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by Peter.H.
Mon Jul 07, 2014 4:38 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: quick and dirty
Replies: 34
Views: 19271

Re: quick and dirty

Hello Tosh.

I am sorry that my use of the word 'repentance' has upset you.
Now I feel restricted in word use for expressing my sobriety on this forum.
I pray that no one else, especially a newcomer, will be moderated so unfairly.
by Peter.H.
Mon Jul 07, 2014 1:48 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: quick and dirty
Replies: 34
Views: 19271

Re: quick and dirty

Repent originally means "to turn away, to change". To change our attitudes. We recover. .... If nothing changes, nothing changes. To change, we need to do an inventory, confess our transgressions, make amends - even daily, to continually clean our slate from resentments. We are in recovery from day...
by Peter.H.
Sun Jul 06, 2014 9:02 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 1
Replies: 20
Views: 10123

Re: Step 1

Step 1, for me, is about admitting that, because of alcoholism, my life had become unmanageable. Self-will was no longer reliable. I needed an infallible will, God's-will, to guide me from now on. God's-will for me is to stay sober; that is only one I need to know, the others are by faith. Many grat...
by Peter.H.
Sun Jul 06, 2014 8:45 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Craving Pot
Replies: 10
Views: 2249

Re: Craving Pot

Hello BPG. Early recovery is difficult because our coping strategy, with reality, is to run away from difficulties - like getting drunk or stoned. Recovery requires us to gain new coping strategies with a sober life. One of the best strategies is to ask yourself, "What would a person in recovery do?...
by Peter.H.
Sun Jul 06, 2014 6:44 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Meetings
Replies: 12
Views: 2029

Re: Meetings

Great to read that you value the meetings and your life. Keep up the good work hjbald. :D
by Peter.H.
Sun Jul 06, 2014 6:34 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Another Sponsor Story
Replies: 33
Views: 16427

Re: Another Sponsor Story

Over the years I had several sponsors. In short, I outgrew them, sometimes quickly sometimes slowly. In each case, we never became good friends - an issue I had with authority. Then I came across an old-timer whom I liked listening to whenever he shared at his home group. He refused to sponsor me, b...
by Peter.H.
Sun Jul 06, 2014 5:50 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: quick and dirty
Replies: 34
Views: 19271

Re: quick and dirty

Hello Tosh. My words in blue. (after all, the 12 step program is about repentance). No it is not! Serious. Repent originally means "to turn away, to change". To change our attitudes. We recover. .... If nothing changes, nothing changes. To change, we need to do an inventory, confess our transgressio...
by Peter.H.
Sun Jul 06, 2014 4:28 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: quick and dirty
Replies: 34
Views: 19271

Re: quick and dirty

I find leading by example and inviting the sponsee to join me works better. For example, I like to walk along the beach and chat with my sponsee. I usually take two plastic shopping bag with me to pick up rubbish along the way. My sponsee may ask what I am doing, I say 'penance' (after all, the 12 s...
by Peter.H.
Sun Jul 06, 2014 2:52 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: How to move from Step 1 and realizing you have.
Replies: 26
Views: 10002

Re: How to move from Step 1 and realizing you have.

I believe Dr Bob used to take people through Steps 1 to 3 by asking if they were an alcoholic (Step 1), if they believed in God, (Step 2) and then by some kind of prayer (Step 3), and then they'd get on with a Step 4. I'll dig the source out when I get a chance, but I think we can make such a big d...
by Peter.H.
Sun Jul 06, 2014 6:00 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Who here has recovered without religion?
Replies: 30
Views: 5005

Re: Who here has recovered without religion?

The way I see it, alcoholism is a mental disorder. As a result, I cannot totally rely on my thinking. I have this knack to make something irrational feel rational. I need another reference point, other than myself, to tell me the truth. AA is a spiritual program which asks us to rely on a Higher pow...
by Peter.H.
Sun Jul 06, 2014 5:38 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: How to move from Step 1 and realizing you have.
Replies: 26
Views: 10002

Re: How to move from Step 1 and realizing you have.

Hello stilljohnny. I recently chaired a meeting with this as a topic. The sharing was incredible, as members shared their ESH then used the book for support. I shared that Steps 1, 2 and 3 happened concurrently for me. Please share your thoughts on this topic. Oh yeah, my sobriety date is 10/22/93 t...
by Peter.H.
Sun Jul 06, 2014 5:13 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Somewhat Strange Experience
Replies: 3
Views: 1007

Re: Somewhat Strange Experience

Hello Silkworth. My words in blue. ... but I was still insistent that they pay a price for disrespecting me. And in an instant my brain shifted gears, I started thinking that these guys are so stupid I honestly feel sorry for them . Heck I just don't feel sorry for them I am going to pray to God tha...