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by Layne
Sat Jan 18, 2020 8:56 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: New bad habits
Replies: 9
Views: 594

Re: New bad habits

Bad habits are the result of thought processes. For me, just stopping my drinking, didn't really change my thought processes all that much. Actions had been changed, but not much else. Working the 12 steps had a much more profound impact on my thought processes. They gave me a far greater understand...
by Layne
Thu Jan 16, 2020 9:20 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at meetings.
Replies: 4
Views: 411

Re: Questions heard at meetings.

I do it by keeping my focus on the principles which keeps me from being distracted by personalities and my reactions to them.
by Layne
Mon Jan 13, 2020 9:42 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 1 year, 9 months sober - Really need help with depression/being an adult
Replies: 12
Views: 496

Re: 1 year, 9 months sober - Really need help with depression/being an adult

AA has changed my life and allowed me a life I could have never pictured being available to me before. Sounds like a working higher power to me. I turned my will and life over to the principles of AA and rely on the truth that it is working in my life which gives me faith that as long as I continue...
by Layne
Mon Jan 13, 2020 9:25 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Fear
Replies: 13
Views: 499

Re: Fear

I have found the best way to get to the other side of my fears is to confront them and to walk through them. For years I tried to go around them, over them, run away from them, ignore them, etc. Just like with a door, none of those methods got me to the other side and I wound up stuck in the same ro...
by Layne
Sat Jan 11, 2020 2:54 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 653

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

Willingness to do the work might be the KEY. It was a big key for me. Doing only those things that I wanted to do, qualified me for my seat in the rooms, but it didn't get me a seat. When I became willing to do things that I didn't want to do and actually got into action, a shift occurred. Coming i...
by Layne
Wed Jan 08, 2020 8:53 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine
Replies: 8
Views: 320

Re: Almost 2 weeks sober but craving wine

Your post made me reflect on the difference between my wife and I. I am an alcoholic and she is not. If she feels like having a glass of wine, she will have one, which she may or may not finish. Not a lot of thought goes into her decision. And there will not be a second glass. No big deal to her. Ju...
by Layne
Mon Jan 06, 2020 8:08 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: My first year of sobriety on January 3rd
Replies: 9
Views: 430

Re: My first year of sobriety on January 3rd

Hi Britney and congrats on a year of sobriety. There is a sense of community and people to be in your corner on here. I found what I was looking for by working the twelve steps of AA. Any feelings of being ostracized that I had were eliminated during the process of working the steps and for the firs...
by Layne
Mon Jan 06, 2020 10:44 am
Forum: The 12 Traditions of AA
Topic: Inappropriate Spending without Group Conscience
Replies: 5
Views: 273

Re: Inappropriate Spending without Group Conscience

It is funny, I usually think that the larger the number of people that are involved in a situation, the more sideways it goes. Certainly not the case in this one. Goodatcha for getting involved and helping steer things back on track. Principles before personalities.
by Layne
Sun Jan 05, 2020 8:52 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: 10 days sober
Replies: 6
Views: 252

Re: 10 days sober

It took me a while to identify why I drank and it did prove to be helpful, but until I got to that point in my recovery, I needed to remember that like you
(when I start drinking I can't stop- hence why I am here)
by Layne
Sat Jan 04, 2020 9:02 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 653

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

If I were to guess at the reason for the homework, it would be that the sponsor believes it helps to reinforce real alcoholic status to the innermost self and to smash any lingering reservations and notions that someday control and enjoyment of drinking will return.
by Layne
Fri Jan 03, 2020 9:46 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: One Week Sober Today!
Replies: 13
Views: 676

Re: One Week Sober Today!

7 days!!! That is awesome Rachel, I am so glad for you. Keep moving forward.
by Layne
Fri Jan 03, 2020 8:30 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 653

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

if I drink, alcohol will be in control and I will be powerless which will manifest in destructive behavior 1.) the obsession will return, drinking will become my primary focus 2.) my thinking will become inconsistent leading to irrational decisions 3.) I will neglect my loved ones 4.) self loathing ...
by Layne
Fri Jan 03, 2020 10:08 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 653

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

here is a link to a very similar thread
https://www.e-aa.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=10342
by Layne
Fri Jan 03, 2020 9:59 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do
Replies: 18
Views: 653

Re: Sponsor homework I don't think I can do

Your sponsor is trying to make you think. To dig down beneath the surface. Your sponsor is trying to help you the best way he knows how,which is all any of us can do, despite what I or anyone else might think is best. What I " insist " is best, is a good example of unmanageability in my life. I put ...
by Layne
Thu Jan 02, 2020 2:37 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Wanting a new way of life
Replies: 13
Views: 434

Re: Wanting a new way of life

I’m not ready to go to a meeting, but maybe in the future. In past I would have to drink a bit to be in any type of a social setting. Brings me much anxiety so am trying to work on that too I find meetings a great place to work on my social skills/anxiety. What better place than in a room full of p...