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by tomsteve
Tue Nov 11, 2014 4:26 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Dealing with people who bring up the past repeatedly
Replies: 31
Views: 7694

Re: Dealing with people who bring up the past repeatedly

Lots you can say. One thing would be is you don't even know what I'm really like anymore. How bout you?mlets talk about how you really are. What's the point? Just a few replies off the top of my head. Yu don't have to be a doormat and are allowed to stand up for yourself. And to not allow unacceptab...
by tomsteve
Tue Nov 11, 2014 3:59 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Dealing with people who bring up the past repeatedly
Replies: 31
Views: 7694

Re: Dealing with people who bring up the past repeatedly

Whelp, what stands out to me is making you feel uneasy and shameful. I can't say for sure but maybe a reworking of the steps is in order As our past when brought up shouldn't cause that reaction. Maybe some 4th step or 9th step work was missed?
by tomsteve
Mon Nov 10, 2014 4:45 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I Don't Know If AA Is For Me
Replies: 32
Views: 13593

Re: I Don't Know If AA Is For Me

Yeah Mike O, it seems pretty impossible. As for the steps I just want to get them started and done. I've wasted enough time already. I'm glad ya want to get into the steps but I hope ya don't think ya do em once and all is blue skies and rainbows. This is something that must continue for our lifeti...
by tomsteve
Sun Nov 09, 2014 1:44 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Most common reasons for relapse
Replies: 27
Views: 5148

Re: Most common reasons for relapse

Letting up on the spiritual program of action and resting on my laurels.
by tomsteve
Thu Nov 06, 2014 10:53 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Nervous about third step
Replies: 26
Views: 10570

Re: Nervous about third step

Layed out on my bed buck naked. By myself, of course. Sponsor said to read pg 63. doesn't have to be that wording but the point was important.
Slept 12 hours that night. Hadn't done that in forever and a day.
by tomsteve
Tue Nov 04, 2014 6:22 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Should the Big Book be revised?
Replies: 71
Views: 30722

Re: Should the Big Book be revised?

When I got sober the bb showed me how smart I wasn't. Lots of words that I had used that I didn't know the meaning of and more that I had never heard of. I got a dictionary and asked questions. I didn't grasp it easily.i had to work for it. I don't see it as selfish to say I learned it, worked for m...
by tomsteve
Mon Nov 03, 2014 10:26 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Should the Big Book be revised?
Replies: 71
Views: 30722

Re: Should the Big Book be revised?

Some people think the writing is archaic and out of date. Me personally think over time people got dumb and too dam lazy to grab a dictionary and find out what the words they don't understand mean. It worked pretty dam good for me. And it is a real paper dictionary.Was even able to write the definit...
by tomsteve
Mon Nov 03, 2014 6:15 pm
Forum: Young People in AA (YPAA)
Topic: "Old AA" Vs "New AA"
Replies: 15
Views: 15487

Re: "Old AA" Vs "New AA"

"... Our problems as they relate to alcoholism..." Drugs and alcohol went hand in hand for me so drug use relates to alcoholism. Yup, some hard line egos old ANd young, ones who should rip out both bill and bobs stories from their bb. And while at it, throw out anything bill wrote while in the midst...
by tomsteve
Mon Nov 03, 2014 7:43 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: What I can't say at my meetings
Replies: 20
Views: 4339

Re: What I can't say at my meetings

At the point of desperation- knowing that if I drank any longer I would kill myself,I went to AA. I walked in not having a clue how to live. I was scared shitless but got some courage to walk into a meeting. I got the big book the first week and dove into it. I was amazed to be reading a book publis...
by tomsteve
Sat Nov 01, 2014 1:49 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Y.E.T.s
Replies: 15
Views: 4411

Re: Y.E.T.s

My sponser told me to seek info on the progressive nature of alcoholism, and the Y.E.T.s The thing i struggle with is, i havnt had a lot of consequences yet. I have the desire to stop drinking, but i do feel like if i do drink, nothing too terrible will happen to me. Can anyone help? You could be f...
by tomsteve
Sat Nov 01, 2014 3:24 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Unable to go to meetings!!!!
Replies: 29
Views: 5834

Re: Unable to go to meetings!!!!

Good to hear mall. I ask about the wording because I have ran across people who work their program and their program is not the program. Some criticize the way I carry the message. I'm good with it. I'm not one to beat around the bush. Nope, not a dam thing wrong with doing what the program says and...
by tomsteve
Fri Oct 31, 2014 8:22 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How did this happen?
Replies: 59
Views: 9738

Re: How did this happen?

Sponsor- pray for one then listen at meetings. When the studentis ready the teacher will appear.But would suggest stayin away from drunkalogue ramblings. Goin back to treatment- no advise here. Glad yer getting into the bb. There's a lot of promises other than just the 9th step ones that will materi...
by tomsteve
Fri Oct 31, 2014 8:14 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Unable to go to meetings!!!!
Replies: 29
Views: 5834

Re: Unable to go to meetings!!!!

One thing I just caught in your OP: how can I continue withMY program.....
Maybe YOUR program could be part of the problem?.
by tomsteve
Fri Oct 31, 2014 6:24 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Unable to go to meetings!!!!
Replies: 29
Views: 5834

Re: Unable to go to meetings!!!!

My experience is that sittin in meetings all day wasn't and still won't do anything to help me.Meeting makers make meetings and that's it. Sittin n the garage all day won't make me a car. My strength is being willing to Do what the big book says outside the doors of meetings. There were many times I...
by tomsteve
Fri Oct 31, 2014 4:12 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Going Abroad
Replies: 12
Views: 2766

Re: Going Abroad

You sure there's no meetings where yer goin? North pole????