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by Layne
Sat Sep 14, 2019 8:51 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at meetings.
Replies: 11
Views: 95

Re: Questions heard at meetings.

I can't change instances. I can change patterns.
by Layne
Fri Sep 13, 2019 8:24 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at meetings.
Replies: 11
Views: 95

Re: Questions heard at meetings.

You don't drown by falling into a river. You drown by staying there. When I go on an exploratory visit to a new business, I will get wet as part of the process but it should be brief interlude until I am back on the river bank drying in the sum. If I find that throughout my day I am continually gett...
by Layne
Wed Aug 28, 2019 8:01 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: clearly intoxicated at a meeting, then drove her car
Replies: 4
Views: 590

Re: clearly intoxicated at a meeting, then drove her car

I would approach the woman after the meeting and tell her that as a concerned citizen, not as a member of AA, I believe that you are too intoxicated to get behind the wheel and drive. Doing so would put other people's lives in jeopardy. So if you do, you will leave me with no other option but to cal...
by Layne
Mon Aug 05, 2019 6:45 pm
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: A decade...
Replies: 10
Views: 892

Re: A decade...

Congrats Paige, that is awesome!
by Layne
Fri Apr 26, 2019 5:13 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The Hardline Approach
Replies: 30
Views: 3703

Re: The Hardline Approach

When I share, if I stick strictly to my ESH, a label such as hardline (or whatever) can't really be applied. When I stray from my ESH into talking about what other people do, should do, don't do, or shouldn't do, etc., then a label can be easily applied.
by Layne
Sun Apr 21, 2019 2:59 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The Hardline Approach
Replies: 30
Views: 3703

Re: The Hardline Approach

There are a variety of people and personalities in AA, hence there are a variety in personal approaches to sobriety even when centered around the 12 steps. What approach works for one person, may have the opposite effect on another person. Some people start their journey with the view of one approac...
by Layne
Sun Apr 21, 2019 10:00 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The Hardline Approach
Replies: 30
Views: 3703

Re: The Hardline Approach

I am grateful to AA for teaching me about the serenity that comes when I practice the mindfulness of coexistence. It drives home the reality that life is not designed around Layne. Life is designed with the inclusion of hardliners, softliners, and inbetweeners as part of the plan. Any attempt I make...
by Layne
Wed Apr 17, 2019 10:26 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions Heard At Meetings.
Replies: 8
Views: 1363

Re: Questions Heard At Meetings.

Pre-recovery, yes. In recovery, no. I have turned the projector off. Prefer to live in real-time and do my best at being fully present for the present.
by Layne
Mon Apr 15, 2019 7:44 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: I think I have a problem, well I know I do
Replies: 7
Views: 1188

Re: I think I have a problem, well I know I do

can you be if you're just a binge drinker? Yes, a person that is just a binge drinker can be an alcoholic. Alcoholism is progressive. I was an alcoholic and knew that I was long before I got to the stage where if I was awake, I was drinking. I had a stage where I was just a binge drinker (although ...
by Layne
Sat Apr 13, 2019 6:37 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions Heard At Meetings.
Replies: 10
Views: 2215

Re: Questions Heard At Meetings.

Before recovery my perception was undoubtedly skewed. Whether it was focused on drinking or on not drinking, my perception was that this time it will be different . In recovery, a more healthy perspective tells me that two plus two will always be four in base ten. Until you change either the numbers...
by Layne
Thu Apr 11, 2019 8:35 am
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: Need Advice
Replies: 3
Views: 1424

Re: Need Advice

Can somebody tell me why somebody that seems so nice and caring and helpful would say something like that? Because she is a human being. I know it that may sound glib, but other people don't always behave exactly as we think they should. At times (many actually) even I fail to behave exactly as I t...
by Layne
Sun Apr 07, 2019 5:29 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Listerine DUI
Replies: 19
Views: 3004

Re: Listerine DUI

Here is a good link from a reputable source on the effects of mouthwash on blood alcohol determinations by breath analysis.

Moderator edit: Due to forum policy

Google: pubmed/8254857
by Layne
Sun Apr 07, 2019 3:39 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Listerine DUI
Replies: 19
Views: 3004

Re: Listerine DUI

5.625 fluid oz (depending upon body weight and other factors) of listerine could cause BAC to raise to .08 which is the limit in the US. That figure is for a 100# person. For a 160# person, the fluid oz would be 9. That having been said, I believe any decision should be the result of a group conscie...
by Layne
Mon Apr 01, 2019 10:33 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsor Questions
Replies: 7
Views: 1423

Re: Sponsor Questions

I looked at gals who had what I wanted - then I asked THEIR sponsor to take me on
That is absolutely brilliant!
by Layne
Mon Apr 01, 2019 9:16 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsor Questions
Replies: 7
Views: 1423

Re: Sponsor Questions

I respond better to hearing experience rather than hearing directives. I still bristle at being told what to do. "Don't put your finger in that light socket Layne" or "Layne, just so you know, when I put my finger in that light socket, the results were shocking and most unpleasant". For whatever rea...