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by Mike O
Sun Sep 13, 2020 10:21 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sharing our story
Replies: 15
Views: 138

Re: Sharing our story

For me, it was and is the 12 steps that brought me to this point of 12 years sobriety. That’s all I can share.
If you are staying sober in some other way, that’s wonderful.
It’s also wonderful to have you here but, I have to ask, what do you feel A.A. can offer you other than the 12 step programme?
by Mike O
Thu Sep 10, 2020 11:46 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Continue to watch for ...
Replies: 8
Views: 100

Re: Continue to watch for ...

For me, it’s vital.
Nightly before sleep, as part of my night prayer, I look back briefly over the day. Not my idea, it’s in the book.
😁✌️
by Mike O
Thu Sep 10, 2020 11:39 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Becoming Sober in a family full of denial
Replies: 5
Views: 65

Re: Becoming Sober in a family full of denial

Hi Klaus. For me, doing a step 4 and 5 helped make sense of my relationship to others and of their relationship to me. Before, I perceived hurt where there wasn’t any intended. Through the steps, I also learnt, and continue to learn when necessary, that a lot of the hurt I felt was continuing to hav...
by Mike O
Fri Sep 04, 2020 12:26 pm
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Good afternoon!
Replies: 5
Views: 138

Re: Good afternoon!

Welcome, Kati.
😁
by Mike O
Mon Aug 24, 2020 3:44 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How to work the work in from the start!?
Replies: 10
Views: 132

Re: How to work the work in from the start!?

If you feel that your sponsor is not taking you through the work quickly enough, tell him/her. Personally, I went through the steps on my own, exactly as described in the book. I did them honestly and thoroughly but quickly. Of course, I needed a friend for steps 4&5. Then I started living in the wa...
by Mike O
Mon Aug 17, 2020 1:36 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Spiritual sickness brought on by drinking?
Replies: 8
Views: 138

Re: Spiritual sickness brought on by drinking?

I think this is a good example of one of the reasons why its not a great idea to try and dissect the programme and it's associated writings too much. A bit of healthy insight is good, of course. This is about semantics essentially. Bill is not a skilled writer - he is an amateur and he does not alwa...
by Mike O
Thu Aug 06, 2020 3:14 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 11 yrs ago today...
Replies: 7
Views: 182

Re: 11 yrs ago today...

Yo, Paige.
Well done and congrats.
=biggrin
by Mike O
Thu Aug 06, 2020 3:08 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Coming back and have questions
Replies: 8
Views: 194

Re: Coming back and have questions

Hi, First, to answer your question on "...why it doesn't seem to work" - you haven't been through the steps, is my guess. My own experience is this. In my first few days I was introduced to the book Alcoholics Anonymous (The Big Book). I immediately began to read it. I immediately began to do what t...
by Mike O
Fri Jul 24, 2020 3:17 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at meetings.
Replies: 5
Views: 281

Re: Questions heard at meetings.

For me it comes down to Love of Neighbour and the idea of Faith without works being useless. Apologising to someone for having hurt them is not enough. It might seem like enough for me as it will ease my conscience. However, to truly help them, I also need to put right any wrongs I have caused, if I...
by Mike O
Mon Jul 20, 2020 3:35 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: "Recovered"
Replies: 11
Views: 429

Re: "Recovered"

...a feeling of freedom from thinking about drinking, and if it does cross our mind now and again we can brush it off. I could not have put it better, so I won't waste time trying to. :D As to when it "happened", I do not recall. There was no big moment of enlightenment. I kinda just found myself g...
by Mike O
Mon Jul 13, 2020 12:42 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 11 nightly review
Replies: 3
Views: 230

Re: Step 11 nightly review

Yep, checking throughout the day.
In addition, part of night prayer for Catholics includes an examination of conscience - so, just before sleep.
By the way, don't forget to acknowledge the good things you may have done during the day too.
:D
by Mike O
Wed Jul 08, 2020 8:25 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at zoom meetings.
Replies: 19
Views: 2155

Re: Questions heard at zoom meetings.

Soberguy27 wrote:
Tue Jul 07, 2020 9:17 pm
So in the end it doesn't matter. I am happy he is sober and he is still a very dear friend.
Yep.
There ya go.
:D
by Mike O
Mon Jul 06, 2020 2:39 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety
Replies: 14
Views: 957

Re: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety

Aggiejim wrote:
Thu Jul 02, 2020 2:29 pm
We were powerless over alcohol and our wives had become unmanageable.
Yessss.... this is so funny
:lol: :lol:
by Mike O
Wed Jul 01, 2020 7:22 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The evenings
Replies: 12
Views: 2695

Re: The evenings

Newcomers need to know that when they do the work the struggle to stay away from drink ends, as the book says - That is the miracle of it. We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we had been placed in a position of neutrality safe and protected. We have not eve...
by Mike O
Wed Jul 01, 2020 7:19 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 26
Views: 1826

Re: Sponsorship query.

It works for me but my experience is that most need help and face-to-face meetings. My original post was not arguing against sponsorship. 😁 I apologize. I have not been the exact picture of spirituality lately. I know that you meant no harm and I should have taken care to convey that! Your experien...