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by Tom S
Tue May 31, 2016 5:56 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Young lady 6 months sober not helping at home group
Replies: 10
Views: 8599

Re: Young lady 6 months sober not helping at home group

...maybe a great subject to pray on, to meditate about and to discuss with one's sponsor...
by Tom S
Thu May 26, 2016 6:26 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Self-Knowledge was the answer. Not!
Replies: 6
Views: 6684

Re: Self-Knowledge was the answer. Not!

Good reminders, the car salesman and the accountant.
Not to mention that wonder of wonders...my personal favourite...The Jaywalker!
The Wiley Coyote of AA.
Phew
by Tom S
Mon Apr 11, 2016 11:40 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsoring the habitual relapser...
Replies: 21
Views: 13317

Re: Sponsoring the habitual relapser...

...I have no solutions, only empathy. And the 12 & 12, has the wonderful words about " love and suffering being the great disciplinarians of AA". My experience, so far, has shown me: consulting with my sponsor and "the wise elders" has been useful, remembering the sponsee belongs to themselves, the ...
by Tom S
Fri Mar 25, 2016 6:12 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: AA Tolerance
Replies: 24
Views: 9428

Re: AA Tolerance

Just my observation over the past wee while that my ego loves isolating me. And that there is a communion of like minded souls in an AA meeting sharing a common solution to a common problem. In my personal experience this has prove to be a very good thing indeed. Personally, I have plenty of challen...
by Tom S
Thu Feb 25, 2016 7:41 am
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: 11,688 days
Replies: 15
Views: 6975

Re: 11,688 days

To my fellow traveller
Deep, heartfelt gratitude for your persistent, beautiful nuanced sharing.
You flood the darkness with the light of hope.
From the heart.
Grateful for the Gift
by Tom S
Fri Feb 19, 2016 11:12 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Male sponsor for female?
Replies: 43
Views: 31358

Re: Male sponsor for female?

My experience has shown that it works best when boys work with boys and girls work with girls. Pretty much period, end of message. Especially when the temptation, no matter how subtly camouflaged, from either party is different, it is to make an exception. That tiniest niggle should be a bright red ...
by Tom S
Sat Jan 23, 2016 11:41 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: The Power of Now
Replies: 77
Views: 36020

Re: The Power of Now

I find this a powerful, useful and highly relevant thread. Thank you all for your input. Have read/ reread A New Earth by ET, very slowly, several times. So good. Am reading Sam Harris with a bit of trepidation and much fascination. Have not yet read PON but it is in the queue coming up shortly. Bes...
by Tom S
Fri Jan 15, 2016 7:15 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Painbodies in Relationship!
Replies: 3
Views: 2310

Re: Painbodies in Relationship!

Phew! Superb. So do we flee? Or do we begin the real work of transformation of ourselves? There are no easy, pat answers to the manifestation of the human condition. But my life lived in consistent congruence, as well as I can manage, with certain timeless spiritual principles seems the best respons...
by Tom S
Wed Jan 06, 2016 7:36 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: An Obsession With Doing It Alone
Replies: 25
Views: 8763

Re: An Obsession With Doing It Alone

Great points,
Thanks
by Tom S
Tue Dec 22, 2015 7:44 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Merl here. 30 day medallion in hand and now at day 48!
Replies: 24
Views: 13156

Re: Merl here. 30 day medallion in hand and now at day 48!

Absolutely love it.
Another miracle in the making.
Thanks for letting us know.
Grateful for the Gift
by Tom S
Sun Oct 25, 2015 10:43 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Documentary - The Anonymous People
Replies: 19
Views: 17975

Re: Documentary - The Anonymous People

Jeez you guys are a light hearted lot!
Lovely.
by Tom S
Sun Jul 19, 2015 6:40 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: What Tangled Webs We Weave
Replies: 4
Views: 2138

Re: What Tangled Webs We Weave

What a great share.
A miracle.
It works like that for me too.
People actually find it safe to ask me to do something.
Who'd ever have thought that.
Blessings
by Tom S
Sun Jul 19, 2015 6:30 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: being right
Replies: 48
Views: 13413

Re: being right

So as Sergeant Friday used to say on Dragnet: " Just the facts" When I drank I spent a lot of time trying to show everybody I was right. When I started trying to do what you guys suggested, I started asking to be shown the way of patience, tolerance, kindliness and love. I'm happier now and so are t...
by Tom S
Fri Jul 10, 2015 6:20 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: AA History -- Nancy O.
Replies: 26
Views: 10566

Re: AA History -- Nancy O.

Wow
What a great read.
Thank you.
Pretty humbling...
by Tom S
Fri Jul 10, 2015 6:10 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: I'm new
Replies: 12
Views: 4975

Re: I'm new

When you decide you 're well and truly done, we're here. Until then, all we can really do is to show you that there is a way out. We were all much like you, in our own unique way. It 's not easy, but it is simple and straight forward. But you have to want it deeply to get it. Eventually, the gift of...