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by Spirit Flower
Mon Jan 13, 2020 7:47 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Fear
Replies: 13
Views: 126

Re: Fear

When I got sober, our group emphasized going to work every day for a year. It was a challenge! Sounds hard right? Just make yourself go to work? But you know, work is one way to get out of yourself. I work as a barista. I am totally busy for the six or so hours I am there. No time to think about mys...
by Spirit Flower
Mon Jan 13, 2020 7:42 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 1 year, 9 months sober - Really need help with depression/being an adult
Replies: 12
Views: 111

Re: 1 year, 9 months sober - Really need help with depression/being an adult

Instead of "re-parenting" try making living amends to yourself.

And, this is the journey of a life time. There is more and more wellness available. There is no end. Two steps forward, one back. 2 forward, one back. That is progress not perfection.
by Spirit Flower
Tue Jan 07, 2020 4:19 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: My first year of sobriety on January 3rd
Replies: 9
Views: 200

Re: My first year of sobriety on January 3rd

Early in the program, an old timer told me, "you have to be a friend to make a friend." And also said, "Why don't you call _____? She would make a good friend." So the responsibility for making friends was put squarely on my shoulders; and the old timers didn't give a sh!t about social anxiety. They...
by Spirit Flower
Sun Jan 05, 2020 7:11 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: 12 Steps
Replies: 14
Views: 306

Re: 12 Steps

I'm not sure "making a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of god" works for me. Becoming sober as I see it comes down to my own willpower and motivation and facing my responsibilities head on.
LMAO.... If you could control your drinking, then you wouldn't need AA.
by Spirit Flower
Fri Jan 03, 2020 8:53 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 302

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

My first sponsor had me write down my thoughts on powerlessness for a week. Then write down my thoughts on unmanageability for a week. She wanted me to know what I thought of powerlessness and unmanagability. maybe this slightly different phrasing will help you to see why you should do the exercise
by Spirit Flower
Wed Jan 01, 2020 8:00 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Wanting a new way of life
Replies: 13
Views: 289

Re: Wanting a new way of life

I’m not ready to go to a meeting, but maybe in the future. In past I would have to drink a bit to be in any type of a social setting. This is probably just an excuse. Go in to the meeting and sit down. You can pass if you don't want to talk. A few people can genuinely not go to meetings, but most p...
by Spirit Flower
Wed Dec 25, 2019 7:46 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How to cope with family smoking
Replies: 4
Views: 112

Re: How to cope with family smoking

Find a nearby hotel.
by Spirit Flower
Tue Dec 17, 2019 2:20 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hello!
Replies: 5
Views: 395

Re: Hello!

Hi Indy, welcome!
by Spirit Flower
Fri Nov 29, 2019 4:32 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: DO NOT READ THIS POST IF YOU DON'T LIKE READING ABOUT CRITICISM OF AA!
Replies: 20
Views: 1072

Re: DO NOT READ THIS POST IF YOU DON'T LIKE READING ABOUT CRITICISM OF AA!

Alot of people go to AA who do not want it. These people should not be counted in statistics because they never intended to get sober. They were mostly there to get out of jail or get their spouse to stay around. AA forward in the Big Book says, of those who really try, only 50% make it the first ti...
by Spirit Flower
Wed Nov 27, 2019 7:10 am
Forum: Suggestions
Topic: chat room
Replies: 2
Views: 658

Re: chat room

There is a "Golden Years" section of the main board index if you want to start a thread there.
by Spirit Flower
Mon Nov 25, 2019 8:11 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I Once Had 6 Years, Now I'm Losing Everything
Replies: 8
Views: 863

Re: I Once Had 6 Years, Now I'm Losing Everything

Thanks for sharing Blake. I've heard other stories like yours: Sobriety Loses Its Priority (SLIP).
by Spirit Flower
Mon Nov 25, 2019 8:04 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I met a lady with AA problem. She is 38.
Replies: 3
Views: 304

Re: I met a lady with AA problem. She is 38.

For newcomers in AA, we suggest no big decisions or serious relationships for a year. We suggest the year because people are often very emotional in new sobriety and learning a new way of life. If I was sponsoring your girl, I'd suggest she cool it for awhile, like until she worked the steps. Alcoho...
by Spirit Flower
Sun Nov 24, 2019 4:30 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The Variety of Religious Experience
Replies: 10
Views: 792

Re: The Variety of Religious Experience

I read it and loved it.
by Spirit Flower
Sun Nov 10, 2019 5:43 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: We have a 3 fold disease.
Replies: 41
Views: 22572

Re: We have a 3 fold disease.

an allergy of the body and an obsession of the mind
I think this comes from the doctor's opinion