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by D'oh
Tue Jul 09, 2019 5:10 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: STEP 4
Replies: 6
Views: 214

Re: STEP 4

I couldn't write anything on my first 4th Step, until I understood and did my 3rd Step. I did not get my 3rd Step until I opened my mind to the 2nd Step.

They say the first visible sign of completing the 3rd Step is the 4th Step. =wink
by D'oh
Thu Jun 13, 2019 4:39 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I Failed
Replies: 8
Views: 409

Re: I Failed

The answer might be in the Next Drink, or the one after that one. But I never found it there. It is amazing, how a 26oz Bottle is so easy to pick up, and a Phone seems to weigh 100lbs. When ever you are ready, the Answer is here. When ever you are Completely Defeated, AA and the Fellowship, will sho...
by D'oh
Wed Jun 12, 2019 8:17 pm
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: The AA way, the path of happy destiny.
Replies: 5
Views: 244

Re: The AA way, the path of happy destiny.

Very Happy Birthday! And Many More.

That word "OF' in "the road of happy destiny" Look around us, The "Now" is the "Road", the "Now" is the "Happy"

So Grateful, for the Program, and the Fellowship who Carries it's Message.
by D'oh
Wed Jun 12, 2019 8:05 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Can newcomers 13 step an old timer
Replies: 4
Views: 221

Re: Can newcomers 13 step an old timer

And, what if she goes back to Drinking or Worse, during or afterwards? What would that do to Your Sobriety?

Thin Ice, Not that it can't work, I have witnessed some Great Relationship start in AA, but Use the Big Head.
by D'oh
Wed Jun 12, 2019 7:44 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Higher power
Replies: 15
Views: 628

Re: Higher power

I fumbled and drank Monday night. I feel terrible. Even my body. And I'm having so much anxiety, even today (Wednesday) and I didn't even drink as much as I have in previous "fumbles". 1. How do you make yourself encouraged again? I feel pathetic and scared. 2. I'm praying to my higher power many t...
by D'oh
Mon Jun 03, 2019 5:32 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Relapse
Replies: 5
Views: 665

Re: Relapse

I am extremely introverted, and suffer from multiple mental disorders which amplify my issues. Meetings will do you good. It isn't about the Alcohol, it is about Why We Drank. The "ism" part of Alcoholism. This might be why you are having troubles living without it. More than any Intervention, You ...
by D'oh
Wed May 22, 2019 7:29 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions Heard At Meetings.
Replies: 9
Views: 1020

Re: Questions Heard At Meetings.

:lol: :D :lol: :mrgreen: Any changes after Step 3 hardly deserve any pats on my back. As a wonderful Alanon once told me - and I don't hear it enough: You don't get any pats on the back for doing what you were supposed to be doing all along! Eiy Lassie. The Key being "Doing what I ought to do" beca...
by D'oh
Tue May 21, 2019 10:00 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions Heard At Meetings.
Replies: 9
Views: 1020

Re: Questions Heard At Meetings.

have been through the Steps 3 times and NEVER was my Guide interested in my "amends to myself". Amend means to change - That is what I am doing in AA isn't it? That is what this program is all about... well that and shrinking my Ego - which thinks it would be "fashionable" to make a promise to chan...
by D'oh
Mon May 20, 2019 8:36 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step One - Keep it Simple
Replies: 6
Views: 1245

Re: Step One - Keep it Simple

The six steps were: •Complete deflation. •Dependence and guidance from a Higher Power. •Moral inventory. •Confession. •Restitution. •Continued work with other alcoholics. The Original Steps. Being Alcohol is "Just a Symptom" I am Deflated totally, Life had me Down for the Count. Only by "Completely...
by D'oh
Thu May 16, 2019 4:59 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 4 help please. Is this fear or resentment?
Replies: 7
Views: 2717

Re: Step 4 help please. Is this fear or resentment?

3 columns: I'm resentful at:///// The cause:///// Affects my: If you notice there are 7 different subjects that they cover under (effects my). 1. Sex relations 2. Self-esteem 3. Security 4. Personal relationship. 5. Pride 6. Pocket book 7. Ambitions And in the Examples (Fear) Brackets In "Affects M...
by D'oh
Wed May 15, 2019 7:35 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Correctional sentence
Replies: 2
Views: 581

Re: Correctional sentence

Just as, "Nobody walks through the Doors by Accident" I believe that "Nobody is Forced through the Doors by Accident." I mean, Court Ordered, or after Hitting Bottom and Admitting Complete Defeat. They still walk through the Doors. Everything in and leading to those Doors, happens for a Reason. Just...
by D'oh
Mon May 13, 2019 9:11 pm
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: Too Angry to Confront
Replies: 4
Views: 2505

Re: Too Angry to Confront

First off, Glad you are here, Look after yourself. Share a problem, you have 1/2 a problem! Grant me the Serenity, to accept the things you cannot change. Courage to change the things you can And Wisdom to know "It is Me" The Big Book States, "Our behavior will convince them more than our words." Pa...
by D'oh
Fri May 10, 2019 7:50 pm
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Always willing to learn
Replies: 13
Views: 2700

Re: Always willing to lecarn

I am currently in another Commitment Group. Going through the first 164 pages as a Group, Committing to each Step, only as fast as the Slowest Member. This is my 5th time doing this, and We are on Step 4, for my 6th time. Why? Because it is so enlightening, I learn something each and every time, the...
by D'oh
Wed May 08, 2019 7:35 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Powerlessness
Replies: 10
Views: 945

Re: Powerlessness

When I went back, I didn't think much, but it was a slow relapse. Experiment you might call it. 1 or 2 a month, grew to 3-4, grew to 10-15 a night. Without any thought of the experiment had failed over time. Soon ALL CHOICE was gone. The main thing I forgot, was "Complete Defeat" That I could not do...
by D'oh
Wed May 01, 2019 9:46 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The Hardline Approach
Replies: 30
Views: 2735

Re: The Hardline Approach

At times on my recovery journey, I find it enlightening to step back and take a look at what is it about my persona that produces a paricular reaction in other people. I use to be ashamed, now I am amused. Less than 25% of communication is prevailed by Words. That's is why I don't take Forums as Go...