The e-AA Group

It is unfortunate but true, for every piece of evidence put in front of an alcoholic who does not want to stop drinking, he will find an excuse, a reason why the evidence is ‘wrong.’ Our own literature gives examples of alcoholism, mainly the fact that an alcoholic can not have just one or two drink...

Keep it simple and look for the answers in the Big Book, 12 & 12 and other AA Literature. Maybe, but the same Big book says on page 87, under ‘Into Action’ - There are many helpful books also. Suggestions about these may be obtained from one's priest, minister, or rabbi. OK, maybe we have good caus...

You are not alone, in it’s preview of the book ‘the power of now,’ a major newspaper, I think the new york times, said it was a lot of mumbo jumbo. It takes time reading, and most importantly stopping now and again and ‘pondering’ on what he is saying. After a couple of years of reading a bit each d...

On the bright side of these problems, is the fact that you recognize them as bad habits, I think the real danger would be to deny it. Each time you are about to engage in doing any of them, asking your higher power, whoever that may be, for strength, will help you overcome it. The same steps, saying...

How do you use principles before personalities in the program?  With some personalities I keep a distance.

Well done for agreeing to try to help, and best of luck.

Welcome here Elena. As you say, we decide to stop, then after a few days go back to it. Because it brings a relief from the troubles of life, and seems like fun, but the fun is soon over and the troubles are still there, usually more than before. When an alcoholic is not drinking they tend to feel r...

Welcome Britney. It’s a pity AA hasn't lived up to your expectations, and I suspect that this may be quite a common complaint. The way AA meetings are often portrayed to the public is as a ‘support group,’ so it’s fair that newcomers might expect support concerning all their problems, and some frien...

Welcome here and thanks for an interesting question, I saw it yesterday but couldn’t figure a good answer, mainly because AA’s traditions and concepts are written in a sort of we should do this, or it’s best practice to do this or that, there are no ‘musts.’ I live in the Caribbean, and there are ma...

The problem here seems to be, that the sponsee understands the sponsors instruction to be - “5 examples of powerlessness over alcohol that I am experiencing in that day and 5 examples of how my life is unmanageable in that day for 7 consecutive days.” If it were just 5 examples of powerlessness not ...

Welcome here Becca, that was a fine post not a rant at all, it’s the sort of story heard at AA meetings, and on forums like these. Especially when you speak of being out of control where alcohol is concerned, accepting that absolutely, is step #1. No one will try to fool you that you won’t be tempte...

I agree with you that what he has asked might require making things up, and maybe the best approach is telling him or texting or whatever, a version of what you said here. Unless he is expecting you to put ‘ridiculous’ sorts of things, in my case it’s Friday, and that’s the day I do my chore of clea...

Welcome here abes. Certainly the step can be done with a counselor, this is part of what the book says - Rightly and naturally, we think well before we choose the person or persons with whom to take this intimate and confidential step. Those of us belonging to a religious denomination which requires...

Welcome Gardngal. Your story hits home and brings back memories for me, and I expect any alcoholic who reads it. Two things I noticed which I find most important – Firstly “I want to live life without thinking of when my next drink will happen,” this scared me too, because I felt that for the rest o...

Hello eran. I second what Betsy said, there is not much I want to add, except a little ‘test’ AA has, a series of questions which I remember someone having me answer when I first came to AA, I had a very high score. Here it is - Is A.A. For You – 12 Questions. http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/is-aa-for...