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by Reborn
Thu Jan 05, 2017 4:44 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Bad confrontation
Replies: 17
Views: 5069

Re: Bad confrontation

7 months sober and trying to change AA...I see this all the time. Be happy that you can make a decision to not drink ever again and just stop without working the steps...for millions of Alcoholics myself included this is an impossibility. The slurs regarding your sexual orientation are absolutely wr...
by Reborn
Wed Dec 21, 2016 12:09 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: CRISIS
Replies: 7
Views: 3057

Re: CRISIS

There is relief in the steps...I think you know this. Maybe time to take some action...nothing changes If nothing changes.
by Reborn
Thu Dec 15, 2016 9:25 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Please advise, friends on a lady I'm temporarily assisting
Replies: 16
Views: 8570

Re: Please advise, friends on a lady I'm temporarily assisti

emeraldg wrote:
Please help. I don't know what else to do but pray. Thank you friends.
The only thing left to do is let it go...find another alcoholic to work with...simple. She may come back...she may not...we cannot fix anyone...pray for her and be there if or when she comes back.
by Reborn
Mon Dec 12, 2016 9:54 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Please advise, friends on a lady I'm temporarily assisting
Replies: 16
Views: 8570

Re: Please advise, friends on a lady I'm temporarily assisti

Perhaps I should walk away from this sponsorship as I don't see how I can be helpful if this woman is not interested in doing the steps. She goes to lots of meetings, and that is a good thing, however even the meetings she chooses to attend are dwindling, because there is always someone else in att...
by Reborn
Wed Dec 07, 2016 11:59 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Faith without works is dead
Replies: 7
Views: 8059

Faith without works is dead

"Faith without works is dead" is what AA is all about. The principles I have learned in this program have their power in the here and now. I can go through my day and do my nightly review as suggested in the Big Book...and say to myself "well I could have handled that better" or "man I was an asshol...
by Reborn
Fri Nov 25, 2016 10:47 pm
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Ew to AA and this site
Replies: 6
Views: 9241

Re: Ew to AA and this site

Practical experience shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other alcoholics. It works when other activities fail. The above is from the chapter working with others in the Big Book. It applies to sponsoring, being sponsored, talking to newcomers and old...
by Reborn
Tue Nov 15, 2016 11:16 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How Do I Know If I Have The Right Sponsor?
Replies: 9
Views: 6162

Re: How Do I Know If I Have The Right Sponsor?

There are no hard fast rules here...as Puppyears mentioned a sponsor that makes you search within yourself and tap that inner resource(Higher Power) is a keeper. My sponsor would often shut me off when I started whinning about life issues...a few days later we would talk and he would ask "so did you...
by Reborn
Thu Nov 10, 2016 10:29 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: 4th Step... Guilt... Self-Forgiveness?
Replies: 18
Views: 15705

Re: 4th Step... Guilt... Self-Forgiveness?

Hello Dave thanks for sharing. The best advice I can give you is keep moving forward. Remember there nothing you can do right here right now to change the past...in the big book on page 124 it says "Cling to the thought that, in God's hands, the dark past is the greatest possession you have the key ...
by Reborn
Thu Nov 10, 2016 11:31 am
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: Just Passed My 11th Month!!
Replies: 5
Views: 5973

Re: Just Passed My 11th Month!!

Welcome to e-aa lankbrev. Have you completed the 12 steps? I do understand that some folks need to have anti-anxiety pills because they are medically necessary...infact I was prescribed ativan for anxiety. But like all things that change my perception I abused the S*** out of the ativan and continue...
by Reborn
Mon Nov 07, 2016 4:36 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 84 Days
Replies: 12
Views: 12148

Re: 84 Days

Good job Roman keep trudgin my friend!!
by Reborn
Thu Nov 03, 2016 9:34 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: I'm new here.
Replies: 9
Views: 8377

Re: I'm new here.

Hey Del you mention the Big Book in your post. The answers are in that blue book my friend....at your next meeting listen for someone who has the type of sobriety you want and get busy working the steps....I'm glad you are here and sharing but it's time to take some action...nothing changes if nothi...
by Reborn
Thu Nov 03, 2016 9:18 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Letting go of people
Replies: 13
Views: 6368

Re: Letting go of people

Page 417 BB And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation—some fact of my life —unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it...
by Reborn
Fri Oct 28, 2016 10:29 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sober guy at the party
Replies: 5
Views: 5270

Sober guy at the party

I just got back from a trip home for my brother's wedding reception. It was great to see the family and spend some time with a few friends. There are a few folks in my immediate family who have symptoms of full blown alcoholism...It's difficult to watch sometimes because I see my old behavior manife...
by Reborn
Sat Oct 08, 2016 10:29 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sharing at meetings
Replies: 67
Views: 33494

Re: Sharing at meetings

In my area there are alot of treatment facilities...most of the meetings are over run with these folks mandated to be there. They are welcome...and some of them become willing to work the 12 steps and change their life. These meetings are super sick with only a few who attend regularly that are actu...
by Reborn
Sat Oct 08, 2016 9:56 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: A friends relapse
Replies: 13
Views: 11136

Re: A friends relapse

The only reason not hang around her anymore is if it is effecting your own sobriety. Not sure how long you have been sober or if you have completed the actions in the 12 steps...but I have several friends that still drink and it doesn't bother me at all...its their life and I can't project my proble...