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by avaneesh912
Thu Nov 14, 2019 4:39 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: I dont want to get up in the morning.
Replies: 11
Views: 105

Re: I dont want to get up in the morning.

I'm a little familiar with things the Big Book says about self pity or resentments that are irrational or even petty. But what does it say to do about regret and shame for truly awful things? Things that can't be undone or truly amended? Is that kind of guilt really just self pity? The 9th step pro...
by avaneesh912
Wed Nov 13, 2019 12:21 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Shame is a favorite weapon of our disease
Replies: 8
Views: 90

Re: Shame is a favorite weapon of our disease

We Do have a Choice, it is just that 1 Choice will probably mean Death or a Padded Cell, maybe even the Death of others. The question is. "Did you learn anything from the Slip?" Was Alcohol an Answer this time? Was it any better? So you believe people knowing that a drink would lead to death or pad...
by avaneesh912
Wed Nov 13, 2019 4:33 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Shame is a favorite weapon of our disease
Replies: 8
Views: 90

Re: Shame is a favorite weapon of our disease

That is because we think we had a choice in that action. Maybe when we started it looked like we had to do something about it. But there came a point where everything was at stake, yet we drank. The story of the Car salesman is a perfect one. Not sure if Bill came up with that character or is it a r...
by avaneesh912
Mon Nov 11, 2019 3:03 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I need help
Replies: 12
Views: 112

Re: I need help

I was always just so embarrassed and afraid of letting people down who tried to help. We are embarrassed because we believe we had a choice that we made a decision in drinking. But if you look closely the deliberation that goes on in the mind prior to taking the drink, we would have thought about i...
by avaneesh912
Mon Nov 11, 2019 10:45 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I need help
Replies: 12
Views: 112

Re: I need help

There is a person in the group i go to he lives in a assisted living environment. But he can attend meetings and i am telling you, that guy remembers all the numbers by heart and calls them every day. He literally attends all the meetings at the group. There are about 4 in a day and he gets ride to ...
by avaneesh912
Sat Nov 09, 2019 10:39 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 28
Views: 239

Re: New Slogans

other than thinking "This time!" Yes. Nothing peculiar about "This time". Its similar to Freds, he also said the same. I will just have a couple. Jims mind said mixing whiskey with milk on a empty stomach wont hurt him. And the man of thirty thought his prolonged period of abstinence qualified him ...
by avaneesh912
Sat Nov 09, 2019 9:16 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 28
Views: 239

Re: New Slogans

At 21yo, 2nd Impaired within a year, weekend drinker with a limited budget, but when I started, I didn't ever know how it would end. 2 points there "Once I started, I didn't control the Drink, the Drink controlled me." and "When I drank, I got into trouble." 12-13 years in the Program, I stopped go...
by avaneesh912
Sat Nov 09, 2019 8:33 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 28
Views: 239

Re: New Slogans

At 21yo, 2nd Impaired within a year, weekend drinker with a limited budget, but when I started, I didn't ever know how it would end. 2 points there "Once I started, I didn't control the Drink, the Drink controlled me." and "When I drank, I got into trouble." 12-13 years in the Program, I stopped go...
by avaneesh912
Sat Nov 09, 2019 8:21 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Finding a speaker
Replies: 4
Views: 88

Re: Finding a speaker

Perhaps you can visit meetings in other groups and see if you find some shares that resonate with recovery not just drunk-a-logs. After the meeting approach them. You can also announce that you are looking for speakers for your anniversary meetings. Its sad that people turn down service commitments.
by avaneesh912
Sat Nov 09, 2019 6:22 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 28
Views: 239

Re: New Slogans

"Don't analyze, Utilize." This also falls into jumping into the fray without the right knowledge (what we are up against). One may be desperate enough to do whatever the sponsor tells them to do initially, but then they balk and also these are the people who propagate the wrong teachings they hear ...
by avaneesh912
Sat Nov 09, 2019 5:48 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 28
Views: 239

Re: New Slogans

Most alcoholics have a life time of knowing what happens when they start to drink. Alcoholics have been told what we already know by so-called experts -- the doctors, psychiatrist, therapists, clergy, family, etc. -- for years before seeking help. We hear this at meetings and read it on forums freq...
by avaneesh912
Fri Nov 08, 2019 4:38 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 28
Views: 239

Re: New Slogans

Show him the mental twist which leads to the first drink of a spree. The above is from the big book page 92, I thought we could tweak it a bit and add the allergy concept that occurs after the consumption. The mental twist leads us to a drink and the allergy keeps us drunk (or keeps us drinking).
by avaneesh912
Thu Nov 07, 2019 2:42 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 28
Views: 239

Re: New Slogans

We must also never forget that not taking that first drink for many of us managed to get us walking through the doors of AA sober. Of course, i think in the pamphlet about AA it talks about it. That initial awakening keeps us going for few days/weeks/months, thats the one which brings us into the f...
by avaneesh912
Thu Nov 07, 2019 11:30 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 28
Views: 239

Re: New Slogans

I can sense sarcasm miles away. Anyways. I see tragedy in the fellowship where some people are misled when they conclusion that powerlessness is about losing control after we take that first drink and that leads to slogans like 'if you dont take the first drink you wont get drunk' or 'Even if your a...
by avaneesh912
Thu Nov 07, 2019 7:03 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New Slogans
Replies: 28
Views: 239

New Slogans

I feel we need to come up with some new slogan to convey that the mind is the main culprit of the alcoholic and that is the core of step one. Physical absolutely. But the book points that the main problem of the alcoholic centers around the mind rather than in the body (craving). Some how majority o...