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by Spirit Flower
Mon Jul 06, 2020 6:32 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: CoronaVirus - How can we be helpful?
Replies: 23
Views: 2762

Re: CoronaVirus - How can we be helpful?

Yes you can turn off the camera BUT thats a little bit rude. Only do it if necessary.
by Spirit Flower
Mon Jun 29, 2020 2:07 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 477

Re: Sponsorship query.

FYI Mike, I was here when you got started and I've always been impressed with your sobriety. You must be doing something right.
by Spirit Flower
Sun Jun 28, 2020 5:21 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 477

Re: Sponsorship query.

I often read stories such as “ I drank again. I had four years, I had gotten as far as Step 5”,
This situation is usually not the sponsor but a sponsee who doesn't want to do that step. Some sponsors don't push people.
by Spirit Flower
Sat Jun 27, 2020 4:10 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 477

Re: Sponsorship query.

this is the way my sponsor showed me, so I will do the same with you, worked for me so will work for you This is exactly why I don't sponsor anyone. I can only tell you how I did it and you should go find someone else to be your sponsor if you don't want to do what I did. Most people don't want to ...
by Spirit Flower
Sat Jun 27, 2020 10:01 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 477

Re: Sponsorship query.

To work the steps, my first sponsor gave me "homework." Like, "read this and write this for two weeks," and then we moved on to the next step. Made sense to me.
by Spirit Flower
Sat Jun 27, 2020 9:55 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Can AA actually work for me?
Replies: 17
Views: 267

Re: Can AA actually work for me?

Check out appendix II to the big book found here: https://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_bigbook_appendiceii.pdf Pay attention to "an unsuspected inner resource..." Also pay attention to the explanation that spirituality is a process. I can say that what I think of a higher power has changed many times ...
by Spirit Flower
Sat May 16, 2020 5:34 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: What is self-will according to the program?
Replies: 7
Views: 1171

Re: What is self-will according to the program?

Drinking or dry, I was a failure at life when I came here.
by Spirit Flower
Wed May 06, 2020 6:05 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: New to e-AA, but have some experience with AA already
Replies: 5
Views: 481

Re: New to e-AA, but have some experience with AA already

Welcome Sorne. Besides, online group, I strongly suggest finding zoom meetings near you. The AA Intergroup for your area can hook you up. I have been present in a zoom meeting when a new person introduced themselves, and the response was fantastic. And, in case you aren't very social, you can get to...
by Spirit Flower
Mon May 04, 2020 6:31 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sometimes Quickly, Sometimes Slowly
Replies: 39
Views: 2462

Re: Sometimes Quickly, Sometimes Slowly

Don't focus on promises. Your'e setting yourself up for disappointment. They will come. I love the last paragraph of the big book on page 164: "Abandon yourself to God as you understand God. Admit your faults to him and to your fellows. Clear away the wreckage of your past. Give freely of what you f...
by Spirit Flower
Mon May 04, 2020 6:09 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sometimes Quickly, Sometimes Slowly
Replies: 39
Views: 2462

Re: Sometimes Quickly, Sometimes Slowly

19 weeks is good. Be grateful. Read Dr Bob's story in the big book. Bob was less flamboyant than Bill and didn't make big promises about mountain top experiences or dramatic changes. Bob just kept putting one foot in front of the other and helping others. The desire to drink left after two and a hal...
by Spirit Flower
Thu Apr 30, 2020 10:59 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Making amends
Replies: 35
Views: 2605

Re: Making amends

Were they easily able to be forgiving to everyone and make amends, was this a long drawn out process, or something in between.
Some amends are done quickly. Some take a long time before we are ready to make it.
by Spirit Flower
Wed Apr 29, 2020 8:09 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Making amends
Replies: 35
Views: 2605

Re: Making amends

Did you feel like giving amends at this point, did it come later for you?
Pretty much no one feels like making amends when they are doing step 4.
by Spirit Flower
Wed Apr 29, 2020 8:06 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Making amends
Replies: 35
Views: 2605

Re: Making amends

Read step 8 in the 12x12. It has a fuller explanation.

You don't understand "willing to make amends to them all" yet.
by Spirit Flower
Wed Apr 29, 2020 7:34 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Making amends
Replies: 35
Views: 2605

Re: Making amends

You will better be able to figure out amends after you finish steps 5-8.
by Spirit Flower
Sun Apr 26, 2020 12:18 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Modem Step 4
Replies: 23
Views: 3754

Re: Modem Step 4

I agree with theo. The problem with the resentment is that I have it. So, why do I have it? Why do I feel the way I feel? What is on my side of the street? An example: someone is abused as a child. Now, 20 years later, they have a resentment about it. Of course they were not at fault, but they do ha...