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by bbqking
Sun Jul 01, 2018 3:27 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Trauma Related AA Speaker Tapes
Replies: 6
Views: 2167

Re: Trauma Related AA Speaker Tapes

Google Bob E or Bob Earl aa speaker since we aren't allowed links that's the best i can do. Enjoy
by bbqking
Sun Jun 24, 2018 5:15 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Resolving FEAR
Replies: 16
Views: 5004

Re: Resolving FEAR

I have to practice giving up my fear to my higher power. For me, it's regular practice, and i have to remind myself regularly to give it up. I find it liberating and weird that I keep on having to remind myself to give it up. When i forget to give it up I seem to have "issues".
by bbqking
Sun Nov 12, 2017 9:42 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: race and culure
Replies: 22
Views: 6330

Re: race and culure

Brock thank you for the polite welcome. I think what I am curious about is how the recovering community feels about the hot button topics of privilege and intersectionality. For instance some could and will argue that as a white man perhaps I bear some historical resposibility for introducing alcoh...
by bbqking
Sun Nov 12, 2017 9:00 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Pain Medication
Replies: 42
Views: 13799

Re: Pain Medication

Hello I just wanted to post here I have a question. I have an abscessed wisdom tooth and I was prescribed antibiotics and pain medication to take until they can extract the tooth next week. I've been taking the pain medication as prescribed by the doctor. I've never had a pill problem, and I'm not ...
by bbqking
Sun Oct 22, 2017 11:16 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Back to work ...
Replies: 8
Views: 2254

Re: Back to work ...

Alcohol can exacerbate anxiety and depression and anxiety and depression can be a driving force to "self-medicate" - drink alcohol for some people. One can cause the other - Or you could have both as It's also possible to have a propensity towards alcoholism and have anxiety and depression issues. S...
by bbqking
Fri Sep 29, 2017 9:06 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 4 issues
Replies: 24
Views: 9366

Re: Step 4 issues

Sometimes people go back out on step 4 because they are alcoholics.

Same with steps 1-3 and 5-12.


When people say I can't believe so and so went back out after (however long),.... I can believe it, because they are alcoholics.
by bbqking
Mon Sep 18, 2017 2:47 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Sooo, how exactly DOES someone stop?
Replies: 17
Views: 7195

Re: Sooo, how exactly DOES someone stop?

I've quit 100's of times lol. Cold turkey: sometimes i get a little sick with just a little vomiting and such, sometimes seriously ill and ended up in the hospital after 4 -5 days of vomiting and shakes, got so weak and dehydrated had a seizure. Been to reahab under medical supervision - Ativan, lib...
by bbqking
Sun Sep 17, 2017 7:33 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Judgement & Resentment in Sober Housing
Replies: 12
Views: 3251

Re: Judgement & Resentment in Sober Housing

How could you let go of resentments in that kind of situation? Understanding, compassion, and healthy boundaries. Some of the people around you may still be very sick, still in the grips of the disease. You could understand that couldn't you? Having compassion doesn't mean you have to let it slide t...
by bbqking
Sat Sep 16, 2017 9:22 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: 2 step one questions
Replies: 14
Views: 11012

Re: 2 step one questions

I believe this was more geared towards accessing physical progression from a medical point of view so I just left it be and moved on but thnx Correct. Various medical / psycho-social questionnaires use a wide variety of questions like this to assess whether someone may have a problem with alcohol. ...
by bbqking
Sat Sep 09, 2017 2:49 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Step 4 expected to take up to a year
Replies: 19
Views: 11452

Re: Step 4 expected to take up to a year

Hi everyone, The way I've been shown to do step 4 is extremely thorough, not the way in which I see others at AA meetings doing it, and im told it is likely to take over a year, purely on step 4 alone. I've been working at it consistently every day since May, and I'm not even a quarter of the way t...
by bbqking
Sat Sep 02, 2017 1:41 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Fatigue in early recovery
Replies: 6
Views: 6088

Re: Fatigue in early recovery

Many experience fatigue early on, I did. I did quite a bit of reading on the subject and this is what I found: Sleep can be greatly affected including the amount and quality for weeks, months, and some a year or more after quitting. Circadian rhythmes and normal hormone function is disrupted - even ...
by bbqking
Sat Sep 02, 2017 7:59 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Forgiveness
Replies: 19
Views: 9257

Re: Forgiveness

Hello, My focus for the next few weeks is to develop the "tools" needed in order to forgive those that brought me great pain. Does anyone have any suggestions that will help in making this crucial step permanent. Chas There is the saying about holding on to a resentment that goes something - It's l...
by bbqking
Sat Sep 02, 2017 7:21 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Our troubles
Replies: 17
Views: 8359

Re: Our troubles

No. There are other sick people. Where we are at fault is carrying the resentment. We drain lot of energy. Forgiveness is an option but Our mind endures lot of pain before we look for solution. Great topic. Spot on. ^^ Like when an acquaintance decided to "borrow" my car without my permission (stol...
by bbqking
Fri Sep 01, 2017 10:52 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: looking for advice
Replies: 14
Views: 12111

Re: looking for advice

I was also a binge drinker in my early and mid 20's, not a daily, that is until I became a daily drinker in my late 20's. With many of us it is a continuum, that only gets worse. If you think you might be an alcoholic, you're better off addressing it now before continuing down the rabbit hole. I wis...
by bbqking
Sun Jul 23, 2017 3:17 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Unmanageable?
Replies: 65
Views: 36875

Re: Unmanageable?

My question is how many of us actually reached "unmanageability" or how many, like me, were functioning ok but could see "unmanageability" up ahead, and still had it together enough to get a grip on things in time. -Mike Manageability is subjective. The book lists things that could describe what un...