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by Oliver
Wed Jun 07, 2017 12:42 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Misconception of outside World
Replies: 69
Views: 33963

Re: Misconception of outside World

People who are close to me see the fruits if I'm sticking close to the fellowship, and see the opposite fruits if I'm not on top of my programme. In my experience people who question the value of it tend to be at a safe distance!
by Oliver
Wed Jun 07, 2017 12:39 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Facetime 5th Step
Replies: 6
Views: 2987

Re: Facetime 5th Step

No intrinsic problem with Skype etc, but you might want to re-check that this is the person you want if they've missed two appointments. I am glad I did mine face-to-face. I think if I'd tried email or Skype I would have been tempted to be evasive. But that's just this alcoholic. The important thing...
by Oliver
Sat May 27, 2017 2:17 pm
Forum: Suggestions
Topic: Forum Guidelines Confusing.
Replies: 12
Views: 8109

Re: Forum Guidelines Confusing.

It sounds like there's a history here that I don't know or understand. I also don't have particularly strong views about the guidelines. Honestly, I don't like disputes like this on a public forum. But Brock and you all clearly care about this meeting and I'm grateful for that today, because this me...
by Oliver
Mon May 15, 2017 12:55 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: court cards
Replies: 33
Views: 22996

Re: court cards

Here in the UK I more often hear talk of court cards than see them - in fact in all the time I've been going to meetings I've never seen one. Only time I was asked to sign anything as a meeting secretary was for a trainee social worker who came to open meetings and listened, as a sort of alternative...
by Oliver
Sun Apr 30, 2017 8:46 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Am I an alcoholic
Replies: 13
Views: 9913

Re: Am I an alcoholic

SoberInMI wrote: You make a common mistake in assuming that an abbreviated expression says all that there is to say or that you can fully understand what is meant.
I am glad to know my mistake is common. Spent years thinking I was unique!
by Oliver
Sat Apr 29, 2017 11:31 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Am I an alcoholic
Replies: 13
Views: 9913

Re: Am I an alcoholic

Food for thought: how many people, do you think, who don't have problems with alcohol are kept awake wondering if they might be alcoholics?

Only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.
by Oliver
Fri Apr 28, 2017 12:36 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: "Be still, and know that I am God."
Replies: 14
Views: 9835

Re: "Be still, and know that I am God."

Latin of be still is 'vacate': I like that, take a holiday from playing God!
by Oliver
Fri Apr 28, 2017 12:33 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: The Athiest
Replies: 66
Views: 40025

Re: The Athiest

We all have our prejudices, I suppose. There can be anti-atheists and there can be anti-organised religion. Progress not perfection. Always interested to hear from people speaking a slightly different spiritual accent on the same path of recovery.
by Oliver
Fri Apr 28, 2017 10:08 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Walked out of two meetings this week
Replies: 64
Views: 31250

Re: Walked out of two meetings this week

Given how many other things I tried, I could spend a lifetime going round the internet finding all the fora to post on "IT DOESN'T WORK". Can't imagine why I'd want to spend my time doing that. But wherever you go, there you are. So michmjon: I'm glad you are sober and hope you are happy. Our experi...
by Oliver
Sun Apr 23, 2017 1:15 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: new one
Replies: 9
Views: 3891

Re: new one

Welcome. Welcome. Welcome!
by Oliver
Sat Apr 22, 2017 1:10 pm
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: 4 years
Replies: 4
Views: 2474

Re: 4 years

Congrats =smile =biggrin =biggrin
by Oliver
Sun Jun 22, 2014 12:21 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: I can't stop getting hammered nightly
Replies: 8
Views: 4333

Re: I can't stop getting hammered nightly

Jd1990: welcome! Your post reminded me of when I came into recovery. Thank you for taking time to post it. Many of us found ourselves in a situation like the one you described. Personally, I remember the pain well, I remember the experience of just wanting the pain to stop. My existence was barely l...
by Oliver
Sun Jun 22, 2014 12:14 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: is it normal to be scared to go to the first AA meeting
Replies: 12
Views: 1948

Re: is it normal to be scared to go to the first AA meeting

Yes it would be very unusual if someone wasn't afraid of their first meeting. I hope it goes well for you mechanical girl -- AA has helped me, one day at a time, to move into a new and happier phase of my life, without alcohol.

Oliver
by Oliver
Tue Jun 17, 2014 11:31 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Day 9
Replies: 7
Views: 1394

Re: Day 9

Congratulations to both of you. Thanks for taking the time to share. It is great to see how the programme of recovery is starting to work for you. Have another great sober day today, folks!

Oliver
by Oliver
Tue Jun 17, 2014 11:28 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: odouls slip?
Replies: 17
Views: 10234

Re: odouls slip?

We could quibble about whether what happened constituted a slip or not, but then we might miss the real issue which is your description of not being faithful to the AA programme, because that only leads in one direction... towards drink. The point is that you intentionally consumed alcohol and it se...