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by odat12
Mon Dec 18, 2017 1:17 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Completely ticked off
Replies: 9
Views: 2736

Completely ticked off

So today is not the first time I have heard someone say that they heard from someone else something about me in the meetings. For a group that is supposed to be anonymous, I am ticked off that my life is being gossiped about when I'm not there. I really don't ever want to go back to the rooms again....
by odat12
Thu Nov 30, 2017 10:47 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: At a complete loss
Replies: 5
Views: 1476

Re: At a complete loss

I came to the conclusion that I'm trying to use this other persons situation to avoid dealing with myself. I told him there are meetings, that I'm here if he needs to talk and then I went to work in my Big Book. I noticed my mental obsession took over when I was trying to sleep only telling me that ...
by odat12
Wed Nov 29, 2017 2:19 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: At a complete loss
Replies: 5
Views: 1476

At a complete loss

I've been talking with a friend who has been in bed for a couple days suffering such great depression. It's heart-wrenching to watch someone suffer and to know what that suffering feels like. I'm new to sobriety and I have no idea what to do. I offered to go to a meeting with him this evening. He sa...
by odat12
Wed Nov 29, 2017 7:32 am
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: Inadequate amends?
Replies: 9
Views: 4767

Re: Inadequate amends?

I'm newly sober but went to Al-Anon for a long time. I made amends with my father a few years back (through my Al-Anon program) by changing the things I can - changing my attitude towards him. We didn't talk for years and he yearned for forgiveness. We're not close now but we do talk and see each ot...
by odat12
Mon Nov 27, 2017 7:33 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Practicing These Principles in all our affairs
Replies: 2
Views: 1473

Practicing These Principles in all our affairs

Hi all, I'm just wondering what your typical day looks like. I know every one is different and has different ways of doing anything but surely things have changed since sobriety and I am trying to find some balance in my recovery life as I get back to work and go to meetings regularly. I go to about...
by odat12
Sat Nov 25, 2017 9:41 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: He's newly sober and I'm lost...
Replies: 9
Views: 8998

Re: He's newly sober and I'm lost...

4 days in is some serious fresh meat. I'd guess that he can't talk about his feelings because he really doesn't know what he's feeling and they're probably paralyzed or overwhelming. I go to Al-Anon as well as AA and it sounds this is the best time to start putting into practice everything the progr...
by odat12
Sat Nov 25, 2017 9:29 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: 3 months sober and pregnant
Replies: 3
Views: 1146

3 months sober and pregnant

Hi all, So I've recently found out I'm pregnant. We've been wanting this for a while so I thought this would be a happy time and I'm feeling quite apprehensive and guilty for feeling apprehensive as we've been wanting this. With becoming sober and having two miscarriages in the past, I can't seem to...
by odat12
Fri Nov 24, 2017 6:48 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: BB Page 419
Replies: 0
Views: 1411

BB Page 419

Then one day in AA, I was told that I had the lenses in my glasses backwards; "the courage to change" in the Serenity Prayer meant not that I should change my marriage, but rather that I should change myself and learn to accept my spouse as s/he was. AA has given me a new pair of glasses. I can aga...
by odat12
Fri Nov 24, 2017 6:43 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: BB page 417
Replies: 0
Views: 1479

BB page 417

And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation - some fact of my life - unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is suppo...
by odat12
Fri Nov 24, 2017 6:38 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Third Step Prayer
Replies: 2
Views: 1017

Third Step Prayer

God, I offer myself to thee - to build with me and do with me as thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may do better thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of thy power, thy love, and thy way of life. May I do thy will always!
by odat12
Fri Nov 24, 2017 6:34 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Going against my sponsors advice?
Replies: 10
Views: 4122

Re: Going against my sponsors advice?

By focusing on another person and their problem, we're taking all the focus off of our own recovery and leaving us vulnerable to relapse. And we do our best "recruiting" when we are able to practice the principles in all our affairs. Our lives changing is what helps other alcoholics want to change. ...
by odat12
Thu Nov 23, 2017 6:11 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Fired my Sponsor
Replies: 5
Views: 3794

Re: Fired my Sponsor

It's hard to distinguish when a sponsor is right for you, especially being a newcomer. In this society, we're warned of abusive behaviour and what that entails yet at the same time, us alcoholics need discipline - as it says at the end of "Into Action": "we alcoholics are undisciplined." But we allo...
by odat12
Wed Nov 22, 2017 11:07 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Fired my Sponsor
Replies: 5
Views: 3794

Fired my Sponsor

I was happy to have her as a sponsor and she helped me in so many ways. I understand being strict and needing to be firm but there's a fine line between discipline and dictating. I put up with so much because in the end she really did help but until I decided that I couldn't take it anymore and that...
by odat12
Thu Oct 26, 2017 10:41 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Not the Same
Replies: 7
Views: 2352

Re: Not the Same

Thank you. I needed a new perspective to look from.
by odat12
Thu Oct 26, 2017 9:29 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Not the Same
Replies: 7
Views: 2352

Re: Not the Same

The same people telling me to look for the winners are the ones cross-talking and gossiping of other people in the rooms. I may be casting high judgment here, however its hard to build trust within the rooms when its hard to find the ones are here for the principles of the meetings and the program. ...