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by D'oh
Sun Jun 28, 2020 7:37 pm
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: choice
Replies: 9
Views: 233

Re: choice

Of course "We" have a "Choice". However, the Consequences, well Ain't Pretty, and Few, make it back. And it is a Progressive Illness, we get Worse, not Better. We alcoholics are men and women who have lost the ability to control our drinking. We know that no real alcoholic ever recovers control. All...
by D'oh
Fri Jun 26, 2020 9:35 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 477

Re: Sponsorship query.

My question is when did this all start? How did the programme become that? I do not want an argument - far from it. I simply have a huge disconnect, or a gap in my knowledge, which is getting bigger, in my mind between what the programme is in the book and what some (more and more, it seems) sponso...
by D'oh
Mon Jun 22, 2020 9:20 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety
Replies: 14
Views: 281

Re: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety

A long story about "Why" but very understandable Today (any ways) My Second Sponsors Home Work at 6 weeks Sober was pages 83-86 at night and 86-88 Every Morning. Yes Steps 10 and 11, and I was barely on Step 2 at the time. So confusing. But it starts "Yes, there is a Long Period of Reconstruction ah...
by D'oh
Mon Jun 22, 2020 9:45 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety
Replies: 14
Views: 281

Re: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety

dralius wrote:
Mon Jun 22, 2020 8:33 am
DaveP1951 wrote:
Mon Jun 22, 2020 7:13 am
Quite simply "Attraction rather than promotion."
I am a living example for her. She says she is happy that I am sober. That she has back the man she married.
Preciously. and You are not Happy because she isn't sober.
by D'oh
Thu Jun 11, 2020 7:54 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The right program
Replies: 14
Views: 417

Re: The right program

Who cares to admit Complete Defeat? Practically No One, of course. ""UNLESS" I have come in both as a "scarcely more than a Potential" and one who "Went through the 10 or 15 years of Literal Hell". "Complete Defeat" comes much easier the Second way. But, I can also tell you, That I was never Alone,...
by D'oh
Mon Jun 08, 2020 7:25 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Ashamed to go back to aa
Replies: 7
Views: 305

Re: Ashamed to go back to aa

Hi David, Don't be ashamed, I made it back in and it's been the Best Part of my Life.

It is not the Relapse that matters, it is What was learnt from going through the pain and anguish.
by D'oh
Tue May 26, 2020 6:32 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How do I get a sponsor?
Replies: 7
Views: 806

Re: How do I get a sponsor?

Find a Member that has what you want, then ask them "How did you get it?"

That simple.
by D'oh
Thu May 21, 2020 5:27 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Running the show
Replies: 12
Views: 878

Re: Running the show

After truly turning your Will and Life over to your Higher Power Is any Merit yours? But at the same time, doing your HP's will to your Best, you cannot Fail. What ever Happens, is exactly what is meant to Happen.

What you do with that Merit is yours. We are just along for the Ride.
by D'oh
Wed May 20, 2020 7:14 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Running the show
Replies: 12
Views: 878

Re: Running the show

We relax and take it easy. We don’t struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspiration gradually becomes a working part of the mind. One of the Promises (11th Step) for me After the first 9 Steps,...
by D'oh
Wed May 20, 2020 4:51 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Running the show
Replies: 12
Views: 878

Re: Running the show

Humility. There is a difference between doing the Next Right Thing, and doing the Next Right Thing because it is Your Thing, The Earth no longer revolves around Us, we are just to Ride the Merry Go Round. No Seat is any better than the Next Seat, the ride up is just as good as the one going down. Th...
by D'oh
Thu May 14, 2020 9:34 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I drink because my life is ruined
Replies: 8
Views: 769

Re: I drink because my life is ruined

I have nothing to live for or anywhere to go. My family doesn't want to know me and everyone has let me down. I struggle to hold down a job or make friends. I try to make myself useful but it seems to attract hatred from others. No one helps me out or takes me seriously. My strategy is drinking. It...
by D'oh
Fri May 08, 2020 5:05 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: work leadership
Replies: 6
Views: 479

Re: work leadership

I always believe that "We judge Others by our Own Actions" well because We don't really have a Road Map otherwise. So if We would cheat on our Spouse, if We would steal from a Friend, if We would Lie to a Employer, well, They will Cheat, Steal, and Lie also. But, My thinking is quite warped from Alc...
by D'oh
Thu May 07, 2020 9:42 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: work leadership
Replies: 6
Views: 479

Re: work leadership

Yes, I have been there, and for Years. I catch the Ego thing faster now, but it still gets in the way. I try to "Just do my Job." because, well it's the way I provide things/stuff for my Family. Nothing More, Nothing Less. "Doing what I ought to do, Because I want to do it." (example) Holding a Door...
by D'oh
Tue May 05, 2020 5:34 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sometimes Quickly, Sometimes Slowly
Replies: 39
Views: 2462

Re: Sometimes Quickly, Sometimes Slowly

Thanks Tommy, you pretty much summed up what I was going to type. But for the quote "Bring the Body and the Mind will follow." I was lucky enough to have "Fear" Sober me up long enough to realize, that I can survive without a Drink, which lead me to, These People are always Happy and Fun to be aroun...
by D'oh
Mon May 04, 2020 7:23 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Sometimes Quickly, Sometimes Slowly
Replies: 39
Views: 2462

Re: Sometimes Quickly, Sometimes Slowly

I remember feeling "Outside". I also remember my Second Sponsor telling me to read pages 83-86 every night and 86-88 every morning. (the promises contained) and feeling even More left out and confused. At the time I was working on my 4th Step with my 2nd Sponsor, but nothing was going on Paper, and ...