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by tomsteve
Wed Jul 08, 2020 9:28 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: My home group & resentment creeping in
Replies: 11
Views: 102

Re: My home group & resentment creeping in

....but yes I really do need to do the steps. ive learned theres a good reason chapter 5 starts with the sentence it does. there was a detox in the town i got sober in. clients loaded into the druggie buggie and brought to meetings. i heard numerous times from the clients, "i got to step 4 and dran...
by tomsteve
Sat Jun 27, 2020 10:04 am
Forum: Big Book Study
Topic: choice
Replies: 9
Views: 277

Re: choice

good question. something i think wise to remember is the type of alcoholic that refers to- the REAL alcoholic. most REAL alcoholics have lost all power of choice of whether they can drink or not. for myself, even when i wasnt drinking i couldnt stop thinking about that next drink. letting up on the ...
by tomsteve
Fri Jun 26, 2020 8:10 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Sponsorship query.
Replies: 22
Views: 581

Re: Sponsorship query.

My question is when did this all start? How did the programme become that? :D thats a very good question. when i came into AA 15 years ago i heard it happening. i heard many people say they stopped at step____ then got drunk. i heard some chronic relapsers say their sponsor wouldnt let them go past...
by tomsteve
Mon Jun 22, 2020 11:27 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety
Replies: 14
Views: 353

Re: Getting Wife to Choose Sobriety

dralius wrote:
Mon Jun 22, 2020 6:38 am
Does anyone have an idea how I can get her to open up her eyes. I cannot make this decision for her.
i think you answered yourself here.
its a decision she has to make. however, that doesnt mean you cant have boundaries. you might want to look into alanon
by tomsteve
Thu Jun 11, 2020 3:58 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The right program
Replies: 14
Views: 449

Re: The right program

dralius wrote:
Wed Jun 10, 2020 4:48 am


Here I'll have to work through it myself. As an atheist I don't believe in god. No god = no god of my understanding.
have ya read the chapter,"we agnostics?"
by tomsteve
Wed Jun 10, 2020 3:24 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The right program
Replies: 14
Views: 449

Re: The right program

For me its a catch 22. Step 5 will release me from fear. fear keeps me from step 5. it would be wise to step back a step or 4 then. step 3- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. my will is my thoughts my life is my actions. with those in the ca...
by tomsteve
Tue Jun 09, 2020 9:42 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Questions heard at zoom meetings.
Replies: 19
Views: 1306

Re: Questions heard at zoom meetings.

DaveP1951 wrote:
Mon Jun 08, 2020 4:09 pm
Let's hope that the person who has the resentment is about 10 years old because that is so childish. Here is another resentment for them to focus on. Tell them I said "My Dad is bigger than their Dad. LOL
yeeeeah well my dog poops bigger than your dad! =biggrin
by tomsteve
Mon Jun 08, 2020 11:02 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Ashamed to go back to aa
Replies: 7
Views: 325

Re: Ashamed to go back to aa

Drooss09 wrote:
Sat Jun 06, 2020 1:48 am

I get these horrible hangovers were i think im not going to make it. I shake like im laying on a messager during which I swear im never drinking again.
i dont think thats hangover. i think thats withdrawl. PLEASE get to a doctor, call a detox, or rehab.
by tomsteve
Sun Jun 07, 2020 4:11 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions
Replies: 42
Views: 2352

Re: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions

I have seen a lot more alcoholics sitting in AA meetings questioning if they are social drinkers than I have seen social drinkers sitting in bars questioning if they are alcoholics. If you are questioning you most likely are. Welcome to the club. quite true! the prelude to the second set of stories...
by tomsteve
Sat Jun 06, 2020 3:23 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions
Replies: 42
Views: 2352

Re: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions

So I know now why I drink....it's so I don't feel anything bad . No negative stuff if I can stop after a few drinks. Before it gets too bad one of the reasons i drank,too. i learned after getting sober that if it truly worked, i wouldnt have had to keep doing it over and over. however, i can simpli...
by tomsteve
Fri Jun 05, 2020 6:53 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions
Replies: 42
Views: 2352

Re: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions

Wow, that really gives me hope! Hard to believe there will be a day when I don't think about having a drink, but your words have definitely inspired me. Until then, I will take your advice to heart. I've asked about getting a sponsor and I think that will help as well, especially when I feel weak a...
by tomsteve
Thu Jun 04, 2020 9:04 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions
Replies: 42
Views: 2352

Re: Not at rock bottom ..but asking questions

I almost feel like I won't know what to do with myself once that devil starts whispering in my ear again, except pray. HARD. REAL HARD. I'd love to hear how other people handle that desire/temptation... peanut, i dont think i know an alkie that didnt have the problem with the mental obsession early...
by tomsteve
Sat May 30, 2020 3:04 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How do I get a sponsor?
Replies: 7
Views: 819

Re: How do I get a sponsor?

great suggestions above. now, theres a small possibility that who you ask may not be able to sponsor. beings how youre asking someone that would have what you want, more than likely they know people with the same. ask them if they know someone that may be able to sponsor you.
by tomsteve
Tue May 26, 2020 4:15 am
Forum: Suggestions
Topic: I don't want to be around alcohol but it seems impossible
Replies: 12
Views: 2620

Re: I don't want to be around alcohol but it seems impossible

Doctors need more than a rubric to diagnose alcoholism. A lot of people who drink end up getting drunk more often than they intended. Many people regret what they do or say when they drink. But that doesn’t mean they have the disease called alcoholism doctors can diagnose all they want however they...
by tomsteve
Tue May 26, 2020 4:09 am
Forum: Suggestions
Topic: I don't want to be around alcohol but it seems impossible
Replies: 12
Views: 2620

Re: I don't want to be around alcohol but it seems impossible

MrAMD123 wrote:
Thu Feb 20, 2020 2:30 pm
I try to go to meetings, but life is very busy and my wife sees it as a burden.
isnt it wild how some people wont think how their actions (drinking) are a burden,then when other people do what helps them(goto meetings)their actions are a burden.