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by Ida
Mon Sep 16, 2013 6:40 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Should someone without a sponsor sponsor?
Replies: 16
Views: 5178

Re: Should someone without a sponsor sponsor?

Thanks again, everyone. I've heard some good things here.
by Ida
Thu Sep 12, 2013 9:06 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Should someone without a sponsor sponsor?
Replies: 16
Views: 5178

Re: Should someone without a sponsor sponsor?

Thanks everyone. I've been through the steps with a sponsor, but only twice, so I feel shaky never having sponsored someone myself. I also feel afraid because my ex-sponsor could very well judge me and call me out for sponsoring someone (just being honest about my fears). I know this gal probably do...
by Ida
Wed Sep 11, 2013 7:51 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Should someone without a sponsor sponsor?
Replies: 16
Views: 5178

Should someone without a sponsor sponsor?

O.K. guys, I need some advice: I've been approached by a woman who has had at least one slip, and has just gotten out of rehab (no judgments, I'm just giving info). The main problem I have with saying yes is that I do not have a sponsor myself. Those of you folks on this site that have talked with m...
by Ida
Wed Sep 11, 2013 7:42 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsors Giving "Willingness Tests"?
Replies: 52
Views: 28634

Re: Sponsors Giving "Willingness Tests"?

Yeah, my sponsor gave me willingness tests. Nothing crazy, but she made me call her once a day every day for the first 30 days before she would agree to sponsor me (that should have been my first sign). She would also tell me to mark certain things in my book with certain colors of ink (colors hard ...
by Ida
Sun Jun 30, 2013 1:52 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: The Steps Aren't Necessary
Replies: 82
Views: 53042

Re: The Steps Aren't Necessary

I've heard a lot of people convey much more harmful messages than that to newcomers. Here's my thought on the matter: if someone says something in a meeting that pisses me off, it is simply a nice opportunity to explore why that comment pissed me off so much in the first place. Even if that person i...
by Ida
Sun Jun 30, 2013 1:39 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: I've had a slight difference of opinion with my sponsor...
Replies: 54
Views: 21907

Re: I've had a slight difference of opinion with my sponsor.

You can only lead a horse to water, and I'm sure you know the rest. You can only do what you can do, and I think you put a lot of thought into this situation before deciding the best course of action for that particular case. It is ultimately up to your sponsee to do what needs to be done to get wel...
by Ida
Sun Jun 30, 2013 1:12 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 70 hours since my last drink
Replies: 8
Views: 2816

Re: 70 hours since my last drink

I know I just cannot stop at one. Hey Elizabeth! Thank you so much for posting this! I was just listening to my good non-alcoholic friend try to explain to me that now that I have not had a drink in four years, I can handle social drinking again. I haven't ever drank over this philosophical convers...
by Ida
Sat Jun 29, 2013 10:38 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Feeling discouraged
Replies: 46
Views: 16001

Re: Feeling discouraged

Taryn, I have been where you are so many times. I broke off with my sponsor last fall due to philosophical differences and trust issues. I live in a very small town, and while the members of the fellowship here would never speak about personal matters to outsiders, I've noticed that they are pretty ...
by Ida
Fri Jun 21, 2013 10:32 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Do you really need a sponsor?
Replies: 57
Views: 38591

Re: Do you really need a sponsor?

avaneesh912 wrote:its better to build a relationship with somebody who will look at our side in a un-biased manner.
I totally agree with this statement, but I've had past sponsors that were not objective either. I think God chooses the sponsors we need, whether they are found in the program or not.
by Ida
Thu Jun 06, 2013 11:32 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: How to let go of sponsor?
Replies: 43
Views: 40565

Re: How to let go of sponsor?

I don't feel so alone either. Jim, your words were like a giant light bulb going on in my head! I have been so fretful about not having a sponsor because everyone in the program here really feel that if you don't have a sponsor, you are a second class citizen. I never felt like I needed one; but I f...
by Ida
Thu Jun 06, 2013 11:13 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Dealing with others drinking while sober
Replies: 5
Views: 1407

Re: Dealing with others drinking while sober

I bit the bullet and took care of it today. Luckily no major confrontations took place. I imagine this will hurt our semi-friendship, but that is not under my control. Honestly, from the bottom of my heart, thanks so much for the advice. I feel so much better!
by Ida
Thu Jun 06, 2013 6:47 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Dealing with others drinking while sober
Replies: 5
Views: 1407

Re: Dealing with others drinking while sober

Thank you for you support, JohnZ. I haven't slept all night over this issue. I know that I should look at these situations as learning opportunities, but it is hard sometimes, ya know? Thanks again. You really helped me feel like I can do this.
by Ida
Thu Jun 06, 2013 6:39 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: How to let go of sponsor?
Replies: 43
Views: 40565

Re: How to let go of sponsor?

I was in a similar situation just last fall. I had been with my now ex-sponsor for 2 and 1/2 years, so it was really awkward to end it. She wasn't quite as severe as what you are dealing with, but it was basically the same type of problem. I actually saw the signs that things were getting dysfunctio...
by Ida
Thu Jun 06, 2013 1:05 am
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: A strange Third Tradition case...
Replies: 21
Views: 20338

Re: A strange Third Tradition case...

When I was brand spanking new in the program, there was this guy that started coming to meetings that I had met through a drinking friend of mine back when I was still drinking. I remember thinking it was odd he was there because when I had met him, he didn't drink and ended up breaking up with my d...
by Ida
Thu Jun 06, 2013 12:45 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Dealing with others drinking while sober
Replies: 5
Views: 1407

Dealing with others drinking while sober

I have to say that as an ex-drunk I am very tolerant of people I encounter that are drunk. Of course I can't judge them because they are only doing the exact same things I used to do, but tonight I encountered a situation that made me see red, feel sick, sad, and simply want to sever some ties with ...