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by Layne
Wed Jun 03, 2020 7:28 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions
Replies: 42
Views: 2439

Re: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions

My struggle is with not knowing why I drink. I guess there are many answers to that question and I'm not sure it's necessary that I know or understand why in order to stop, but I sure think it would be helpful. Hi Peanut6220, glad you are here. Welcome. That question of why drove me crazy for years...
by Layne
Sun May 31, 2020 8:37 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Shopping for a sponsor
Replies: 5
Views: 322

Re: Shopping for a sponsor

It seems to me that people struggle when they confuse a sponsor for being the solution, when the solution is actually in working the twelve steps. After working the steps and by continued living in the solution, people continue to recover, improve, and get better; in spite of how they may have worke...
by Layne
Sat May 30, 2020 8:35 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Shopping for a sponsor
Replies: 5
Views: 322

Re: Shopping for a sponsor

they seem to put a lot of faith in the idea that this method worked for me it should work for you I believe this is the case for most people whether they have been sponsored or not and whether they are sponsoring or sharing either at a meeting or on the internet. Humans have a tendency to live what...
by Layne
Tue May 26, 2020 7:31 am
Forum: Suggestions
Topic: I don't want to be around alcohol but it seems impossible
Replies: 12
Views: 2686

Re: I don't want to be around alcohol but it seems impossible

I try to go to meetings, but life is very busy and my wife sees it as a burden Does your wife see your drinking as a burden? I have a medical issue going on at the moment for which I am going to get medical attention today. Depending upon the outcome of my doctor visit, it could be a burden in the ...
by Layne
Tue May 26, 2020 7:01 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at zoom meetings.
Replies: 19
Views: 1396

Re: Questions heard at zoom meetings.

"The person who woke up the earliest today has the most sobriety." That is one I will ALWAYS miss with my late nights and late mornings! if this was posed to me i could make light of it: "if he woke up before you today, he has more sobriety than you TODAY." Because of rule 62 and my mischievous nat...
by Layne
Mon May 25, 2020 9:54 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at zoom meetings.
Replies: 19
Views: 1396

Re: Questions heard at zoom meetings.

If someone told me that they had more recovery than me, my knee jerk reaction would be "obviously not". Although my truth tells me there is probably some validity in that reaction. Best case scenario would be for me to remove ego from the equation and look at the core reason of why reaction was what...
by Layne
Mon May 25, 2020 9:14 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at zoom meetings.
Replies: 19
Views: 1396

Re: Questions heard at zoom meetings.

It is merely a case of two people forming judgements that don't align. People being people (AKA: I am right and you are wrong). As to what is true, that comes down to individual perception. In reality, truth is an ideal that people hopefully strive towards. Truth is a set of beliefs. It doesn't actu...
by Layne
Sat May 23, 2020 8:23 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Running the show
Replies: 12
Views: 929

Re: Running the show

Great post, thanks for sharing!

It always amazes me what happens when I get out of the way. :~)
by Layne
Wed May 20, 2020 10:23 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: What is self-will according to the program?
Replies: 7
Views: 1217

Re: What is self-will according to the program?

I don't know that the program actually defines it, but my interpretation is that self-will is what I want as opposed to what I need.
by Layne
Wed May 20, 2020 10:18 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Help
Replies: 5
Views: 604

Re: Help

I was enjoying my "guru-hood." A young woman crossed the room, just had to shake my hand and thank me for my share. She mentioned all the wonderful points she had related to...none of it sounded like what I said. I realized that from my mouth through the air into her ear, a transformation had occur...
by Layne
Wed May 20, 2020 10:08 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Running the show
Replies: 12
Views: 929

Re: Running the show

I get my answers from doing a rigorously honest inventory of my humility, actions, and motives. If I don't feel I get answers by doing that, the answer is because denial is blocking me.
by Layne
Thu May 14, 2020 11:05 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I drink because my life is ruined
Replies: 12
Views: 900

Re: I drink because my life is ruined

If you truly thought and believed your life is ruined, you wouldn't have posted on here. Deep down inside you know there is hope, you just need help finding your way out of the dark place you find yourself in at the moment. We have all been there and now know the way out. Let us help show you the wa...
by Layne
Thu May 14, 2020 10:35 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I drink because my life is ruined
Replies: 12
Views: 900

Re: I drink because my life is ruined

It sounds like you have surrendered to the futility of life. A lot people have trouble with the thought of surrender. You already have a grasp of the concept and since you are already willing to surrender, why not surrender to the program of AA and the twelve steps instead? It comes with a result of...
by Layne
Sun May 10, 2020 4:01 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sometimes Quickly, Sometimes Slowly
Replies: 39
Views: 2595

Re: Sometimes Quickly, Sometimes Slowly

Life happens. None of us is perfect, but the big take away is that we are working on being better. We learn from each other...what a great concept!!! :~)
by Layne
Sun May 10, 2020 3:33 pm
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: 90 days!!
Replies: 9
Views: 970

Re: 90 days!!

Goodatcha piceanjoy...like they say, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly...as long as we work for them. :~)