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by seed1234
Wed Apr 17, 2013 6:57 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Sobriety Fantasy
Replies: 3
Views: 2410

Sobriety Fantasy

When I was drinking I had this fantasy that if I could quit all my problems would go away....I just needed to quit drinking! 7 months sober and BAM the realization that was indeed a "fantasy"! All my problems are still here, even have some new ones. So why did I quit drinking? Oh, I remember now, my...
by seed1234
Fri Apr 12, 2013 5:22 pm
Forum: The Home Group
Topic: A strange Third Tradition case...
Replies: 21
Views: 19164

Re: A strange Third Tradition case...

Big Flags going off in my head about this situation. Mostly because of the newcomers! I was a newcomer just 7 short months ago and if that guy would have talked to be at any length about getting sober (longer than 5 minutes) and nobody told me his situation I would have been mad as hell and would ha...
by seed1234
Mon Mar 18, 2013 9:41 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Step 7 and feeling anger and rebellion!
Replies: 8
Views: 2371

Re: Step 7 and feeling anger and rebellion!

Thanks all. Good feedback for me. I never realized how selfish and self centered I am! I want my way NOW! Really embarassing at the least and deadly if not kept in check. I can FEEL that deadliness, like fire in my gut! 12 & 12 says it all.....Living upon a basis of unsatisfied demands, we were in a...
by seed1234
Mon Mar 18, 2013 5:24 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Step 7 and feeling anger and rebellion!
Replies: 8
Views: 2371

Re: Step 7 and feeling anger and rebellion!

Thanks, Ed! No, I never mention Alanon or what he needs to do (since I got sober). I focus on my defects and try to clean up my own messes. Sometimes that takes me more time that he'd like and he feels punished if I'm being quiet and withdrawn. But I'm not punishing him and tell him that....I'm proc...
by seed1234
Mon Mar 18, 2013 4:24 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Step 7 and feeling anger and rebellion!
Replies: 8
Views: 2371

Step 7 and feeling anger and rebellion!

OMG! I thought I was going to die.... (drama, right?) I can't even look at my partner without feeling anger. We had a tiff. My feelings were hurt and I was miserable. I apolgized and owned my defect, kept it all about what I did wrong and didn't get the response I thought I deserved. Selfish, right?...
by seed1234
Fri Mar 01, 2013 2:37 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Today is Overwhelming-Help
Replies: 55
Views: 18328

Re: Today is Overwhelming-Help

Hanna......thanks for sharing your journey. It was great to read and see your progress! It's 1am and I can't sleep so thought I'd check out the forum and glad I did. I have 5 months sobriety and you should see my home office......full of piles, boxes, things I need to take care of but just don't see...
by seed1234
Wed Feb 27, 2013 3:50 pm
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Statements I cant relate
Replies: 52
Views: 7233

Re: Statements I cant relate

Thanks Ed....good observation! I'm glad we have a place to go....we have a solution and it's nothing short of a miracle. I'm just a baby but I'm amazed that I don't live my life in a bottle anymore. 5 short months ago I would have bet against my chances of sobriety. God's grace provided a window of ...
by seed1234
Mon Feb 25, 2013 8:39 am
Forum: Discussions
Topic: Statements I cant relate
Replies: 52
Views: 7233

Re: Statements I cant relate

An alcoholic CAN't STOP! That's the insanity of the disease. No amount of will power, self knowlege, self discipline, love for others or ourselves can save us. Lack of power is our dilema! If we could, we would stop....we love our families! Thank God for A.A. We are introduced to the solution and it...
by seed1234
Tue Jan 29, 2013 9:37 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Huge age difference with Sponser
Replies: 13
Views: 6617

Re: Huge age difference with Sponser

Just wanted to touch base and report my meeting with my sponser re: my 4th step was awesome! Age meant nothing. My sponsor is spiritually fit and was able to point out my defects easily. I was amazed because I COULD NOT SEE THEM AT ALL! But what was said opened my eyes and my soul to my truth and I ...
by seed1234
Sun Jan 13, 2013 8:25 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: 61 Days and scared of relapse
Replies: 20
Views: 2813

Re: 61 Days and scared of relapse

Welcome Marine! With all you're going thru and the fact that you haven't relapsed is a miracle in itself. You are obviously willing to go to any length and are ready......in my limited experience (only 4 month sober) that will help keep you sober! Your higher power is at work in your life, that is o...
by seed1234
Thu Jan 10, 2013 7:23 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Huge age difference with Sponser
Replies: 13
Views: 6617

Re: Huge age difference with Sponser

This discussion has helped me work thru my own issues. Learning more about what step 4 is and what it isn't helped alot! My ability to relate to my sponsor is based on our shared disease and how to overcome it not on the life experiences I've had. Our issues will likely be quite similar regarding al...
by seed1234
Wed Jan 09, 2013 6:56 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Huge age difference with Sponser
Replies: 13
Views: 6617

Re: Huge age difference with Sponser

Good advice, Tommy. Met with my sponsor last night and I'm moving forward with step 4.
by seed1234
Mon Jan 07, 2013 8:14 am
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Huge age difference with Sponser
Replies: 13
Views: 6617

Re: Huge age difference with Sponser

Thanks all for the good comments. I'm going to continue to pray and trust that a new sponsor will be available if that's God's will. My main concern is my sponsor's ability to relate to my life experience. But the main point is our common disease which I have full confidence in that area. Maybe I'm ...
by seed1234
Sun Jan 06, 2013 2:40 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Huge age difference with Sponser
Replies: 13
Views: 6617

Huge age difference with Sponser

I had a very limited selection and made my decision based on other's recommendations. My sponser has less than 2 years sobriety and is about 30 years younger than me. It has been ok for the first 3 steps but I did have some issues with some things. I'm suppose to call at a specific time everyday and...