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by Seva
Thu Sep 26, 2019 3:43 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: How quickly to take the steps & can I work on the steps without my sponsor's assistance?
Replies: 7
Views: 766

How quickly to take the steps & can I work on the steps without my sponsor's assistance?

I am 10 months sober & a year in the fellowship so by no means am I an expert. However, I have watched a lot of YouTube videos & read numerous articles. I am on step 6 & from how I feel this is taking too long. From some of the information that I have gathered, the original 100 people were taken thr...
by Seva
Thu Sep 26, 2019 3:18 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Feeling used & walked all over.
Replies: 3
Views: 512

Re: Feeling used & walked all over.

I am not sure if anyone can help me & how I can use the program with this however I shall ask as I know I can get some good advice. I have always drank to numb emotions particularly bad negative ones. I am a people please, caretaker & codependant. I hate confrontation & I have little confidence. I ...
by Seva
Mon Sep 23, 2019 1:44 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Really need some help with anxiety obsessive thinking
Replies: 14
Views: 1691

Re: Really need some help with anxiety obsessive thinking

I have just spent 12 hours in bed repeating the serenity prayer! I suffer from health anxiety. Someone please tell me how I can apply the program to my situation? I know worrying is pointless & I am not going to achieve anything . I don't want to cave in & pick up a drink. I have been sober for 9 m...
by Seva
Mon Sep 23, 2019 7:07 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Really need some help with anxiety obsessive thinking
Replies: 14
Views: 1691

Re: Really need some help with anxiety obsessive thinking

Very good. The member here who first spoke of the books ‘avaneesh,’ has actually said he has a slight preference for A New Earth, I like them both equally, and don’t think reading one before the other matters. For me it made more and more sense the more I read it, and like our big book it’s a manua...
by Seva
Mon Sep 23, 2019 5:59 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Feeling used & walked all over.
Replies: 3
Views: 512

Feeling used & walked all over.

I am not sure if anyone can help me & how I can use the program with this however I shall ask as I know I can get some good advice. I have always drank to numb emotions particularly bad negative ones. I am a people please, caretaker & codependant. I hate confrontation & I have little confidence. I w...
by Seva
Mon Sep 23, 2019 5:48 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Really need some help with anxiety obsessive thinking
Replies: 14
Views: 1691

Re: Really need some help with anxiety obsessive thinking

I have suffered from this sort of thing myself, we know it’s a waste of time, and worst of all waste of serenity, but seem unable to control it, ebear made some good points about focusing on positives. I have manged to drop this defect of character, in large part due to just following the program, ...
by Seva
Sat Aug 24, 2019 6:20 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Really need some help with anxiety obsessive thinking
Replies: 14
Views: 1691

Really need some help with anxiety obsessive thinking

I have just spent 12 hours in bed repeating the serenity prayer! I suffer from health anxiety. My Father has just had some results back from a heart scan & it's not good. However, we haven't seen a specialist so we don't know the details. My Father & I have the same medical condition so I am absolut...
by Seva
Mon Aug 19, 2019 2:34 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Mixed feelings after taking Step 5
Replies: 12
Views: 1841

Mixed feelings after taking Step 5

So on Saturday I went to my sponsors house did step 5. I was really looking forward to this step as I believe it is one of the most important steps. We spent around 5 hours going through my inventory. Since Saturday I have had some mixed feelings. I wasn't sure what to expect to be honest. I have fe...
by Seva
Thu Aug 08, 2019 1:44 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: I no longer get carried away with negative feelings
Replies: 3
Views: 541

Re: I no longer get carried away with negative feelings

... For instance if I thought about an ex I would immediately feel upset & I would then keep with this emotion & expand on it thinking poor me. Stuff like this would normally drive me to drink to mask the painful emotion. What I feel now is very different. I am unable to be carried away with the em...
by Seva
Thu Aug 08, 2019 6:34 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: I no longer get carried away with negative feelings
Replies: 3
Views: 541

I no longer get carried away with negative feelings

I am 8.5 month sober & almost a year into the fellowship. I have a sponsor & just finished step 4. I am going through step 5 with my sponsor next week. I absolutely love AA & the people within it & it's the best thing I have ever done! I was leaning towards spirituality a long time ago & discovering...
by Seva
Sat Aug 03, 2019 5:10 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Why do alcoholics self sabotage?
Replies: 8
Views: 1064

Why do alcoholics self sabotage?

I am 8 months sober but I can remember going through stages when I was trying to stop drinking that I would self sabotage my progress. I talk myself into having a drink to make myself fail to then tell myself "knew you would". Is this my Ego at work here?
by Seva
Mon Jul 22, 2019 6:45 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 4 fear Inventory help please
Replies: 7
Views: 1588

Re: Step 4 fear Inventory help please

As was said, I agree it’s to look more for the things which tend to lead us to drink, and fear of being lonely is maybe one, but I did not list things like wasps, everybody except madmen are afraid of that, so here I agree with you when you say you may be over complicating it. Let me try to put up ...
by Seva
Mon Jul 22, 2019 6:31 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 4 fear Inventory help please
Replies: 7
Views: 1588

Re: Step 4 fear Inventory help please

Yeah, its psychological fears. Closest comes to mind is fear of losing the job, fear of dying, losing somebody....... All is not happening now, but, alcoholics being self-centered spend quite a bit of time imagining stuff. Where they could focus on what is on hand at this moment. Yeah as I understa...
by Seva
Mon Jul 22, 2019 4:20 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 4 fear Inventory help please
Replies: 7
Views: 1588

Step 4 fear Inventory help please

I am flowing the Joe & Charlie inventory sheets & I am trying to complete the Fear sheet. I am having trouble understanding column 2 (Why do I have the fear) I think I am over complicating things to be honest. For example. One of my fears is been lonely. So why do I have this fear? Am I suppose to l...
by Seva
Mon Jul 01, 2019 12:20 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Surrender & hand it over. I'm struggling
Replies: 20
Views: 2368

Surrender & hand it over. I'm struggling

Yet again I am going through difficult patch with some medical issues with my family. I consider them quite serious & its getting me very worried & anxious. I am almost 8 months sober, I have a sponsor & I am on step 4. I have thought about having a drink today as the health problem I am potentially...