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by quiet bear
Wed Dec 13, 2006 5:53 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Quitting AA Consciously
Replies: 26
Views: 15533

Recovery has given me a power in life where alcohol is concerned, even to the extent that I no longer even have to think about it. When I contrast this with my thinking upon arrival, it's a huge shift in thinking - a psychic change - that I simply couldn't have achieved alone. I recovered from alco...
by quiet bear
Fri Nov 03, 2006 9:29 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: The ugly underbelly of AA
Replies: 26
Views: 9664

I have seen those who have been in the program for a lon time that still wallow in the same old problems. The only thing I can think when it comes to something like that is there are some steps that need to be worked. It is thier business, however, how they choose to work the program and practice i...
by quiet bear
Sun Oct 29, 2006 1:18 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Pros and Cons of Sponsorship
Replies: 36
Views: 22848

Blue Moon wrote in the original post that he (she?, I don't know, I'm sorry), was suggested to 'talk to people', and that was the problem. I'm the same way, I am a very quiet person by nature. However, I was fortunate to have a sober cousin who told me he was my sponsor as he took me to rehab. Someo...
by quiet bear
Mon Oct 23, 2006 6:55 pm
Forum: Service
Topic: The future of our fellowship
Replies: 54
Views: 51755

I know this thread is almost two years old, so please forgive me for bumping it. It has been a fascinating read. There have been very valid points made here. I'd like to add a few thoughts, if I may. I am one of those 'statistics' that came into AA, then eventually stopped going to meetings. Nothing...
by quiet bear
Mon Oct 23, 2006 6:17 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: How to let go of sponsor?
Replies: 41
Views: 34082

I was very fortunate in the fact that my sponsor was also my cousin, who'd been sober for ten years when I quit. I called him and said I was going to rehab, and all he wanted to know was what time he should pick me up and drive me to the airport. When I got in his truck the next morning, I just brok...
by quiet bear
Mon Oct 23, 2006 5:56 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: What to drink when you are not drinking alcohol?
Replies: 15
Views: 13728

My friends all know I don't drink and the good friends know why. So it's not much of a problem. If we are at a restaurant or party or something I ususally ask for seltzer or sparkling water. It is extremely rare for anyone to even give me a questioning look about this. Curt I could have written thi...
by quiet bear
Sat Oct 21, 2006 2:10 am
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: October AA Birthdays
Replies: 18
Views: 9111

4 years yesterday. (October 20)

Oddly enough, I forgot about it. LOL. I woke up this morning and thought "Hey! Yesterday was my anniversary!"
by quiet bear
Mon Oct 16, 2006 5:16 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: I relapsed after 5 years of sobriety
Replies: 6
Views: 2763

I think it's important to not dwell on it. It's ok to kick yourself for screwing up, but what's done is done, and it can't be changed. Look ahead, not back.
by quiet bear
Mon Oct 16, 2006 5:13 pm
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: talking to the kids
Replies: 19
Views: 12670

Well, I can only relate what I went through. I'm not really qualified to offer any advice. My kids were 8 when I quit. (twins) When I went to rehab, I told them I was going away to get better, so I wouldn't drink any more. I didn't go into a lot of detail, because, as I said, they were only 8 at the...
by quiet bear
Mon Oct 16, 2006 4:40 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: The ugly underbelly of AA
Replies: 26
Views: 9664

Then there are folks who are perhaps doing the best they can. Absolutely. I'd say a great majority. There are folks who for whatever reason need 10 meetings a week just to keep it together for the rest of their lives. Again, I agree. Not every person has the ability to get up and get moving. Those ...
by quiet bear
Mon Oct 16, 2006 2:24 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: The ugly underbelly of AA
Replies: 26
Views: 9664

Agreed. Giving back is a hugely important part of recovery. It gives you a chance to return the favor. When I got sober, I disappeared from work for 30 days. When I came back, I never hid why I was gone. It's still amusing that even now, people still shake their heads and say, "Man, I never even kne...
by quiet bear
Sun Oct 15, 2006 10:55 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: The ugly underbelly of AA
Replies: 26
Views: 9664

Well, I hope no one took that as a knock at the program, because it isn't. When I got out of rehab, if I didn't have AA, I would have probably relapsed. That being said, after almost 4 years of sobriety, I see the same people rehashing the same things over and over. I mean, it's ok to talk about it,...
by quiet bear
Sun Oct 15, 2006 12:23 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: The ugly underbelly of AA
Replies: 26
Views: 9664

The ugly underbelly of AA

I'll probably be raked over the coals for this, but I have to ask: why do people abuse the program? I'll be sober 4 years this Friday, and I see it everywhere I go. People who use their alcoholism and the program as an excuse to hide from life. Why? People with 9-10 years sobriety, still living in t...
by quiet bear
Thu Oct 12, 2006 6:49 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Socializing
Replies: 9
Views: 4246

When I first got sober, I was fortunate enough to have family. I still shake my head at how they all accepted and loved me, even after what I'd put them through. Being a solitary drinker, being social was never really an issue with me when I got sober. It was scary, though, faced with the thought of...
by quiet bear
Thu Oct 12, 2006 6:31 am
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Greetings everyone.
Replies: 1
Views: 2173

Greetings everyone.

Quiet bear here. Alcoholic yesterday, today, and tomorrow. I looked around, and all of a sudden, I am barrelling towards 4 years sobriety. (October 20). Where does the time go? I guess, when you don't live your life a slave to your addiction, you get to enjoy where you are. Anyway, I just joined thi...