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by Rooster
Wed Mar 28, 2018 3:26 pm
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: It’s always darkest before the dawn
Replies: 7
Views: 2456

Re: It’s always darkest before the dawn

One thing I have experienced is, I cannot assume everyone (especially the non-alcoholics we interact with) are spiritually fit. With that awareness, I can let go of interim dark spots in life. Even after a decade of sobriety, I still have to deal with resentments that others carry against me. When ...
by Rooster
Tue Mar 27, 2018 6:50 pm
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: It’s always darkest before the dawn
Replies: 7
Views: 2456

It’s always darkest before the dawn

I’ve touched on my experiences during the past few weeks in another discussion but I’d like to dedicate this one to hearing other people’s experiences from similar situations. I’ll begin by saying that while I’ve been sober for a month I did have a week-long bout with N/A beverages that ended with a...
by Rooster
Tue Mar 27, 2018 1:10 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Forgiveness
Replies: 15
Views: 3215

Re: Forgiveness

A lot of normal folk think we are just trading addictions and they still are not getting attention they want. You might suggest she attend an Open Meeting with you or find a meeting of her own http://al-anon.org/ Another thing? It might be that she is feeling "safe" to express her long standing res...
by Rooster
Tue Mar 27, 2018 11:12 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Forgiveness
Replies: 15
Views: 3215

Re: Forgiveness

Thanks for the kind words and suggestions Brock. I know her and our current situation well enough to know not to ask. To ask for something that I am not entitled to would literally enrage her. It’s not how I would like to think that I would react but I can’t be sure... and as much as I’d like to tel...
by Rooster
Tue Mar 27, 2018 8:02 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Forgiveness
Replies: 15
Views: 3215

Re: Forgiveness

Now, weeks later, the well is still dry but I accept that it may never be full again and I may never be able to draw on it again. I’m learning to live a changed life, effect the positive changes that I can and accept those that I cannot. 'Weeks' is a fairly short time-span, though HUGE when you're ...
by Rooster
Tue Mar 27, 2018 7:24 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Shameless-TV Serial
Replies: 4
Views: 1412

Re: Shameless-TV Serial

I’ve only seen the American version but I think that his son “Lip” is more relatable than his father, who seemingly has no regard for anyone, whereas “Lip” is resentful towards himself and regrets his actions.
by Rooster
Sun Mar 25, 2018 6:41 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Forgiveness
Replies: 15
Views: 3215

Forgiveness

At the last meeting of my home group we discussed “foregiveness” and “gratitude” and how our experiences as alcoholics could be related to these extremely powerful words. I learned a lot and was inspired by many of the members who shared so I thought I would post here and ask for others online to sh...
by Rooster
Sun Mar 25, 2018 5:59 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: All Quiet On The Western Front
Replies: 7
Views: 1838

Re: All Quiet On The Western Front

Thank you for posting your encouragement Brock. To any newly sober readers out there I’d like to say that this online community has been a powerful resource for me over the past few weeks and can really help get a person from one meeting to the next or help to answer questions that you may not feel ...
by Rooster
Sun Mar 25, 2018 5:54 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Warning Signs
Replies: 6
Views: 2384

Re: Warning Signs

Thank you for sharing Peter. I am similarly dysfunctional when it comes to ignoring warning signs and ignoring/denying my own alcoholism was a contributing factor to the now dysfunctional nature of my own marriage, which time and adhearance to the principles of AA may or may not remedy. Acceptance o...
by Rooster
Mon Mar 19, 2018 4:17 pm
Forum: Globe Trudgers
Topic: AA in New Zealand
Replies: 9
Views: 10857

Re: AA in New Zealand

I wasn’t a member of AA while living in NZ for 18 months but I can say in all honesty that it is the most amazing country I’ve ever visited and wish every day that I had never left! Enjoy!
by Rooster
Mon Mar 19, 2018 3:35 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Are Non-alcoholic Beverages a safe alternative?
Replies: 16
Views: 4815

Re: Are Non-alcoholic Beverages a safe alternative?

I am an Alcoholic. But Alcohol was but a symptom of my Illness. My Illness was Spiritual, Mental, and Physical. Drinking N/A, Coffee, Soda, water doesn't cause the same effect. If one found theirself, sneaking it in the house, waking up on the middle of the night for a swig, leaving some in their b...
by Rooster
Sun Mar 18, 2018 4:56 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Are Non-alcoholic Beverages a safe alternative?
Replies: 16
Views: 4815

Re: Are Non-alcoholic Beverages a safe alternative?

Good analogies Peter! Thank you!
by Rooster
Sat Mar 17, 2018 5:45 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Need advice
Replies: 13
Views: 4844

Re: Need advice

Hi Shoreline,

I don’t feel as though I’m experienced enough to give you any advice but I’d like to chime in with my support for you and some encouragement. Your home group is out there and they need you as much as you need them! Keep that in mind and don’t give up.
by Rooster
Sat Mar 17, 2018 5:20 pm
Forum: But We Aren't a Glum Lot ...
Topic: Therapy on demand, plus eggs!
Replies: 5
Views: 2716

Re: Therapy on demand, plus eggs!

Unreal isn’t it? It’s like attending a meeting almost and definitely an invaluable way for me to avoid mistakes.
by Rooster
Sat Mar 17, 2018 4:26 pm
Forum: But We Aren't a Glum Lot ...
Topic: Therapy on demand, plus eggs!
Replies: 5
Views: 2716

Therapy on demand, plus eggs!

I’m always amazed at how sitting down and watching my chickens pecking around the yard can improve my mood. I try to spend at least 5 minutes twice a day with them and today during an especially difficult marital spat they helped me to stave off my cravings. So, does anyone else enjoy this wonderful...