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Postby Paul » Sun Mar 13, 2016 3:35 pm

Hi everyone, I'm new to all this, well AA that is, I've struggled with drink for many years and now after 4 months dry on my own need some support? Never tried this so any advise help would be appreciated, am struggling through at the moment a very unhappy sober person
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Postby Stepchild » Sun Mar 13, 2016 4:12 pm

Welcome Paul. I too...Struggled with my drinking for many years. To tell you the truth...AA is something I didn't want to have anything to with. My drinking got so out of hand...I had a brother that threw me into a rehab...As he put it...Rather than watch me die. I was introduced to the book Alcoholics Anonymous there and I dived into it. It explained my problem to me like nobody ever had. There is a section called The Doctor's Opinion...That and the first three chapters describe it well. I could relate. I recommend you read it...And reread it...See if you relate. Get to a meeting if you can...Just go and listen....You can ask any questions about the book...Or AA in general here. We help each other. The book is available free online....Glad you found the place.
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Postby Robert R » Sun Mar 13, 2016 4:24 pm

Welcome Paul, Great that you are reaching out and have recognised that merely not drinking is not the solution to what ails us. In the fellowship of AA I met folks who had been where I was and they had a solution to what ailed me. They shared the simple solution with me, which I grasped onto with fervour. As a result I have enjoyed the best 8 years of my life to date, alcohol free and at peace with myself, my fellows and the world around me. There for you too my friend.
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Postby ezdzit247 » Sun Mar 13, 2016 4:49 pm

Paul wrote:Hi everyone, I'm new to all this, well AA that is, I've struggled with drink for many years and now after 4 months dry on my own need some support? Never tried this so any advise help would be appreciated, am struggling through at the moment a very unhappy sober person

Hi Paul and welcome.

Congratulations on 4 months sober!

If you haven't been to an AA meeting yet, you can call the number listed for your local AA helpline to find out the meetings closest to your home. If you would like to speak to a sober AA member, your local AA helpline will find someone for you to talk to and ask any questions you have about the AA program. The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking. Please feel free to ask any questions you may have about AA here too.

Keep coming back.....
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Postby Brock » Sun Mar 13, 2016 5:14 pm

Welcome to e-AA Paul, the words you use “struggling” and “unhappy” are very familiar to me, and all those I have seen who try to quit drinking on their own will power. Our book speaks of 'happy joyous and free,' and the fact that the problem 'no longer exists for us.' I have found this to be true and it's not half as hard as it looks to achieve, give the AA program a try you will see these things for yourself, all the best to you.
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Postby Spirit Flower » Sun Mar 13, 2016 5:25 pm

Welcome Paul. I know how you feel. After I quit drinking on my own, I quickly went emotionally off the tracks. Things got better as I worked the steps and also got engaged in the fellowship.
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Postby tyg » Mon Mar 14, 2016 12:25 am

Welcome Paul, hope to read more of you!

Online AA is a wonderful asset to my recovery but it could not replace my face2face AA. Sitting down with another alcoholic to show me how to apply these 12 steps in my life was important. I need the face2face fellowship to carry the message & reach out to help others, meet people, interact with them and build relationships in AA. So many experiences, friendships and other things that online AA isn't able to offer.
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Postby PaigeB » Mon Mar 14, 2016 10:15 am

Face to face contact with other alcoholics was my beginning in the program. I looked in their eyes and saw the truth... They had recovered from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. I wanted what they had and they were willing, even happy, to share with me what worked for them.

No matter where you are in the world, AA is there and available to assist you. There is Hope. We have a solution that works no matter where you are or what you believe. If you think you have a problem with alcohol, we have a solution. Follow the links on this page to find a meeting near you.
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