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by PaigeB
Wed Jan 22, 2020 11:54 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 8
Replies: 3
Views: 48

Re: Step 8

Hello, I'm currently in a treatment program and we have a weekly homework assignment I was looking for some help with. We have to ask 3 people in A.A. a question regarding one of the 12 steps. My question this week is "Did anyone you tried to make amends with react negatively, and if so, how did yo...
by PaigeB
Tue Jan 21, 2020 1:14 pm
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: When is drinking a problem?
Replies: 11
Views: 80

Re: When is drinking a problem?

Thank you very much for your replies. I was hoping there is a rule that goes something along the line of 3 drinks a day are OK but 10 not... =confused I feel silly now for expecting that. Life is not black and white, is it? on page xxvi that "the action of alcohol on an alcoholic is a manifestation...
by PaigeB
Tue Jan 21, 2020 12:31 pm
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: When is drinking a problem?
Replies: 11
Views: 80

Re: When is drinking a problem?

The member talks to the newcomer not in a spirit of power but in a spirit of humility and weakness. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS COMES OF AGE, p. 279 Oh I have such belligerence come out of my mouth when my family tried to talk to me about my drinking. No matter how much I loved them, I could show NO weakn...
by PaigeB
Sat Jan 18, 2020 1:48 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New bad habits
Replies: 9
Views: 594

Re: New bad habits

I have been sober for almost a month now but now other bad habits are re emerging. I previously suffered for anorexia/bulimia and now that the drinking has stopped this has re emerged. I have also made several irresponsible expensive purchases. Has anyone else experienced re emerging bad habits fol...
by PaigeB
Sat Jan 18, 2020 1:24 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Resentment towards myself
Replies: 17
Views: 839

Re: Resentment towards myself

Yes so I’ve been told many times about his work my sponser is a big fan unfortunatly I just can’t ‘get it’......yet :shock: Me either. Keep it simple and look for the answers in the Big Book, 12 & 12 and other AA Literature. :P I actually changed sponsors around 7 years and started the 12 Step all ...
by PaigeB
Fri Jan 17, 2020 1:59 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at meetings.
Replies: 4
Views: 411

Re: Questions heard at meetings.

Hug the unhuggable - Love the unlovable.

Who am I to judge? If I had acted angrily or indifferently to ME when I came in, both of ME would be dead. :? :shock: :arrow: Actions not words. Principles are best lived and not spouted.
by PaigeB
Fri Jan 17, 2020 12:17 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: One Week Sober Today!
Replies: 13
Views: 676

Re: One Week Sober Today!

Rafita wrote:
Fri Jan 17, 2020 2:34 am
21 days sober today =biggrin
Ooooohhhhhh Rafita!!! This makes us ALL :D :D :D

21 days is a big landmark. Be sure you Cherish your sober date. Write it in your Big Book. We are with you!

Snow day in Iowa today... and tomorrow - thanks for the well wishes!
by PaigeB
Tue Jan 14, 2020 1:49 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 1 year, 9 months sober - Really need help with depression/being an adult
Replies: 12
Views: 497

Re: 1 year, 9 months sober - Really need help with depression/being an adult

Sometimes you have to forgive yourself for struggling to forgive. What you're going through is normal, especially if you've been deeply hurt. ~ Dr. Shawne Duperon (Via Project Forgive)
by PaigeB
Tue Jan 14, 2020 1:25 pm
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Incoming thumper
Replies: 4
Views: 524

Re: Incoming thumper

I’m Dan and I’m a recovered alcoholic. Been lurking here for a while, liked what I’ve read so signed up. Been involved on and off with online AA since I came into recovery, grateful to be here. Looking forward to some Dan Akroyd kind of humor! But if you dance you'll have to dance with the Unseen b...
by PaigeB
Mon Jan 13, 2020 1:16 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 1 year, 9 months sober - Really need help with depression/being an adult
Replies: 12
Views: 497

Re: 1 year, 9 months sober - Really need help with depression/being an adult

Note: I am secular and for lack of a better description use the program/AA as a Higher Power. I pray to God/HP every morning and evening, but I struggle with faith. I am trying to "give it over" and "rely on my higher power" to the best of my ability, but I don't know what that really means. I am u...
by PaigeB
Sun Jan 12, 2020 1:26 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step Ten
Replies: 3
Views: 494

Re: Step Ten

I am truly interested in how people WORK Step 10....
by PaigeB
Sat Jan 11, 2020 1:25 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step Ten
Replies: 3
Views: 494

Re: Step Ten

I am just reading an excellent book called Drop the Rock .. the ripple effect. The book is all about using step ten to work steps 6 and 7 to give some balance in your life. Some really good insights in there. Step ten is the process of observing any imbalances in our lives. These can be something w...
by PaigeB
Sat Jan 11, 2020 12:47 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 653

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

No one really EVER knows the inner workings of another person. I have done homework that has been boring and other times a deep inner revelation. Willingness to do the work might be the KEY.
by PaigeB
Wed Jan 08, 2020 3:31 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine
Replies: 8
Views: 320

Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Craving vs desire vs thoughts of... I still have random intrusive "thoughts of" sometime. Recently as last week I was PO'd and my brain said, "Damn! I could use a drink!" Whoa... danger danger. I texted my 10th Step buddy and she said, "Turn your thoughts..." Which is exactly what you did! Coming he...
by PaigeB
Wed Jan 08, 2020 3:16 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The evenings
Replies: 5
Views: 312

Re: The evenings

LandCruiserFan wrote:
Tue Jan 07, 2020 9:45 am
There’s no judgement here or at your meetings. This is something only fellow AAers can really understand.
Hear Hear!