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by Mike O
Wed Jul 10, 2019 1:03 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 12 - Keep it Simple
Replies: 6
Views: 2830

Re: Step 12 - Keep it Simple

Thanks, Wiganman. Keeping it simple is vital, I feel. Too much analysis of and overthinking of the programme can be dangerous. I think the word "try" is important in your post. "I try to be helpful when I can. I try to show understanding and humility when I can. I try not to run the show as I once d...
by Mike O
Wed Jul 10, 2019 12:51 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Staying Sober through Divorce and Prison
Replies: 5
Views: 650

Re: Staying Sober through Divorce and Prison

Hi Abby,

Thanks for sharing your story so honestly. As Brock said above, no one here will, or is in any position to, judge you.

One of the basic requirements for sobriety is complete honesty, with others and with yourself.

Welcome here.

:)
by Mike O
Sun Jun 02, 2019 5:40 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Totally new
Replies: 11
Views: 2077

Re: Totally new

Brock wrote:... but if you use it, it will work, and that’s the main thing.
Welcome, Jordanmarie.
No truer words have been spoken...um, written... than those by Brock above.
:)
by Mike O
Mon May 27, 2019 4:21 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: New to E-AA
Replies: 10
Views: 1480

Re: New to E-AA

Hi Brian,

Welcome :D

Do the steps - they are the programme.
by Mike O
Thu Apr 18, 2019 2:43 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Finally ready to be done before its too late
Replies: 11
Views: 2833

Re: Finally ready to be done before its too late

avaneesh912 wrote:
try to control it but it’s gotten worse
Worst part is, we cannot stay stopped on our own.
Best part may well be realising this.
:)
by Mike O
Sun Mar 24, 2019 4:40 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Alcohol in foods and other products
Replies: 21
Views: 3935

Re: Alcohol in foods and other products

Allergy? From a medical point of view, I don't know. I remember quite clearly though, that when I had a drink, I could not (or not without great difficulty) stop drinking until I passed out or it came time to go to bed. Today, I work the steps, I am (most of the time) serene. The problems I had when...
by Mike O
Sun Mar 24, 2019 4:34 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Alcohol in foods and other products
Replies: 21
Views: 3935

Re: Alcohol in foods and other products

The real recovery to alcoholism is not about the alcohol, it is about fixing the problems that make you think that having that first drink again is the solution to those problems. Very well said, that’s in line with this ...”our problems were of our own making. Bottles were only a symbol.” The ones...
by Mike O
Sun Feb 17, 2019 4:59 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Alcohol in foods and other products
Replies: 21
Views: 3935

Re: Alcohol in foods and other products

Personally speaking, I've had food containing alcohol since becoming sober. It may have all been cooked off, it may not, I neither know nor care. I have no inclination to drink...none whatsoever...and this is what matters to me. But, everybody's different. In fact I'll go one further. I am Roman Cat...
by Mike O
Sun Feb 10, 2019 4:17 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Am I an Alcoholic?
Replies: 18
Views: 3491

Re: Am I an Alcoholic?

I've never been able to just have one. Ever. Hi Rose, This is the bit that resonated with me most of all. For years I could never understand how my friends could go to the pub at lunchtime, have one beer and then go ahead with their day. If I had a drink, I was drinking...and that was it. Whether o...
by Mike O
Sat Feb 02, 2019 9:40 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: “Take what you need, and leave the rest”
Replies: 14
Views: 2377

Re: “Take what you need, and leave the rest”

My understanding of this statement is that I take what I can identify from other members shares of their personal experiences. What I cannot identify with, I leave behind rather than try to compare, which is my first "natural alcoholic way of thinking". Yes. Makes sense from that angle. However, I ...
by Mike O
Sat Feb 02, 2019 5:58 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: “Take what you need, and leave the rest”
Replies: 14
Views: 2377

“Take what you need, and leave the rest”

How the blazes would I have known what I needed? Thinking I knew what I needed landed me in trouble in the first place.
Where did this slogan originate, I’ve wondered?
by Mike O
Sat Feb 02, 2019 5:04 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Take what you need and leave the rest?
Replies: 19
Views: 3540

Re: Take what you need and leave the rest?

Hi Westiemom, Welcome to the group. Well...I guess the 12 steps can be considered as just “suggestions”... I feel that this comes from the actual text of the book Alcoholics Anonymous, where on P59 the steps are “suggested as a program of recovery”. This was written in 1939, when the programme was n...
by Mike O
Sun Nov 04, 2018 6:40 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Acceptance & Expectations
Replies: 69
Views: 11418

Re: Acceptance & Expectations

Dr Paul's story has for a long time been the most meaningful story in the BB for me. I go back to it often. When I read that whole business about acceptance, expectations, rights, serenity, etc., I knew, and still know, instinctively what it meant and continues to mean for me. I can't put it into wo...
by Mike O
Sat Oct 13, 2018 3:58 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Online Forums!
Replies: 4
Views: 1155

Re: Online Forums!

Unfortunately there are people in AA, who think online groups are the cause of dwindling live attendance. People in groups I attend know that I am involved online as well, a while ago someone said in a meeting, that it was because of online groups, and people like me, that attendance in our area ha...