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by chefchip
Tue Jun 13, 2017 4:01 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: New and in a bad place
Replies: 5
Views: 2794

Re: New and in a bad place

I have tried to quit drinking on my own for the Several years. I have tried. On my own. I can do it myself. I'm strong enough. I'm good enough. All of those statements above were things I told myself for my first 10 years of attempts at sobriety. All they got me was 10 years of attempts at sobriety...
by chefchip
Sat Jun 10, 2017 2:47 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Need help talking to employer
Replies: 7
Views: 3424

Re: Need help talking to employer

Speaking as an employer (who is also an alcoholic, obviously)... As an employer, my employees' lives are "outside issues" unless something in their lives directly impacts my business and their employment. Therefore my policy is to stay out of their personal stuff. Having said that, IF I suspect some...
by chefchip
Sat Jun 10, 2017 1:51 pm
Forum: Guest Book
Topic: Been a while...
Replies: 2
Views: 2511

Been a while...

Greetings, all, A few years ago I was here. Then I left for no particular reason. Now, life has decided to get too crazy for me to attend regular meetings, so I decided to see if I could still sign in here. Amazingly, I can, even after a few years! =wink Anyway, my name is Chip. Still an alcoholic. ...
by chefchip
Tue Oct 06, 2015 1:52 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Jesus and (or vs.) 12 Step's Higher Power contrast ?
Replies: 21
Views: 13136

Re: Jesus and (or vs.) 12 Step's Higher Power contrast ?

I HAVE worked the steps. I've taken the steps. I have found recovery through the steps. And absolutely none of what I have experience required that my soul be saved by any sort of redemptive god, no offense intended. No offense taken and no one had said one's experience had required one's soul bein...
by chefchip
Tue Oct 06, 2015 10:33 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Jesus and (or vs.) 12 Step's Higher Power contrast ?
Replies: 21
Views: 13136

Re: Jesus and (or vs.) 12 Step's Higher Power contrast ?

I was gonig to entirely quote the post just before mine. But the software won't allow it any more. Too many quotes, it seems! :lol: ANYWAY....... First, I do NOT believe that my soul needs saving. I do not believe in a personal, involved god of any kind. I don't believe I am flawed, damned or anythi...
by chefchip
Mon Oct 05, 2015 10:36 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Free at last, free at last!
Replies: 28
Views: 12274

Re: Free at last, free at last!

This would indicate that you are broken. Have you considered that the possibility that you are not broken, but merely the you that you are supposed to be. The question arises from the right fighter side of your personality. We could still state our opinion/experience and not be reactive. and that d...
by chefchip
Sat Oct 03, 2015 6:18 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Free at last, free at last!
Replies: 28
Views: 12274

Re: Free at last, free at last!

Thanks, all. Interesting feedback and thoughts shared from experience. I am told Buddha would remain silent when asked if God exist or not. He knew, people will argue with whatever he says. Reading this resulted in an epiphany, of sorts. Lately, my meditation practice has been very different. Sort o...
by chefchip
Fri Oct 02, 2015 12:29 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Just Help
Replies: 3
Views: 1409

Re: Just Help

Be deeply grateful for your four years. Lick your wounds, but not for too long. Niagra and Tommy gave the only ESH that will work. Either do what you know to do to reclaim your sanity and sobriety, or find someone who knows what to do and do what they say. We are here to help. Glad you came looking....
by chefchip
Fri Oct 02, 2015 12:10 pm
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: Thanks, AA
Replies: 9
Views: 9989

Re: Thanks, AA

Yep. Congrats, man. And thanks for your service, officially and unofficially!
by chefchip
Fri Oct 02, 2015 6:26 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Free at last, free at last!
Replies: 28
Views: 12274

Free at last, free at last!

(With apologies to Martin Luther King...... 8)) About 30 minutes ago, I hit the last confirmation button to delete my Facebook account. I am posting this fact here because it is completely and entirely the fault of AA and The Steps that I have done this. You see.... I have a rather persistent and tr...
by chefchip
Mon Sep 28, 2015 12:36 pm
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: 9 months as of today...9-26-15
Replies: 10
Views: 5859

Re: 9 months as of today...9-26-15

Good for you, Dean. Thanks for sharing your milestone, and for reminding me what is important. It only gets better, man. Keep on doing what you know to do.

Chip
by chefchip
Mon Sep 28, 2015 7:58 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Relapsed
Replies: 29
Views: 8648

Re: Relapsed

I agree re: slip/relapse. That's not important unless one really wants to overthink this. A drink is a drink, especially after we know what we know about our disease. One is too many, a thousand is never enough. I had to change sponsors after a few months into my program. For me, it was because my s...
by chefchip
Mon Sep 28, 2015 6:57 am
Forum: But We Aren't a Glum Lot ...
Topic: I'm afraid of my newly found joy & happiness!
Replies: 17
Views: 13471

Re: I'm afraid of my newly found joy & happiness!

First, I'm not a believer in the pink cloud either. Where in the world do we come up with this stuff?!?!?! :lol: It exists. In early sobriety I once woke up on a MONDAY MORNING and went outside to smoke (by the bins) and everything just was and looked AMAZING. Really, and this was a Monday MORNING....
by chefchip
Thu Sep 24, 2015 6:10 am
Forum: But We Aren't a Glum Lot ...
Topic: I'm afraid of my newly found joy & happiness!
Replies: 17
Views: 13471

Re: I'm afraid of my newly found joy & happiness!

First, I'm not a believer in the pink cloud either. Where in the world do we come up with this stuff?!?!?! :lol: Anyway, I'm an alcoholic. For me, part of being an alcoholic is a tendency to always view the world with suspicion, and fear, and cynicism. Happy people piss me off. People for whom the g...
by chefchip
Thu Sep 24, 2015 5:43 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Considering Eliminating AA Meetings . . . Thoughts?
Replies: 64
Views: 22057

Re: Considering Eliminating AA Meetings . . . Thoughts?

Sometimes, I read responses to questions like these here on e-AA and I marvel at how much we seem to think alike. It's fascinating, and encouraging. My first thoughts were similar to those already expressed. Now that I have found recovery, and relief from my personal obsession, my attendance at meet...