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by Steven F
Fri Jul 08, 2011 1:32 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 13th Step
Replies: 15
Views: 4902

Re: 13th Step

Hey, please keep asking! If the answer becomes obsolete for you, it still might serve some other reader ;-).
by Steven F
Fri Jul 08, 2011 1:29 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Question about sponsers
Replies: 10
Views: 1842

Re: Question about sponsers

Glad to hear you are doing ok, and especially that you have talked about it with her ;-). From my experience as a sponsor, I would like to say that sponsors are not some kind of all-knowing AA specialists. They are just drunks, just like you. The difference is that they have worked the steps where y...
by Steven F
Thu Jul 07, 2011 1:33 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: High Bottom Drunk
Replies: 37
Views: 15400

Re: High Bottom Drunk

When I came in, I was clean, had a "normal life", and was functioning. Sort of. On auto-pilot. The truth is, I couldn't care less who or where I was. I was completely dis-engaged from life, from my partner, from my kids. An emotional wasteland. If you would have met me and wanted me to be profession...
by Steven F
Thu Jul 07, 2011 12:55 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: DETOX
Replies: 11
Views: 1784


This is an odd question, but I look absolutely terrible at the moment. Bloodshot eyes, bags under my eyes, pasty skin, have the sweats, and I probably don't smell too good. Is it abnormal for people to come in dazed and terribly hungover? I don't want to scare everybody off. Don't worry about that....
by Steven F
Thu Jul 07, 2011 12:47 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: is it ok to talk just about AA
Replies: 25
Views: 3700

Re: is it ok to talk just about AA WITH NO CONNECTIONS TO OT

Hi there! First off - and you know this, of course - no single person talks for AA as a whole. The fact that others didn't engage in the discussion you refer to does not mean that there is some kind of "official answer" or that there are no different opinions. It just means people didn't catch it, o...
by Steven F
Fri Jul 01, 2011 12:45 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Do i tell people what i do for a living
Replies: 16
Views: 2384

Re: Do i tell people what i do for a living

I'm not sure what you mean by that question. Should you hide to the people in your AA group what you do? I would say no. Should you make a statement there? No. In an AA meeting, you are an equal to everyone else there, and the thing that makes you equal is that you are an alcoholic. What you do, how...
by Steven F
Fri Jul 01, 2011 12:31 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: White/Red wine vinegar.
Replies: 20
Views: 12037

Re: White/Red wine vinegar.

This question always reminds me of the tequila-soup I had for starters at new year's eve of 95 or 96 (can't remember too well)... As I understand it, alcohol does not cook off. Not just "not completely", but actually hardly at all. To make it disappear, you would have to burn it off. Evaporation doe...
by Steven F
Wed Jun 29, 2011 9:04 am
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: I need some advice....
Replies: 4
Views: 3334

Re: I need some advice....

I think our friends at Al-Anon will be much better equipped to answer you. Like AA, they too have meetings, and they probably have one close by. AA and Al-Anon are however not connected. We just know it exists, and we see that it is a lot of help to those who have to deal with us alcoholics. Please ...
by Steven F
Fri Jun 24, 2011 2:28 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Doing the 2 step with Prayer..ugh
Replies: 12
Views: 6824

Re: Doing the 2 step with Prayer..ugh

This comes from an oldtimer named Clarence S. Maybe it is something you can use. Step 2 - "We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity." Since we could not manage our own lives, of ourselves, we found ourselves to be powerless over alcohol, we were encouraged by...
by Steven F
Mon Jun 20, 2011 5:19 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: It aint workin
Replies: 23
Views: 3374

Re: It aint workin

Emotional sobriety is not a robotic state. It is understanding where your emotions come from, what their background is. And to not be "lived" by your emotions. I mean, they are part of you, but they don't control you, do they? AA is a programme for people who can't stop drinking on their own. To kee...
by Steven F
Sat Jun 18, 2011 11:36 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: When a long term sponsor goes south.... :(
Replies: 28
Views: 15919

Re: When a long term sponsor goes south.... :(

As I see it, the divorce and intimate relationship in AA themselves are nobody's business but of the persons involved. Inappropriate or not is a call that I stopped making quite a while ago. I think we can safely put that aside. Another thing is how you feel towards your sponsor. Obviously, you have...
by Steven F
Sat Jun 18, 2011 4:31 am
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: I'm starting a meeting! (and home group stuff)
Replies: 25
Views: 12480

Re: I'm starting a meeting! (and home group stuff)

We started a new meeting here in town last year March. It is the only English-speaking meeting, and I can't say I knew what I was doing :-). I have learned a lot from this meeting, or group, or whatever you want to call it (I don't care one bit). About the value of opening up the room so that people...
by Steven F
Tue Jun 14, 2011 12:38 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Speaker tapes.
Replies: 6
Views: 1262

Re: Speaker tapes.

Hi Mike! I never went that "low" - my personal bottom was emotional near-death. Peanuts when looked upon from the outside, but very real and painful from where I was standing. Guess I will never qualify as a speaker :-). But apart from the lack of heroic war stories, my story is the same of all thes...
by Steven F
Tue Jun 14, 2011 12:30 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Almost 9 years...
Replies: 1
Views: 620

Re: Almost 9 years...

Hi Loki, Forget about throwing away 8 years. Today is today, and this minute is where you start from. Tell me, have you been engaged in the programme of AA? Or is this "God" thing holding you back? Do you know about the big book - and have you read it? Let's talk! In...
by Steven F
Tue Jun 14, 2011 12:10 am
Forum: But We Aren't a Glum Lot ...
Topic: Funny or Bizarre Things Heard at AA Meetings
Replies: 11
Views: 12411

Re: Funny or Bizarre Things Heard at AA Meetings

Step 11: Sought through prayer and medication to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him...