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by Peter.H.
Fri Apr 10, 2020 3:01 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Can a Person be addicted to AA Meeting.
Replies: 29
Views: 12443

Re: Can a Person be addicted to AA Meeting.

I am addicted to recovery.
by Peter.H.
Wed Apr 01, 2020 1:07 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Putting in more work than the sponsee
Replies: 18
Views: 2099

Re: Putting in more work than the sponsee

Just two pennies worthy to consider.
1. Sponsor have sponsors, so use your sponsor.
2. A goal in recovery is to accept this truth: everybody is totally responsible for their own thoughts and actions.
by Peter.H.
Tue Dec 03, 2019 4:06 am
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: Step 11 Keep it Simple
Replies: 5
Views: 2595

Re: Step 11 Keep it Simple

... Step 11 reads "Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understand Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out"... Most important step if one wants to maintain and grow in recovery. The 12 Step program is about b...
by Peter.H.
Tue Dec 03, 2019 3:57 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Helped sponsee decide that she’s NOT alcoholic
Replies: 11
Views: 2494

Re: Helped sponsee decide that she’s NOT alcoholic

So I had a sponsee who I was taking through the doctors opinion. She’s an older women, 65 or something (I’m 29), not that age has anything to do with, if anything I thought she’d be entirely willing to do this. Anyway, we talked about the allergy and after searching through her many many years of e...
by Peter.H.
Tue Nov 26, 2019 1:09 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: I still wake up guilty
Replies: 4
Views: 1052

Re: I still wake up guilty

...I can't shake the guilt. Perhaps you are describing shame instead of guilt. Guilt is "I made a mistake". Shame is "I am a mistake". Shame occurs after repeatedly making the same mistake without learning how not to repeat it. Shame can also occur when we repeatedly hear from others shaming us, su...
by Peter.H.
Fri Jul 20, 2018 4:01 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Too scared to go to an AA meeting
Replies: 9
Views: 4298

Re: Too scared to go to an AA meeting

...I am 35 years old, I am living in a foreign country, with a shitty job that barely gets me any money and all the money I get from it I spend on booze and dope. I am scared. I don’t have anybody here. No friends, no family. Completely alone. There are AA group meetings in Madrid, I looked it up. ...
by Peter.H.
Fri Jul 20, 2018 3:52 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Reading in Early Recovery
Replies: 9
Views: 3298

Re: Reading in Early Recovery

I’m a few days past 2 months sober. Yay!! Im curious, should I only be reading/studying the Big Book at this time rather than reading different types of recovery/psychology books? And, I have a few daily meditation books. Should I only pick one to focus on? I feel overwhelmed at times. Sometimes I ...
by Peter.H.
Thu Apr 27, 2017 1:30 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: am i a bad sponsor??
Replies: 11
Views: 11239

Re: am i a bad sponsor??

The life of recovery is the opposite to the life of alcoholism. It takes practice to become a recovered person. As an alcoholic, we were bad examples for patience, tolerance, forgiveness, allowance, listening, honesty, and loving unconditionally. All these things require practice and a sponsee provi...
by Peter.H.
Thu Apr 27, 2017 1:14 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Felt like a moron after my share today
Replies: 25
Views: 18016

Re: Felt like a moron after my share today

That was a great share, both here and at the meeting. Advice?! Stay sober and keep sharing. Just be honest and come from your heart. Remember, you are at an AA meeting for YOUR OWN RECOVERY, and not for anybody else. No more people pleasing or glory seeking. We go to meetings to practice honesty, pa...
by Peter.H.
Wed Apr 26, 2017 5:51 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How do I learn to rely on a higher power?
Replies: 15
Views: 8881

Re: How do I learn to rely on a higher power?

Having an extremely hard time learning to rely on a power greater than myself for all my problems. Any suggestions? Today I'm 4 months sober but feel like I've lost contact with my higher power. Seriously consider the Serenity Prayer and what it means. Acceptance and gratitude will be the most impo...
by Peter.H.
Wed Apr 26, 2017 5:34 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: hate speaking in front of groups
Replies: 7
Views: 4328

Re: hate speaking in front of groups

... Any advice on calming me down and speaking from the heart without screwing up and sounding like an idiot ? Thanks ! We in AA admire anybody who shares the truth no matter how it comes out. We in AA know what its like to be fearful. We in AA understand the courage it takes to be willing to go to...
by Peter.H.
Wed Apr 26, 2017 5:22 am
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: What's the point of meetings?
Replies: 36
Views: 22708

Re: What's the point of meetings?

My words in blue Hello, I wanted to throw the question out. What is my role at a meeting? To be honest. What am I doing there? Being honest. What sort of thing am I supposed to share? The truth about your alcoholism, how you got to AA and recovered, and the truth about your life now. A lot of times...
by Peter.H.
Fri Jan 01, 2016 4:31 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Declining drinks and telling people that you are sober
Replies: 15
Views: 9085

Re: Declining drinks and telling people that you are sober

I tend not to find myself in these situations now as my life is far too full/busy to waste my time in bars. At the odd wedding or family get together I merely politely decline as 'normal' people do. On the rare occasion that an insistent idiot perseveres I have no qualms in telling him/her not too ...
by Peter.H.
Fri Jan 01, 2016 1:30 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Declining drinks and telling people that you are sober
Replies: 15
Views: 9085

Re: Declining drinks and telling people that you are sober

With people who knew me as a drinker, I say and do what GreatR said. With people who don't know my past, I say "I don't drink". 90% of people accept that and leave it at that. The other 10% question that verbally or with a frown, then I ad "because I like it too much". Two things happen from this: 1...
by Peter.H.
Thu Dec 31, 2015 11:59 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: The obsession and depression
Replies: 6
Views: 3526

Re: The obsession and depression

When I was at work I felt good. Soon as I come home for days off the headaches start the depression, the desire to drink. I have always used booze as my reward. Work is an addiction for me as well. Anyway, come home and just want to turn around and go back to work. Besides the above Mudruck, I am g...