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by cpr123
Sun Sep 16, 2018 12:49 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: 9th Step Amends to my husband’s mistress
Replies: 9
Views: 3165

Re: 9th Step Amends to my husband’s mistress

"We turned back to the list, for it held the key to the future. We were prepared to look at it from an entirely different angle. We began to see that the world and its people really dominated us. In that state, the wrong-doing of others, fancied or real, had power to actually kill. How could we esca...
by cpr123
Wed Dec 07, 2016 3:34 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Faith without works is dead
Replies: 7
Views: 7542

Re: Faith without works is dead

This is the most difficult part of AA for me these days. It is easy for me to act the way I always have, but I think I've started to change the way I act and react to people. I find that my better days are started with prayer. Sometimes its obvious, like when I get angry. Sometimes I realize I haven...
by cpr123
Mon Nov 14, 2016 8:25 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: 4th Step... Guilt... Self-Forgiveness?
Replies: 18
Views: 13956

Re: 4th Step... Guilt... Self-Forgiveness?

Ever thought of using a priest. It is suggested in the big book and, for what it is worth, that is what I did. The fellow I talked with had been a priest for a couple of penitentiaries... he didn't even flinch when I thought he would excommunicate me from the church. He was very insightful about hum...
by cpr123
Fri Aug 05, 2016 5:29 am
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: Huge resentment
Replies: 6
Views: 5076

Re: Huge resentment

My first time to contact this group was due to a resentment at the ole home group. I think this is more common than people want to admit. Its been a few months now and I'm not holding onto it anymore. The person I thought would be a problem just kinda slipped into the background. I don't know about ...
by cpr123
Wed Jun 15, 2016 9:50 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Introduction
Replies: 12
Views: 5090

Re: Introduction

Power aid and Tacos in the early AM. That is great. I Work night shifts too and had the same problem with the beer store (aka gas station) right outside of our work gates. I didn't go inside for almost 3 months. It is hard to stay awake on the ride home in the morning so I use peanuts and soft drink...
by cpr123
Tue Jun 14, 2016 9:02 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Fearless, but so fearful
Replies: 67
Views: 32468

Re: Fearless, but so fearful

This is one of the "any lengths to achieve sobriety" that is talked about in the meetings. Contrary to what I hear that "any lengths to achieve sobriety" means going to as many meetings as possible. Follow the advice of your sponsor and push through the step. It is not easy but once on the other sid...
by cpr123
Fri Jun 03, 2016 8:43 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Telling my family and friends
Replies: 13
Views: 5976

Re: Telling my family and friends

I haven't had that problem with family or any friends my three little girls seem to let everyone know what I'm doing every evening. They took that burden off my shoulders. People at work don't know but that is my business not theirs.
by cpr123
Wed May 18, 2016 12:12 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Feeling Guilty
Replies: 39
Views: 31528

Re: Feeling Guilty

Now my post looks funny because I was responding to someone else post and it is gone.
Oh well.

Does that happen or should I go to sleep?
by cpr123
Wed May 18, 2016 12:09 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Feeling Guilty
Replies: 39
Views: 31528

Re: Feeling Guilty

Not sure if your suggesting I'm obsessive compulsive or if your just trying to say it will take a while to get over. Believe me, the burden of guilt I felt for her has become less and less, now that I have watched her make decisions on her own without me around to influence her. Guilt does still try...
by cpr123
Tue May 17, 2016 10:00 pm
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Feeling Guilty
Replies: 39
Views: 31528

Re: Feeling Guilty

Well the divorce is now official. The children are safe and secure. I have gotten help from my brother and sister-in-law with child care without condition. If it wasn't for them I'd be in a pickle and I let them know it. The don't even mind watching the girls an extra hour when I go to meetings. I h...
by cpr123
Wed May 04, 2016 10:35 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Urgent advice needed
Replies: 22
Views: 9250

Re: Urgent advice needed

This is great news.
by cpr123
Sat Apr 23, 2016 9:55 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: As the codependent versus the alcoholic
Replies: 9
Views: 4074

Re: As the codependent versus the alcoholic

I am going through a similar situation and I believe the Al-anon meetings I went to have helped just as much at AA but for different reasons. go to one and you will see why.
by cpr123
Sat Apr 16, 2016 8:19 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Other meeting formats than top table shares?
Replies: 12
Views: 5798

Re: Other meeting formats than top table shares?

My first few meeting, this go around, I wanted to hear all the readings and I wanted to hear everyone speak. I wanted the meeting to last as long as It could and I wanted to talk to someone after. I was scared to go home. I was scared that I would drink again and I felt safe in the meeting. Those fe...
by cpr123
Tue Apr 12, 2016 9:50 pm
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Feeling Guilty
Replies: 39
Views: 31528

Re: Feeling Guilty

I deleted the last post I made. I should not use the computer when angry. It doesn't ever look good.
by cpr123
Tue Apr 12, 2016 7:17 pm
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Feeling Guilty
Replies: 39
Views: 31528

Re: Feeling Guilty

I am feeling a bit down today. It is our 13 year wedding anniversary. I went to a al-anon meeting today. It is the 3rd one I've been to. I know it is over and everything but I just want to dump on you guys.I don't do it in the face to face meetings because I've seen too many meeting turn into discus...