drinking on the weekends at parties until I was black out drunk and acting like a real asshole. It ended up alienating myself at the time. I am 23 now and my drinking has bled into the weekdays. I find almost any excuse to have "a drink" whether it be a rough day at work or a great day. I find a way to incorporate drinking in almost every activity you can imagine. I don't think I've spent a month sober since 15 years old and it's only getting worse. I have a good job, I'm physically fit, a great girlfriend and an overall good life. But the past few months has been like walking on a tight rope for me trying to hold it together. I'm starting to feel perpetually like S*** all the time, physically and mentally. I know this isn't how a 23 year old should feel. Even the days I don't drink I feel like I'm in a fog. I'm tired of all the highs and lows. I've been playing with the thought for a while now to stop drinking but I think I'm getting close to the point of going over the edge and I have to decide whether I'm going to be a successful young man or a fat drunk for the rest of my life. The trouble is everyone I know drinks and I don't know how to be 23 and sober. Everyone my age drinks and I don't want to miss out on being in my 20's but I feel if I don't stop now I won't remember any of my 20's. I would love to be able to be the designated driver every night. I just have such a hard time resisting the temptations of alcohol and I always spend money I don't have. I'm also scared to admit publicly I have a problem. I'm afraid of being publicly branded an alcoholic. I'm even afraid to tell my girlfriend because the last time I tried she threw it in my face. Alcohol has literally been inhibiting who I want to be. I just can't imagine my life without booze. But it needs to happen and I want to take action. I don't know what to do. Help.
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Re: 23 year old in need of some help

Postby avaneesh912 » Mon Sep 19, 2016 11:25 am

I just can't imagine my life without booze. But it needs to happen and I want to take action. I don't know what to do. Help


Thats a typical fear for every alcoholic who is struggling to quit. But working the 12 steps of AA, we wont have the desire to have any mind altering substance in our body. Thats the 10th step promise.

Take a look at More about alcoholism, Bills Story, There is a solution and the Doctors opinion of the book Alcoholics Anonymous:
http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/alcoholics-anonymous

Also visit one of the local AA meetings if one is available. There are young people meetings too. if you look up AA meetings, I am sure there is one near you.
Show him, from your own experience, how the peculiar mental condition surrounding that first drink prevents normal functioning of the will power (Alcoholics Anonymous, Page 92)
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Re: 23 year old in need of some help

Postby PuppyEars » Mon Sep 19, 2016 3:03 pm

Yo Kev! Welcome to e-AA. It is great you can see yourself riding a slippery slope. Some of us here have hit rock bottom, then found the trap door down another level and so on. It is real lonely down there and some never make it out. There are plenty of nice folks here who were fortunate enough to see themselves headed for grave danger and by the Grace of God, were pulled from the depths of despair.
If it means anything to ya, the guy that showed me around AA and took me through our literature and was an instrumental part of me being sober today, was 23 when he sobered up as well. Our ages are just numbers and AA is designed to connect you to a power that expels your obsession to drink.
Once you get to a meeting in your area, raise your hand and ask if someone would take you through the literature.

Without help it is too much for us.
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Re: 23 year old in need of some help

Postby Duke » Mon Sep 19, 2016 10:17 pm

Welcome Kevin.

I hope your moment of despair turns to action of seeking out help. For most of us here, that help came from the program of alcoholics Anonymous.

If you're serious, find your local service center in the phone book, and find a meeting at a time and place you can make. I guarantee you they won't bite, and if you give it a fair shot, you'll find that hope that seems to be missing for you right now.

I wasn't quite as young as you, but when I started at thirty, I had a lot of the same fears you do about how I was going to live sober. All I can tell you is it works. You can have a life without alcohol that not only works, it's better than anything you've experienced before.

Go for it Kevin. You'll never regret it.
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Re: 23 year old in need of some help

Postby positrac » Tue Sep 20, 2016 9:48 am

Kevin,
I was 23 when I finally sobered up and that was almost 27 years ago. I know all of the peer pressure things as I had to endure it for a long time until I was old enough to move past a lot of those aspects. The best part for me is I don't need to be entertained and or have people around in order to function.

If you are really serious about sobriety then I would recommend being 150% honest and find a specialist that can help and not add medications on so you can cope. Go to rehab and or counseling because it takes time to get better and you have got to learn to live in your skin sober.

Whatever you are supposed to take after you see the specialist TAKE it because you aren't doing yourself any good blowing off your medicine.
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Re: 23 year old in need of some help

Postby Spirit Flower » Tue Sep 20, 2016 11:59 am

I was 26 when I got sober; and have had a sober adult life. I'm 57 now.

I hung out with young people in AA. Think about this: these were the same type of people I drank with only now sober. We had a blast.
I am grateful every day for sobriety.
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