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by Brock
Tue Jan 21, 2020 5:33 am
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: When is drinking a problem?
Replies: 11
Views: 80

Re: When is drinking a problem?

It is unfortunate but true, for every piece of evidence put in front of an alcoholic who does not want to stop drinking, he will find an excuse, a reason why the evidence is ‘wrong.’ Our own literature gives examples of alcoholism, mainly the fact that an alcoholic can not have just one or two drink...
by Brock
Sat Jan 18, 2020 2:28 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Resentment towards myself
Replies: 17
Views: 839

Re: Resentment towards myself

Keep it simple and look for the answers in the Big Book, 12 & 12 and other AA Literature. Maybe, but the same Big book says on page 87, under ‘Into Action’ - There are many helpful books also. Suggestions about these may be obtained from one's priest, minister, or rabbi. OK, maybe we have good caus...
by Brock
Sat Jan 18, 2020 6:50 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Resentment towards myself
Replies: 17
Views: 839

Re: Resentment towards myself

You are not alone, in it’s preview of the book ‘the power of now,’ a major newspaper, I think the new york times, said it was a lot of mumbo jumbo. It takes time reading, and most importantly stopping now and again and ‘pondering’ on what he is saying. After a couple of years of reading a bit each d...
by Brock
Sat Jan 18, 2020 6:35 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New bad habits
Replies: 9
Views: 594

Re: New bad habits

On the bright side of these problems, is the fact that you recognize them as bad habits, I think the real danger would be to deny it. Each time you are about to engage in doing any of them, asking your higher power, whoever that may be, for strength, will help you overcome it. The same steps, saying...
by Brock
Thu Jan 16, 2020 12:49 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at meetings.
Replies: 4
Views: 411

Questions heard at meetings.

How do you use principles before personalities in the program?  With some personalities I keep a distance.
by Brock
Thu Jan 09, 2020 12:10 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Wish me luck!
Replies: 4
Views: 160

Re: Wish me luck!

Well done for agreeing to try to help, and best of luck.
by Brock
Tue Jan 07, 2020 10:17 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Just starting
Replies: 23
Views: 690

Re: Just starting

Welcome here Elena. As you say, we decide to stop, then after a few days go back to it. Because it brings a relief from the troubles of life, and seems like fun, but the fun is soon over and the troubles are still there, usually more than before. When an alcoholic is not drinking they tend to feel r...
by Brock
Mon Jan 06, 2020 6:50 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: My first year of sobriety on January 3rd
Replies: 9
Views: 431

Re: My first year of sobriety on January 3rd

Welcome Britney. It’s a pity AA hasn't lived up to your expectations, and I suspect that this may be quite a common complaint. The way AA meetings are often portrayed to the public is as a ‘support group,’ so it’s fair that newcomers might expect support concerning all their problems, and some frien...
by Brock
Sun Jan 05, 2020 11:30 am
Forum: The 12 Traditions of AA
Topic: Inappropriate Spending without Group Conscience
Replies: 5
Views: 273

Re: Inappropriate Spending without Group Conscience

Welcome here and thanks for an interesting question, I saw it yesterday but couldn’t figure a good answer, mainly because AA’s traditions and concepts are written in a sort of we should do this, or it’s best practice to do this or that, there are no ‘musts.’ I live in the Caribbean, and there are ma...
by Brock
Fri Jan 03, 2020 7:35 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 653

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

The problem here seems to be, that the sponsee understands the sponsors instruction to be - “5 examples of powerlessness over alcohol that I am experiencing in that day and 5 examples of how my life is unmanageable in that day for 7 consecutive days.” If it were just 5 examples of powerlessness not ...
by Brock
Fri Jan 03, 2020 9:59 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The evenings
Replies: 5
Views: 312

Re: The evenings

Welcome here Becca, that was a fine post not a rant at all, it’s the sort of story heard at AA meetings, and on forums like these. Especially when you speak of being out of control where alcohol is concerned, accepting that absolutely, is step #1. No one will try to fool you that you won’t be tempte...
by Brock
Fri Jan 03, 2020 7:01 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 653

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

I agree with you that what he has asked might require making things up, and maybe the best approach is telling him or texting or whatever, a version of what you said here. Unless he is expecting you to put ‘ridiculous’ sorts of things, in my case it’s Friday, and that’s the day I do my chore of clea...
by Brock
Wed Jan 01, 2020 6:42 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Female sponsor?
Replies: 2
Views: 200

Re: Female sponsor?

Welcome here abes. Certainly the step can be done with a counselor, this is part of what the book says - Rightly and naturally, we think well before we choose the person or persons with whom to take this intimate and confidential step. Those of us belonging to a religious denomination which requires...
by Brock
Tue Dec 31, 2019 2:21 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Wanting a new way of life
Replies: 13
Views: 434

Re: Wanting a new way of life

Welcome Gardngal. Your story hits home and brings back memories for me, and I expect any alcoholic who reads it. Two things I noticed which I find most important – Firstly “I want to live life without thinking of when my next drink will happen,” this scared me too, because I felt that for the rest o...
by Brock
Tue Dec 31, 2019 4:21 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Just starting
Replies: 23
Views: 690

Re: Just starting

Hello eran. I second what Betsy said, there is not much I want to add, except a little ‘test’ AA has, a series of questions which I remember someone having me answer when I first came to AA, I had a very high score. Here it is - Is A.A. For You – 12 Questions. http://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/is-aa-for...