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by Mike O
Sun Mar 29, 2020 10:11 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 2 Keeping it Simple
Replies: 19
Views: 3415

Re: Step 2 Keeping it Simple

If the steps were simple, there would not be any need for guidance as they would be so simple to understand. I, on the other hand, do not view AA as a simple program. Since the program requires an almost complete change in my thinking it will neither be quick or simple. I am however now becoming OK...
by Mike O
Sun Mar 29, 2020 1:04 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Need help Creating a Homework Assignment on the Step 1,2,or 3
Replies: 6
Views: 102

Re: Need help Creating a Homework Assignment on the Step 1,2,or 3

This whole idea of homework is strange to me. I took 1,2 and 3 very quickly, within hours. They’re pretty simple and straightforward. The book has all that I needed.
by Mike O
Sat Mar 28, 2020 11:57 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Steps 1, 2 & 3
Replies: 13
Views: 1531

Re: Steps 1, 2 & 3

rjr34036 wrote:
Fri Mar 27, 2020 4:06 pm
I actually proposed a big book workshop with the group I facilitate but it wasn’t readily accepted (they’re worried about what their “sponsors” will think and that it’ll be a conflict of interest).
Oh dear! This is so wrong. A “conflict of interest”!!!???
by Mike O
Sat Mar 28, 2020 11:49 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Acceptance
Replies: 11
Views: 130

Re: Acceptance

Page 417 Acceptance Alcoholics Anonymous - Fourth Edition Acceptance is the answer to ALL of my problems today. Theres a tendency to look for something in the stories section that de-emphasizes the need to pay attention to the program pages. Acceptance is not the answer to any of my needs, rather ,...
by Mike O
Thu Mar 26, 2020 1:51 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Acceptance
Replies: 11
Views: 130

Re: Acceptance

It’s my favourite story too. Dr Paul O has written a couple of books, one of which I’ve read and has helped me, entitled “You Can’t Make Me Angry”
by Mike O
Thu Mar 26, 2020 1:41 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine
Replies: 15
Views: 1090

Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Working the twelve steps of AA brings many rewards. One such reward for me is that alcohol and it's consumption have become an non-issue. When I see people on TV drinking prop alcohol, that is all it is, it produces no reaction in me one way or the other. It stirs no reaction in me, not because it ...
by Mike O
Sat Mar 21, 2020 7:19 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Xanax
Replies: 13
Views: 993

Re: Xanax

You didn’t drink? You didn’t relapse. Xanax is another issue. Did you take it to get high? No? Forget about it. Be careful of/aware of motives. I’m interested, though, in what your sponsors idea of resetting your “sobriety date” meant to him/her. Did he or she want you to start the steps again or so...
by Mike O
Sat Mar 21, 2020 6:59 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Steps 1, 2 & 3
Replies: 13
Views: 1531

Re: Steps 1, 2 & 3

It’s worth bearing in mind the fact that there were no 12 steps when the first guys got sober. They summarised what they did in 12 steps, subsequently. Having a deeper knowledge of what is achieved by the steps and how the steps achieve this allows us to gauge each person we help individually. With ...
by Mike O
Sat Mar 21, 2020 6:50 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Modem Step 4
Replies: 13
Views: 2059

Re: Modem Step 4

Being less than honest with oneself in regard to Step 4 happens inside ones head, before committing any list to paper or computer screen.
Well...with f2f meetings being closed left, right and centre, folk are being driven into the online rooms. Welcome everybody.
by Mike O
Sat Mar 21, 2020 6:45 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I don't know where to begin
Replies: 12
Views: 484

Re: I don't know where to begin

Hi Paul It happened to me too. I couldn’t stop drinking and obsessing about drinking. When I had one, I couldn’t stop at that, at least not comfortably. 12 years ago, I read the book Alcoholics Anonymous and I did exactly what was suggested in it - known as the 12 steps. I haven’t had a drink, or wa...
by Mike O
Sun Mar 08, 2020 4:08 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How can I be so good at this?
Replies: 17
Views: 1375

Re: How can I be so good at this?

If you see somebody you know at a meeting, then so will they.
by Mike O
Wed Mar 04, 2020 11:31 am
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: Mental Obsession
Replies: 15
Views: 1499

Re: Mental Obsession

For me, the mental obsession involved everything I did being centred around the next drink, whether that was going to be in 5 mins time, 5 hours time or 5 days time.
by Mike O
Wed Mar 04, 2020 11:27 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: drinking history
Replies: 9
Views: 695

Re: drinking history

I came to A.A. because I realised I was powerless to stop drinking. It didn’t take me long to look at the way my life was and realise that it was unmanageable.
Step 1 complete.
by Mike O
Wed Mar 04, 2020 11:18 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Daily contacts with other sober people...
Replies: 9
Views: 987

Re: Daily contacts with other sober people...

Welcome.

Follow your own conscience, do what you are reasonably comfortable with.
But, work the steps.
😁
by Mike O
Sun Feb 23, 2020 3:43 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 2 Keeping it Simple
Replies: 19
Views: 3415

Re: Step 2 Keeping it Simple

It has been my experience that people who are taking a look at step two for the first time should be more interested in the word "insanity" then in the word "higher power". There is a danger in spending too much time and energy looking for a higher power in early sobriety. A LACK of belief in the i...