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by Peter.H.
Fri Jul 20, 2018 4:01 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Too scared to go to an AA meeting
Replies: 9
Views: 3141

Re: Too scared to go to an AA meeting

...I am 35 years old, I am living in a foreign country, with a shitty job that barely gets me any money and all the money I get from it I spend on booze and dope. I am scared. I don’t have anybody here. No friends, no family. Completely alone. There are AA group meetings in Madrid, I looked it up. ...
by Peter.H.
Fri Jul 20, 2018 3:52 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Reading in Early Recovery
Replies: 9
Views: 2246

Re: Reading in Early Recovery

I’m a few days past 2 months sober. Yay!! Im curious, should I only be reading/studying the Big Book at this time rather than reading different types of recovery/psychology books? And, I have a few daily meditation books. Should I only pick one to focus on? I feel overwhelmed at times. Sometimes I ...
by Peter.H.
Thu Apr 27, 2017 1:30 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: am i a bad sponsor??
Replies: 11
Views: 9408

Re: am i a bad sponsor??

The life of recovery is the opposite to the life of alcoholism. It takes practice to become a recovered person. As an alcoholic, we were bad examples for patience, tolerance, forgiveness, allowance, listening, honesty, and loving unconditionally. All these things require practice and a sponsee provi...
by Peter.H.
Thu Apr 27, 2017 1:14 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Felt like a moron after my share today
Replies: 25
Views: 15733

Re: Felt like a moron after my share today

That was a great share, both here and at the meeting. Advice?! Stay sober and keep sharing. Just be honest and come from your heart. Remember, you are at an AA meeting for YOUR OWN RECOVERY, and not for anybody else. No more people pleasing or glory seeking. We go to meetings to practice honesty, pa...
by Peter.H.
Wed Apr 26, 2017 5:51 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How do I learn to rely on a higher power?
Replies: 15
Views: 7524

Re: How do I learn to rely on a higher power?

Having an extremely hard time learning to rely on a power greater than myself for all my problems. Any suggestions? Today I'm 4 months sober but feel like I've lost contact with my higher power. Seriously consider the Serenity Prayer and what it means. Acceptance and gratitude will be the most impo...
by Peter.H.
Wed Apr 26, 2017 5:34 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: hate speaking in front of groups
Replies: 7
Views: 3453

Re: hate speaking in front of groups

... Any advice on calming me down and speaking from the heart without screwing up and sounding like an idiot ? Thanks ! We in AA admire anybody who shares the truth no matter how it comes out. We in AA know what its like to be fearful. We in AA understand the courage it takes to be willing to go to...
by Peter.H.
Wed Apr 26, 2017 5:22 am
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: What's the point of meetings?
Replies: 34
Views: 17757

Re: What's the point of meetings?

My words in blue Hello, I wanted to throw the question out. What is my role at a meeting? To be honest. What am I doing there? Being honest. What sort of thing am I supposed to share? The truth about your alcoholism, how you got to AA and recovered, and the truth about your life now. A lot of times...
by Peter.H.
Fri Jan 01, 2016 4:31 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Declining drinks and telling people that you are sober
Replies: 15
Views: 7758

Re: Declining drinks and telling people that you are sober

I tend not to find myself in these situations now as my life is far too full/busy to waste my time in bars. At the odd wedding or family get together I merely politely decline as 'normal' people do. On the rare occasion that an insistent idiot perseveres I have no qualms in telling him/her not too ...
by Peter.H.
Fri Jan 01, 2016 1:30 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Declining drinks and telling people that you are sober
Replies: 15
Views: 7758

Re: Declining drinks and telling people that you are sober

With people who knew me as a drinker, I say and do what GreatR said. With people who don't know my past, I say "I don't drink". 90% of people accept that and leave it at that. The other 10% question that verbally or with a frown, then I ad "because I like it too much". Two things happen from this: 1...
by Peter.H.
Thu Dec 31, 2015 11:59 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The obsession and depression
Replies: 6
Views: 2905

Re: The obsession and depression

When I was at work I felt good. Soon as I come home for days off the headaches start the depression, the desire to drink. I have always used booze as my reward. Work is an addiction for me as well. Anyway, come home and just want to turn around and go back to work. Besides the above Mudruck, I am g...
by Peter.H.
Thu Dec 31, 2015 2:22 pm
Forum: Service
Topic: Is this effectively an Intergroup?
Replies: 7
Views: 6918

Re: Is this effectively an Intergroup?

Thanks avaneesh912 for your response. I can see what you are saying. We are hoping that our new AA group will be running workshops on Group level responsibilities. We will be using the Australian AA Group Handbook for that. The workshops will be at a group conscience level. We hope to invite others,...
by Peter.H.
Thu Dec 31, 2015 4:41 am
Forum: Service
Topic: Is this effectively an Intergroup?
Replies: 7
Views: 6918

Re: Is this effectively an Intergroup?

Thanks to your responses. I recently resigned from a CSO co-ordinator position that was, oddly enough, managed by District. It did not take me long to realize that District had other plans for the office other than serve the AA groups that supported the office. Or fulfill its primary purpose of reac...
by Peter.H.
Wed Dec 30, 2015 6:39 pm
Forum: The 12 Traditions of AA
Topic: Tradition 4 & Checklist
Replies: 6
Views: 11079

Re: Tradition 4 & Checklist

I am currently starting a new AA group in my local area. In our town, we do not have a Friday meeting. So a Friday night meeting might help newcomers to avoid relapsing after a week's work. So I wrote a letter of proposal outlining the new meeting time, type, and location. The letter also include Tr...
by Peter.H.
Wed Dec 30, 2015 3:02 pm
Forum: Service
Topic: Is this effectively an Intergroup?
Replies: 7
Views: 6918

Is this effectively an Intergroup?

Hi.
To me, The e-AA Group is effectively an Internet Intergroup, or Central Service Office (CSO). Both's primary purpose is the reach out to the alcoholic who still suffers (non-drinking as well as drinking).
Would I be correct to think this way about the e-AA Group?
by Peter.H.
Wed Aug 27, 2014 7:22 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Doubting God
Replies: 32
Views: 8930

Re: Doubting God

Hello Pete. You sound similar to me. Either I am drunk or not, in AA or not, all or nothing, do or die, lots of black and white and not much grey. Sobriety asks me to live in the grey. I found that AA works because it relies heavily in having a faith in a power greater than myself. This stops me fro...