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Aug 22

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Taken from the 4th edition of the book Alcoholics Anonymous, copyrighted by AA World Services Inc. and used with permission. 

Chapter - 5 --- HOW IT WORKS (continues)

Pages: 64 - 66

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Resentment is the "number one" offender. It destroys more alcoholics than anything else. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been not only mentally and physically ill, we have been spiritually sick. When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically. In dealing with resentments, we set them on paper.  

We listed people, institutions or principles with whom we were angry. We asked ourselves why we were angry. In most cases it was found that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal relationships (including sex) were hurt or threatened. So we were sore. We were "burned up."

On our grudge list we set opposite each name our injuries. Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex relations, which had been interfered with?

We were usually as definite as this example:

We were usually as definite as this example:

I'm resentful at:            The Cause:                               Affects my:

Mr. Brown                   His attention to my wife             Sex relations                                                                                                                                           Self-esteem (fear)                                                               Told my wife of my mistress            Sex relations                                                                                                                      Self-esteem (fear)                               Brown may get my job at the office     Security                                                                                                                           Self-esteem (fear)

Mrs. Jones                   She’s a nut                                  Personal relationship                            She snubbed me.                                Self-esteem                           Committed her husband  for drinking                                                                              He's my friend    -- She's a gossip                   (fear)

My employer    Unreasonable -- Unjust                Self-esteem                                                                                Overbearing --                          Security. Threatens to fire me for my drinking and padding my expense account.

 My wife     Misunderstands and Nags                                  Pride -- Personal                                                       Likes Brown.                                            Sex relations                                          Wants house put in her name                              Security (fear)

We went back through our lives. Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty. When we were finished we considered it carefully. The first thing apparent was that this world and its people were often quite wrong. To conclude that others were wrong was as far as most of us ever got.  

The usual outcome was that people continued to wrong us and we stayed sore. Sometimes it was remorse and then we were sore at ourselves. But the more we fought and tried to have our own way, the worse matters got. As in war, the victor only seemed to win. Our moments of triumph were short-lived.


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