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by becksdad
Mon Oct 07, 2013 7:27 pm
Forum: A.A. Birthdays!
Topic: October AA Birthdays
Replies: 18
Views: 9544

Re: October AA Birthdays

Congratulations on 11 years, Gary! Thank you for sharing this with us! So glad you are here with us...

Ed
by becksdad
Sun Oct 06, 2013 11:08 am
Forum: The Family Afterwards
Topic: Co Depandancy?
Replies: 9
Views: 8956

Re: Co Depandancy?

There must be something universally applicable to beginning recovery for alcoholics and relationships. It is so common for those not in relationships wanting to get one right away, and for those in relationships to want to break it off. I fell into the latter category in earliest recovery. What ulti...
by becksdad
Sun Oct 06, 2013 9:04 am
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: smoking pot in aa
Replies: 4
Views: 1668

Re: smoking pot in aa

Hi Lois! Thanks for posting, and welcome to the forums! I suspect most of us here won't offer an opinion on marijuana itself, and for myself I don't judge this for anyone else one way or the other. However.... there is something you mentioned in your post that is very important from my experience in...
by becksdad
Sat Oct 05, 2013 9:52 am
Forum: But We Aren't a Glum Lot ...
Topic: This is probably not appropriate...
Replies: 10
Views: 6770

Re: This is probably not appropriate...

Good one, Tosh!! :lol: .... of course, being a US citizen it gave me a resemblement.!!

Ed
by becksdad
Mon Sep 30, 2013 3:35 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: On step 4 but struggling with steps 2- 3 feels like a lie :(
Replies: 24
Views: 11402

Re: On step 4 but struggling with steps 2- 3 feels like a li

Hi kells, thank you for posting. I see much of myself and struggling over the years in what you shared. Honestly, from my own experience, it seems like the problem isn't the 4th step. Or the 2nd or 3rd, either. I say this because my greatest struggle was the first step. I fully believe that without ...
by becksdad
Fri Sep 27, 2013 2:15 pm
Forum: If It Doesn't Fit Anywhere Else
Topic: Life after sobriety
Replies: 2
Views: 2282

Re: Life after sobriety

Hi JW, my name is Ed, and I am an alcoholic. One of the gifts recovery has brought me is the ability to identify with just about every drunk I've ever met, and I can identify with some things in your post as well. For many years I equated abstinence from alcohol as recovery, and that just is not tru...
by becksdad
Wed Sep 25, 2013 6:39 pm
Forum: The 12 Steps
Topic: fear of 4th and 5th step
Replies: 23
Views: 15201

Re: fear of 4th and 5th step

Really nice post, Mike. Thank you...
by becksdad
Tue Sep 24, 2013 4:13 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Need help
Replies: 43
Views: 7187

Re: Need help

Hi angelad, my name is Ed, and I'm an alcoholic. The short answer as to "why?" is that you must be an alcoholic, too. It took a really long time for me to arrive at the conclusion that I was completely hopeless when it came to getting sober. I did what you are doing over and over and over. It is tru...
by becksdad
Tue Sep 24, 2013 1:07 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hasn't been working...
Replies: 22
Views: 3733

Re: Hasn't been working...

There is always reason to read the literature, and much to be gleaned. But please don't confuse reading with doing. It's the doing that works, and opens the literature to new insights. Which then leads to more doing. I absolutely, positively, without a doubt made no progress in recovery until I work...
by becksdad
Tue Sep 24, 2013 7:41 am
Forum: Our Friends and Families
Topic: Intervention
Replies: 1
Views: 2048

Re: Intervention

Sophie, thank you for posting. Your letter touched me, as I have a daughter a few years older than you, and she lived through my alcoholism, too. I do not know if the letter you wrote to your Mum will help her or not, but I suspect it may be the beginning of helping you. I encourage you to contact a...
by becksdad
Tue Sep 24, 2013 7:23 am
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Hasn't been working...
Replies: 22
Views: 3733

Re: Hasn't been working...

Hey Chris! My sponsor didn't call me for a long time, either. I had to call him. And I think there is a principle involved here in that my sponsor never pursued recovery for me. I needed to go after it myself. Sponse has always been there to share with me, but I had to invite him. Not once did he in...
by becksdad
Thu Sep 19, 2013 7:33 pm
Forum: Sponsorship
Topic: Looking for sponsor
Replies: 6
Views: 4025

Re: Looking for sponsor

Hi soberisliving, welcome here! Have you been to any AA meetings yet? Meetings were very important to me in the beginning, and actually just as, if not more important to me today, a few years into recovery. You will meet many sober alcoholics in meetings, folks who have found a way up and out of the...
by becksdad
Thu Sep 19, 2013 5:03 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Need Help- First time here
Replies: 7
Views: 1064

Re: Need Help- First time here

Hey, Mike, welcome! Glad you found us here. Some of your story I relate very much to.... I was a chronic relapser for a long time. When at the end, nothing else mattered much except for finding a way to not drink, which I also couldn't manage on my own. So I finally became willing to go back to AA w...
by becksdad
Wed Sep 18, 2013 5:17 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: Dont know if i am an alcoholic?!!!
Replies: 74
Views: 11282

Re: Dont know if i am an alcoholic?!!!

Wouldn't it be nice to watch those advertisements and have about the same reaction as if they were selling raisins? :D

That's part of the result of AA's 12 steps!
by becksdad
Tue Sep 17, 2013 3:43 pm
Forum: For the Newcomer
Topic: How do you know if your ready?
Replies: 16
Views: 2819

Re: How do you know if your ready?

Hi Hopefuldreamer. Welcome, I am glad you found us here, and I very much appreciate your post. You said some things that I identify with strongly, and had a big part of me becoming willing to recover. Something that really reminded me of me is..... I think it's my entire life that is wrong. All the ...