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by Steven F
Wed Jul 20, 2011 12:50 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Ken
Replies: 16
Views: 4669

Re: Ken

I can only thank A.A. for enabling me to make this amend. Prior to A.A. if Mrs Tosh suggested I get in contact with my Mother, I was like "AAAAhhhhrrgggg shut up. You don't know what she's like. Etc"! And even into sobriety, there was a lot - and I mean a lot - of fear around this amend. But with a...
by Steven F
Wed Jul 20, 2011 11:55 am
Forum: The 12 Traditions of AA
Topic: Spiritual Principles.
Replies: 23
Views: 22388

Re: Spiritual Principles.

Good stuff - it is always interesting to try and figure out where all this comes from. "(...) sobriety--freedom from alcohol--through the teaching and practice of A.A.'s Twelve Steps, is the sole purpose of the group." (from As Bill Sees It, page 79) We use that in our group these days. And a questi...
by Steven F
Tue Jul 19, 2011 9:06 pm
Forum: The 12 Traditions of AA
Topic: Spiritual Principles.
Replies: 23
Views: 22388

Re: Spiritual Principles.

"... But there is One who has all power - that one is God. May you find Him now!" (page 59) However, I surely do understand today's AA proffers something entirely different. Interesting. I have read a good bit of the history of AA (including where it all came from), but I wouldn't say that this quo...
by Steven F
Tue Jul 19, 2011 1:12 am
Forum: The 12 Traditions of AA
Topic: Spiritual Principles.
Replies: 23
Views: 22388

Re: Spiritual Principles.

Monotheism That word alone makes me seriously doubt the origin of the others. I can not imagine this ever coming out of AA. It would mean that you would have to tell me what that one god is then, and that certainly is not the AA I know. Where did you get that stuff from? There is a great "analysis"...
by Steven F
Tue Jul 19, 2011 12:57 am
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: i feel hella sick
Replies: 5
Views: 2849

Re: i feel hella sick

Hi Shane! Cravings. You need to get through them. Just remember that it will get worse when you put alcohol in your system again. Sure, it might give you some temporary relief, but deep inside you know that you will just have to do it again at a later time, and that it will get harder. Once the alco...
by Steven F
Tue Jul 19, 2011 12:39 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Living Life on Life's Terms
Replies: 15
Views: 3501

Re: Living Life on Life's Terms

If there were no god to transform us, and keep us sober, would that mean we DO IT OURSELVES? Hey man, if that works for you: go ahead! 8) Didn't work for me like that, but that's just me... And on the God thing - the three-letter word that comes so laden with preconception and emotional baggage... ...
by Steven F
Mon Jul 18, 2011 11:51 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Meeting of one under attack - Advise needed please!!
Replies: 36
Views: 5008

Re: Meeting of one under attack - Advise needed please!!

Just some thoughts... Loner groups are for those who are physically isolated from AA as a whole, due to geography or physical inability to get to a meeting. Whilst I'm sure that many folks who can very easily get around in cities join such groups, they are not alone and isolated from AA as a whole.....
by Steven F
Mon Jul 18, 2011 11:30 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Day 5 1200am
Replies: 8
Views: 1303

Re: Day 5 1200am

Hi Shady! Well. What have you been doing sofar? Part of what you (probably) are feeling right now is physical. That will stop when the alcohol has left your body. The other part is obsessing about drinking, because you have the illusion that alcohol still can do something for you. The bad news is th...
by Steven F
Mon Jul 18, 2011 11:46 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: According to Bill
Replies: 10
Views: 6385

Re: According to Bill

Sometimes I feel Bill was just complicating things in trying to explain them... To me, part of the programme is to be accountable to others. That means that, when in doubt (or even when not in doubt), I will run things by fellow alcoholics. They will ask a question, make a remark, give me pause, so ...
by Steven F
Sun Jul 17, 2011 11:42 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: New to meetings
Replies: 8
Views: 1327

Re: New to meetings

Hi Gary, Just a thought - do you think people who are happy with their drinking and are not obsessed spend that much time thinking about this stuff? The war stories, losses, jail, DUI, ... are circumstantial. They are important for us to hear, because they remind us of what can happen. But they are ...
by Steven F
Sun Jul 17, 2011 12:43 pm
Forum: But We Aren't a Glum Lot ...
Topic: Funny or Bizarre Things Heard at AA Meetings
Replies: 11
Views: 12411

Re: Funny or Bizarre Things Heard at AA Meetings

On a tape: for us, taking that next drink is like having sex with a gorilla. You're not done until the gorilla is done.
by Steven F
Fri Jul 15, 2011 4:34 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Alcoholics and Addicts
Replies: 40
Views: 5755

Re: Alcoholics and Addicts

Really, when I got here, I found the guy that said he was an addict alcoholic and mentioned cocaine in his share much less threatening then the guy who said he had not had a drink in 15 years, talked about god and wanted to stand in a circle holding hands while we prayed at the end of the meeting. ...
by Steven F
Tue Jul 12, 2011 6:05 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Feelings hurt!
Replies: 24
Views: 3659

Re: Feelings hurt!

Hi KathyAnne, No, it is not a race per se. I need to pay attention in my answer here - if I get it right, you stopped drinking in May (compared to the year of the original poster). I don't mean to hurt anyone's feelings here, but imagine that you would go to the doctor with an ache, and the doctor t...
by Steven F
Mon Jul 11, 2011 11:27 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Feelings hurt!
Replies: 24
Views: 3659

Re: Feelings hurt!

I'm still working on step one with my sponsor... So, basically you are an alcoholic who is not drinking and who has been contemplating what the problem is for about a year. If that is true, you have been living with knowledge of the problem, without doing anything by way of solution, and without th...
by Steven F
Fri Jul 08, 2011 1:47 am
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: My mother is a mess. Please help me with some advice.
Replies: 7
Views: 6592

Re: My mother is a mess. Please help me with some advice.

That is all we can do, Paige. We all know the despair an active alcoholic lives in. We also all know there is a way out, and that we had to open that door ourselves. All we can do, as recovered alcoholics, is to show that there is indeed a door, and to be there when the other one grabs the doorknob...